Shining Love in the Face of Hate

I don’t usually post about mass shootings. Words and reports are already everywhere, what could I have to say that isn’t being said a million ways?

But our human community is hurting so very much. 50 people dead in Orlando this week because of hate. Hundreds more lives destroyed in the face of death and loss. My heart is breaking for the family of those killed because of hate.


It’s so easy to meet hate with hate. I feel it in me now. Hate, anger, and a desire for vengeance.

This mass shooting in Orlando comes on the heals of a young man receiving only 6 months after raping a young woman…. More anger. More hate.

While a young Dutch woman sits in jail in Qatar because she was raped… More anger. More hate.

But I know, because history tells us so clearly, that acting out in a hateful way in the face of hate leads to more damage, more violence.

So today we try to dig deep and shine LOVE in the face of hate. Try and reach across the aisle and meet our enemy with love and fierce compassion even when the hate burns so bright.

How can we transform the world into a safer, more loving place with more hate? It won’t work.

Love. Love for self. Love for others. Fierce, burning, unrelenting love.

It’s the only way forward. Today I will shine my love in the face of hate.

Sending my love out to you and yours,


Getting out of 3rd gear (or how I eat for energy)

My least favorite state of being is exhausted, wiped out, tired…running in third gear.

It feels like a low-grade depression, live isn’t fun, and sugar and caffeine cravings rear up as my body’s not-really-helpful quick-fix bandaid.

Readers ask me all the time how they can improve their energy when they’re stuck in a cycle of coffee addiction, bad sleep, and long days.

A life filled with balanced energy begins with the fuel you use, sweet ones: what you eat.

It’s true: no amount of high-energy exercise, meditation, or even caffeine can replace the foundation of good food that’s necessary for true, lasting energy.

(It’s hard to believe, but I LIVED on double shot, skinny vanilla lattes and chocolate croissants in my mid-20s…that lead to worsening energy AND a major health crisis! )

Today I want to share a beautiful book, filled with recipes that will help you easily reach and maintain the levels of energy you desire.

My friend Yuri Elkaim’s All-Day Energy Diet Community Cookbook is out, and he’s offering the book for shipping and handling only (about $10) – but only until the first 30,000 copies are available:


With 67 energizing (and Cravings Cleanse approved!) recipes, colorful pictures, and easy-to-cook-from design, I know you’ll be inspired to cook more.

You should know that Yuri is one of the most respected health experts in my field: he consistently offers deep, useful inspiration for eating and moving in ways that truly heal our bodies. I’ve had a great time hanging out with him in the past, and his energy is always the best in the room, even without caffeine!

This cookbook brings together 67 of Yuri’s best recipes along with delicious, “brush your teeth” simple recipes from many other leaders in the food and nutrition industry like JJ Virgin, Ben Greenfield, Tana Amen, myself, and many others…

Hence the name “community cookbook”.

The best part is that Yuri’s tasty recipes will help you drop bloat, pounds, feel great, and give you more energy, all while enjoying GOOD food.


I think you’ll really enjoy this cookbook, and believe in the project enough to put my name, face, and recipes inside!

But you should hurry because once the limited number of FREE copies are gone, it will only be available for $21 on Amazon.


Get a FREE copy the All-Day Energy Diet Community Cookbook here

Happy cooking!



Pay What You Can Weekend! A Bundle Of Joy…and Health!

I’ve been hearing from a lot of you that you’d like a simple, inexpensive way to get moving in your health and self-love goals.

I want everyone to get as much inspiration, good resources, and great recipes to help you move forward, no matter what your current financial situation.

So this weekend, for 72-hours, I’ve put together a bundle of popular, helpful resources from my paid programs and you… pay what you can.
It’s that simple!

For the next 3 days, until 11:59pm ET on Sunday night,
I’m offering over $160 in e-books, recipes and cookbooks,
guided meditations and workbooks for $5, $20, $50, or $100..

You pay what you can – just pick your price, what feels good to you, you get it all.
Here’s a look at all the great stuff you’ll get:

pay what you can bundle

Just click the price you CAN pay below,
and you’ll get instant access to your products:

Click here to pay $5:
Click here to pay $20:
Click here to pay $50:
Click here to pay $100 for $160 worth of goodies:


(This is the first time we’ve done something like this, so we’ll see how it goes –
It may be the only time we ever offer it, depending on how it’s received!)

Sending tons of love and healthy vibes your way!

