8 Ways to be the BEST Partner When Your Love is on a Cleanse…(or Diet, or Detox)

This guest post was written by Bob Gower, my amazing partner in life.

But MAN, I wish I’d known all this back when I helped create Super Size Me!!

I’m always amazed at how good he is at anticipating my needs and moods when I’m doing a cleanse or detox, which I realize comes from his many years of self-experiment! 

Having a support person you can call on to help you through any food change, including the Cravings Cleanse, is one of the best ways to succeed – and I hope you’ll share this with anyone close to you as your begin your next cleanse. 

Bob has mastered the art of supporting me through dietary changes, and has some words of wisdom to share with anyone who is partnered up with someone who wants to begin their own cleanse journey.

Within the first year of knowing, and loving, Alex she supported me in changing my diet, writing a book, and recovering from major surgery. And I supported her in a few things as well like launching a website, being a mom, and redefining her business.

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What I’ve learned from being with her is that while relationships may start with passion and friendship, they grow, and are sustained by, mutual support. We love each other by helping each other be the best we can be.

I should add here that this does not mean we point out where people fall short, or define what “best” means for our partner. Rather we let them define their own vision and then do what we can to help them get it.

And, if you’re like me, you fall short over and over again. You get caught up in the day to day of your life, your needs, your stresses and forget to take your partners stresses and ambitions seriously enough. This is natural and human—and it’s something to work on.

What I’ve learned from my own dietary experiments and those of my partner is that while they can have a hugely transformative effect on your life these changes can take a toll on our lives. In fact I’m sure that one of the most challenging things anyone can do is make a change to what they eat and how they eat.

Eating is primal and deeply related to our survival. And changes or limitations can show up unconsciously or consciously as a profound threat. So it’s during these times of change that support from a partner can go a very long way to helping us reach our goals.

If you have a partner who is doing a cleanse, trying to lose weight, break an addiction—or perhaps all three at once—you can be their biggest cheerleader, support, and ultimately, their hero.

1. Get Empathetic

The first step to helping is to understand what they are doing and why. Get curious about her goals for the cleanse and also what the program entails. What foods will she be avoiding and for how long.

Understanding her plan is a good first step, but to really help you’ll want to go even deeper. Ask her about her intentions for the cleanse and what she hopes to get out of it. Ask her about her concerns and what scares her.

And also ask about her desires. If this were to be the amazing experience she hopes it will be what will change and what she’ll experience.

2. Ask “what do you need from me?”

Look at your calendars and the events you have planned. Dinner with friends, parties, family visits and ask how you can support her. Also ask what foods you can keep out of the house to help avoid temptation.

While you might consider joining her on some of the cleanse this isn’t really necessary. But it can be incredibly helpful for you to consume forbidden foods when she’s not around and to keep them out of the house altogether.

3. Outsource to save her/his/your energy & moods

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Cleanses and diets usually mean less energy. Her brain will likely have less glucose to work with and it’s glucose that helps us make decisions, do housework, and yes even regulate our emotions.

Help her conserve energy by offloading some tedious tasks like cleaning house, shopping, and some child care. Take over for her when you can and even get some outside, temporary help if you can afford it. Services like Taskrabbit, Handybook, Fancyhands, and Instacart* are great for times like these.

(*note from Alex: I’ve used all of these services myself to help me stick with my healthy eating goals by saving time, getting what I need to keep a wide variety of healthy food on hand, and save precious energy and willpower)

Also consider taking over some decisions—only with her blessing of course—since choice is not always a plus when you’re feeling depleted. “Hey honey tonight I’m going to handle dinner, we’ll watch a movie, then I’ll put the kids to bed.” These words can sound like heaven when you’re tired and worn out.

4. Know her self-worth is wrapped up in succeeding.

We don’t do cleanses unless we want to change something about ourselves. This often means something about how we look—weight, skin etc—and how we feel—energy, mood and more.

A big part of these changes is often how attractive we feel to our partner. But here’s the cruel irony: in order to feel and look better over the long term we have to go through times when we feel less energetic and less attractive. Things often get worse before they get better.

So keep in mind that 1) she wants to look and feel good for you and 2) while she’s on the cleanse she may actually feel like she’s looking and feeling worse than usual. And this means her self-worth may feel challenged.

A few words from you can go a long way at times like these. Express your love and attraction more than you usually do. And don’t forget the physical expressions of love and desire like flowers, back rubs, and kisses.

5. Know that mindset is half the battle

Change is hard but remember that this program she’s on is temporary and trust that things are going to get to a better place. And remind her of this, too.