68 Pleasure at Any Size: Woman On Fire with Amy Jo Goddard

Amy Jo Goddard on The Cravings Whisperer with Alexandra Jamieson

The Cravings Whisperer Podcast with Alexandra Jamieson

Well crave bears, it’s here: the final episode of 2015! To help us all relax and enjoy the last bits of this year, I’ve created a new challenge, 7 Days of Playful Pleasure, where we’ll focus on one thing you can do every day to feel grounded, whole, and joyful in your body and your life. This is about ending the year feeling GOOD! If you aren’t ready for the challenge but want to join this great community, you can also join the Facebook group! Experience over 1,500 women hanging out, supporting each other, asking questions, and getting inspiration on how to come to terms with and have a better relationship with desire, their bodies, pleasure, food, and cravings.

Now, on today’s show, where I’m talking to Amy Jo Goddard, author of Woman on Fire, one of the books on my top ten books for mind and body healing this year. Now, you may have noticed over the last few months that I’ve been talking to more sexual health experts. That’s because I believe that a lot of our frustrations with our bodies and weight and body image are connected to our sexuality. More and more I think we need to look to sexual expression and pleasure to get in the right metabolic state so we can feel good in and about our bodies even before we lose a single pound.

So today I’m talking to Amy about sexuality, sexual health, and the connection between that and food, nutrition, and cravings. Amy is a renowned sexual empowerment expert, speaker, and coauthor of the popular Lesbian Sex Secrets for Men. She has dedicated her life to sexuality education and empowerment. Her workshops, sessions, and speaking engagements have helped thousands of people discover their sexuality and deepen their relationships and fulfillment.

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“When we have those empowered experiences where we feel a sense of sexual agency, that affects everything.” -Amy Jo Goddard (Click to Tweet)

Show Notes:

  • How she became a sex educator
  • How her work work as a feminist activist fueled her work
  • Why it’s so hard for people to get the sex education they need
  • The effect of the media on our ideas of sexuality
  • The relationship between an empowered sexual experience and the health of the human body
  • How important it is to understand this complex part of ourselves
  • The value of writing down your sexual history
  • Why you should share your sexual story

“If we are at war with this vehicle of pleasure, then of course it’s no wonder we’re not having as much pleasure as we want.” -Amy Jo Goddard (Click to Tweet)

  • Why body acceptance is an important part of sexual pleasure
  • Why you have to stay curious about your body
  • How much energy women spend fighting against their own bodies
  • Why she’s on a strict media diet
  • Why people feel like they need permission
  • The different kinds of confidence
  • How she encourages people to connect with the lover inside themselves
  • Why she craves downtime and quiet

“If you stay in isolation with your story, with the thing that’s bringing you shame, that’s how shame grows and keeps proliferating.” -Amy Jo Goddard (Click to Tweet)

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“As soon as you think you know everything about your partner and you stop being curious and you stop asking questions, the relationship is over.” -Amy Jo Goddard (Click to Tweet)

Take Care of YOU First: Real Talk From Hollywood Mom, Jada

As a mother, entrepreneur, (new) wife, and woman-with-her-own-dreams, I often struggle with keeping all the plates spinning…and the thing that normally drops in the day-to-day is my own self-care.

I struggle with being happy when things (and myself) aren’t perfect.

Here’s a recent stream of thought that drove me crazy:

“I should get on that school fundraiser email…I didn’t follow up with that client!…I haven’t been to my trainer in 2 weeks…Those presents need to be wrapped…I haven’t saved enough in my IRA this year…I had some dairy yesterday!…I should take my friend out for her birthday this week…I’m a terrible friend!…I’m the worst at sales…I need to redo my website…”

It’s insane, isn’t it??

Today’s modern woman, and not a few cool dudes, are held back from giving ourselves what we really need by guilt. We love the idea of nourishing our lives and bodies with daily baths and pleasure playdates with our friends, but something keeps us from following through on a regular basis.

It isn’t just that we feel guilty taking care of ourselves:

we feel, deep down, that setting aside time to meet our own needs – even having needs – is a sign of weakness or failure. We see it as a sign of imperfection in a world that demands nothing less than perfection.

Admitting that you need to work on something is acknowledging a failure and that is really, really hard to do.