But also know that her changes will lead to deeper and more permanent changes for her, you and your family if you have one. Be willing to step into that new life with her and also willing to look at and deal with your own fears of change.

Are you afraid she might want to take away your pie or beer? Talk about how her changes might lead to your own changes and what this means for you.

6. Love her up

I kind of covered this in the section on self-worth but it deserves it’s own section. When she’s struggling with one aspect of her body like diet it’s incredibly helpful for her to feel positive things deeply. If she’s complaining or feeling lousy don’t try to talk her out of it. Love her out of it.

Try things like extra physical contact like hand holding, foot massage, and even more special kinds of touch *wink wink nudge nudge*.

Treat it like valentines day (sans chocolate) and treat her to massages and bath time. She may be experiencing a lot of physical and emotional discomfort – step up and help provide the pleasure she can experience in her body and life.

This may be as simple as taking over the child care for an afternoon and giving her the opportunity to do nice things for herself like a bath, pedicure, or even a nap.

7. Intend support

This last one can be the most challenging. She’s changing and feeling down but let’s face it — your life isn’t easy either and you still have the same demands from job, and family. It’s not always easy to not want to lean on her the way you’re used to and the way you have a right too. Good couples support each other after all.

She may also have mood swings and be a bit harder to be around at times during a cleanse. Do your best not to fight and not to nag. And if she is being especially difficult you might ask gently if she needs to eat something (from Alex’s Cleanse approved list of course) since cleanse foods tend to burn a lot faster than “regular” food and she’ll be depleted faster than she anticipated.

8. Celebrate Success

And lastly when the cleanse finally finishes both of you should do something nice like a meal out together to mark the end and celebrate. Choose a place that has a lot of healthy, cleanse-approved options, and perhaps a great wine list if that’s one of the things she’s looking forward to adding back first.

You are a part of each other’s success — and when Mama’s happy, everyone is happy! As a couple, you deserve to feel good as individuals and together.

If this inspired you to support your partner even more, wonderful! If it even inspired you to do the cleanse together — even better! But do talk before hand about the possible challenges you may face when you’re both feeling your way through the cleanse.

But hear me now: you can do this. Both of you, no matter who is on the cleanse. If she (or he) wants to join the Cravings Cleanse, know that it will be good for both of you.

And no matter what, it will be one of the best things you both do for each other, and yourselves.

Respectfully,

Bob Gower, Author & Consultant

Alex’s main squeeze

 

Creamy Avocado Soup - Cravings Cleanse

Soup For Fatty Dairy Lovers: Creamy dairy-free Avocado Soup Recipe

I was feeling a bit under the weather this weekend.

Last week I went to a memorial service for a dear friend. It was so beautiful to see all of our shared friends, but while at the party I ate a ton of soy and refined flour - foods I haven’t eaten much of in the last six months.

The next day, I woke up feeling puffy and tired. And that lasted for three days!

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On Sunday I remembered this amazing soup I once ate, filled with green vegetables, which was blended, cooling, and alkalinizing.

Yet the lemon and avocado blended together to taste rich and fatty, zingy and tasty, like a dairy-filled soup would. Dairy is an acidic food, and makes inflammation worse for most people.

 

The celery, cucumber, lemon, parsley, and Romaine were all anti-inflammatory and when blended together, the mild flavors soothed my body and energy.

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So I got the ingredients together and tried my hand at recreating this soup, to see if I could calm this puffy inflammation I was feeling.

I blended the ingredients together until the veggies were smooth and creamy, added a pinch of salt, and tasted. It was heavenly.

I ate the entire recipe in a few hours – about 6 cups worth.

Ingredients: 

1 lemon, rind removed

1.5 cups cucumber

1 stalk celery

6 leaves Romaine lettuce

1 avocado

1/4 cup fresh parsley

1.5-2 cups water

1/2 tsp sea salt

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The next day, I woke up feeling refreshed, calm, and my eyes were no longer puffy, and my skin was clear.

This is just the kind of easy recipe I love to share – food that heals and tastes good.

It’s the kind of recipe I’ll be sharing in my Cravings Cleanse, which kicks off next week with a free 3-video series all about cravings, how to change your food habits to grow your energy, and how you can turn willpower into wellpower.

I hope you like the recipe, and I hope you’ll watch the videos when they go live next week!

xo,

Alex

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An open breakup letter to Dairy

My good friend Jeannine wrote a post on Facebook this week:

“what is the meaning behind craving savory creamy flavors and textures ALL THE TIME? What do I REALLY need? 
Alexandra Jamieson, you are the cravings whisperer! You must know.”