Today, I want you to watch Jada Pinkett Smith, the actress, singer, and mother, on how she views this mess we are in. Her thoughts really inspired me, and I hope they inspire you, too:

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67 Women’s Sexual Health: She Comes First

Ian Kerner on The Cravings Whisperer with Alexandra Jamieson

The Cravings Whisperer Podcast with Alexandra Jamieson

Today’s show deals with some rather explicit material, but for good reason! I’m talking to sex therapist Ian Kerner, author of She Comes First, a New York Times best seller. Ian and I are discussing some of the most common yet hard to talk about problems that women have when it comes to sex, namely getting your partner to focus on YOU.

Now, you may be wondering why I talk about sex so much on a podcast about women’s health and cravings. I do it because sex has so much to do with these subjects! A lot of women feel nervous about sex, like sex is dangerous. It’s hard to grow up with a healthy sense of sexual self in this culture, and I want to do what I can to break down the barriers around it. Because when sex is dangerous, food becomes our safe sex, and we just can’t win.

My goal is to make it safe for women to explore their sexuality. We have to reclaim our bodies for ourselves, to own our curiosity about sex, and learn how to have those challenging conversations about what we want. Food and sex should be two of the best things about being a human! But they’ve both been branded as dangerous for women. Well we want both.

If you want to have one of your questions answered on the show, head over to the blog and you’ll see a little microphone that says “Send Voicemail.” Just click it, leave your message, and I might use your voice and question on an upcoming episode of the Crave Cast!

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“Oral sex or manual stimulation of the clitoris is a much shorter and easier path to orgasm than intercourse.”  (Click to Tweet)

Show Notes:

  • What is intercourse discourse
  • Why he used to feel like a sexual cripple
  • How She Comes First is a manifest for lovemaking
  • The vulnerability of receiving cunnilingus
  • Where did the “ick factor” surrounding female genitalia come from
  • The importance of communication around sex
  • The clitoris has 18 parts!
  • Why you should google image search the entire clitoral system
  • What are coreplay and outercourse
  • Methods that can be used as foreplay

“It really comes back to the fact that men and women, partners, don’t really communicate too well about sex.”  (Click to Tweet)

  • The value of finding an erotic vocabulary to use with your partner
  • The importance of context in sex
  • Why arousal is more important than desire when it comes to sex
  • Why you have to think about the order of sexual activities
  • Why he’s a little skeptical of kegel exercises
  • Why you should be practicing masturbation
  • Why women should stop faking orgasms!
  • How to deal with kids asking questions about sex
  • How to give your partner She Comes First

“As humans, we have so much capacity to take in erotic stimulation.”  (Click to Tweet)

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“Sex really doesn’t begin with desire, it begins with arousal.”  (Click to Tweet)

5 Ways to Master Your Inner Critic [AKA “Bitch Brain”]

Your brain can cause your body’s cravings. 
The four root causes of cravings are bacterial, nutritional, emotional, and physical. (But most experts and diet books don’t talk about the emotions of food, do they?)

Today I want to talk about one of the most common forms of emotional craving:
the frustration and fear caused by the inner critic.

I’ve been interviewing health coaches who want to grow their business as they heal their own health concerns, and I’m hearing a lot of “bitch brain” issues. This is a term I created while writing Women, Food, and Desire, and it struck a chord with many readers…

5 ways to handle your

Bitch Brain is a way I describe your inner critic – the voice that stops you from taking risks, speaking your truth, and gets in the way of your desires.

Women often grapple with self-confidence and doubt because we are connected to our life’s desires, and expose ourselves to the fear and failure of going after what we truly want.

Here’s how the Bitch Brain, or inner critic, or “BB” for short, messes with your life:

…you want to create your own business, but the bitch brain (AKA inner critic) tells us we don’t have enough experience…and eat more sugar to handle the frustration induced exhaustion.

…you dream about helping others with your health coaching knowledge, but the inner critic says “you still have your own health problems, how could you help someone else?”…and you end up overeating at night to try and silence the discomfort.

…you have an old voice from your mother that repeats about how a nice girl should act, and it keeps you from daring to ask for more or demand justice…and you drink a few glasses of wine every night to try and relax.

…you know you have a purpose in life, and have tried lots of educational programs or read all the self-help books, but your inner critic tells you “why bother?” so often you feel totally bummed out and confused about what to do next…so you keep eating the foods that keep your energy low and mind fuzzy because, again, “why bother?”

The inner critic can be deadly.
It can rob you of your vitality and resilience.

And the bitch brain can be handled. But only with love and awareness.

Here are 5 things you must know to handle the inner critic:


  1. The inner critic is not you. It is thoughts about you, but it is not who you actually are. You may have internalized other people’s voices from such a young age that it’s hard to tell the difference between them and you.
  2. See it and say it. To separate yourself from your bitch brain, you must become aware of it and label what you hear. It’s pretty simple. Say to yourself, or declare to a trusted friend, “I hear my inner critic right now and it’s saying ____.” When you say it out loud and label it,  you can start to see the repetitive, inaccurate nature of the criticism.
  3. Identify a good reason for the criticism. When you start to hear the critic, bitching away again, step back and ask it, “What are you trying to protect me from right now? What are you afraid might happen if I do this thing I want to do?” The answer is usually the same: fear of failure, losing love or respect, fear of attack or embarrassment. Once you see the reasons for the critic acting up, you can say, with genuine care, “Thank you for trying to protect me. I hear you.” We must love our inner critic otherwise we get stuck in a war with ourselves, which never ends well. Calming the voice with love is super important because…
  4. The Bitch Brain is hurting your body. When the inner critic causes a release of stress hormones in the body, we end up in a state of health disarray. Stress keeps weight on, especially around the middle belly, causes adrenal exhaustion, sleep trouble, and ages you faster. In the face of all that, #5 is even more important!
  5. Laugh it off. Survivors in life-threatening situations all have one thing in common: a sense of humor. Humor is a good strategy to help you find what is ridiculous. Your inner critic might say “Don’t offer your health coaching services! They might find out you eat chocolate every night and then you’ll be called a liar and end up penniless and alone under a bridge!” Really, BB? If people find out I eat chocolate I’ll end up alone, penniless and under a bridge? Chill out!”


Give your BB some space to be heard.

Spend 10 minutes writing out your thoughts to these questions and see how much more calm you feel:


What does your BB/inner critic say when you want to speak up about an injustice or problem at work or in the home?

What does your BB/inner critic say about a career choice you dream about making?

What does our BB/inner critic say when you want to dress up? When you pass by a mirror? When you want to try a new class? When you want to travel? When you want to ask for a date? For sex? For a vacation? For time alone? For time together?

Use the 5 insights to help you calm your BB.
Know that you are wired for the inner critic, that you’re not crazy, wrong, or bad…that your very human brain is trying to keep you safe.

Then thank it, and keep moving forward.

66 Can Mind-Body Medicine Work for You?

Mind-Body Medicine on The Cravings Whisperer with Alexandra Jamieson

The Cravings Whisperer Podcast with Alexandra Jamieson

Today I’m talking about mind-body medicine, which is really using the relationship between your mind and your body, using the power of your thoughts and emotions to influence your physical health. The key to any mind-body technique is to train the mind to focus on the body without distraction OR judgment, which is a big one for us ladies!

I talk about this a lot in terms of cravings, right? How can we focus our mind on our body to really tune in and listen to our cravings and understand what they’re really asking for?

My guests today are Grace Smith and Jovanka Ciares, the creators of Mind-Body Academy. Both of these women specialize in different aspects of mind-body practice – Grace is all about stress relief, and Jovanka specializes in nutrition, herbalism, and alternative therapies.

As you’re listening to today’s episode, I want you to really think about whether you think mind-body medicine works, and if you think it could help you.

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“The truth is our habits and our beliefs live in a completely different part than what actually takes in information.” – Grace Smith (Click to Tweet)

Show Notes:

  • Why women have trouble making changes
  • How we can access our habits and beliefs
  • Why one thing won’t work for every person
  • Why we have to approach making changes with compassion
  • Why hypnotherapy works.
  • Why Grace decided to bring stress relief to the masses
  • Why Jovanka left her high powered job to promote alternative health practices
  • Why these two ladies started working together

“The reason why hypnotherapy works is because it removes stress from your body before it tries to make a change.” – Grace Smith (Click to Tweet)

  • What are their seven steps to help you meet your goals
  • Why it’s so hard to create new habits
  • Why healthy living is a journey, not a destination
  • What is guided meditation
  • Do a guided meditation with Grace
  • How Jovanka helps people learn to listen to their body
  • Why you have to invest in yourself
  • How you can learn these seven steps

“This body that you were gifted with is like a five star hotel, it’s like a luxury vehicle, and it should be treated as such.” – Jovanka Ciares (Click to Tweet)

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“We take that state of relaxation into the process of preparing your food and eating.” – Jovanka Ciares (Click to Tweet)


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