I totally feel her pain. Dairy has been a huge craving of mine, and I didn’t feel like taking the old “just avoid it and you’ll feel better” line.

Dairy is a more emotional craving than most – so I decided to answer her in a more emotional way:

With a break-up letter:

Dear DAIRY,

I love you. I crave you.

Breaking up with dairy dairy
You’re creamy, fatty, and often sweet or salty, which just makes me love you more. When you’re mixed with salty niblets like pretzels in a sweet ice cream, or mixed with chocolate in a salted caramel, my brain lights up with extra dopamine, because it loves texture, contrasting flavors, and the heady combinations.

And dairy, my dreamy love, there’s nothing wrong with you. You were my first food, perfect in nutrients, bonding me with my mother. My brain and body are built to crave you, otherwise I wouldn’t have thrived as a baby.

But sweetie, I don’t know if we are right for each other anymore. I think I need some time alone. A couple of weeks without you, so I can feel what my life, energy, and body are like without you.

See, I’m wondering if when I eat you, I’m also taking synthetic growth hormones that may have been fed to the cow, thereby upsetting my own hormones. Even if you’re organic, I know that I’m still taking in extra hormones, and that could be enough to set me off kilter.

I think I’ve become allergic or sensitive to you in my adult years. You didn’t used to bother me as a kid, but now that I think about it – I did get a ton of acne growing up, and I did eat a lot of grilled cheese sandwiches. Could it have been you all along?

And what about your lactose? Is this really hurting me, more than helping me?

I thought you were helping me – giving me what I needed to grow healthy, strong bones! But now I hear that this was a lie all along: that many people and animals (traditional Asian cultures and most large mammals like elephants) don’t eat any dairy and have no problem growing strong bones…nor do they have any problems with osteoporosis, so what gives!?

It turns out your naturally acidic nature might be part of the week bone epidemic, rather than a solution. I feel so betrayed…

I think it’s time to try my life without you…for a little while.

I’ll get my calcium from the natural sources that other animals get it from: greens, like broccoli and bok choy, salmon, sardines, nuts and seeds…they don’t need you, and perhaps I don’t either.

Then, after a couple of weeks off, let’s have a date. A steamy, indulgent date. Full-fat, yogurty creamy goodness, buttery and milky. Then I’ll leave you alone for a few more days to feel into how my body, mood and digestive system react to you.

It’s nothing against you, and I hope we can stay friends. But I need to get clear if this relationship is really working for me or not.

I’ve loved you my whole life, and I’ll always love you. But that doesn’t mean we’re supposed to live together or see each other every day. We may see each other after this experiment, flirt and spend a fabulous night together every once in a while. And I’ll not feel guilty or punish myself for tasting your deeply pleasurable goodness. But what I’m open to discovering is that you may not be the one for me.

Not every day. Or maybe you are. I know you’ll wait for me, and that you won’t hold it against me, no matter what I discover. I know you just want what’s best for me.

And I’ll always love you.
No matter what.

Xo,
Me

Eat THIS when you crave THAT – Cravings Swap chart!

What is your body really craving?

Is it the sugar, or is your very wise body, really asking for something different? 

Don’t you sometimes wish you knew what to eat to give your body what it REALLY needed? 

In my work around cravings, I’ve discovered that there are three root causes to what our body asks for:

Nutritional
Physical
Emotional

Some of the foods your body craves are its best guess at how to get more of the nutrients or minerals it needs!

I’m creating an extensive chart filled with the nutritional needs your body asks for, so you can start eating more of the nutrient rich foods to get what you need!

And hey – a little bit of chocolate here and there won’t hurt.

Just be sure you’re getting enough of the minerals you also need, so you don’t find yourself face-down in a pint of double-chocolate brownie ice cream, when what your body needs is just a little magnesium!

The full Nutritional Cravings Swap chart will be available to everyone who signs up for my upcoming Cravings Cleanse 8-week program, so keep an eye out for my 3-part video series on how you can begin turning your body into your ally, and follow your cravings to the body and life you truly desire.

Click here to get your 3 top cravings swaps chart! 

And let me know in the comments below what was helpful, and what you’re going to try!

 

 

How To "Fix" Your Cravings?

How do you manage cravings?

I was recently asked where cravings come from, and how to “fix” them.

I thought it was interesting to be asked to fix something that I don’t think is broken.

See, I don’t think cravings are bad or that they make you wrong for having them.

Rather, cravings are messages from your body about your true needs. We can learn to listen to our cravings and give our bodies exactly what we really need to be happy and have the life of our dreams…bold statement, right?

How

First, let me just say that we all have cravings – cravings make us human! Without cravings, desire, wants, and needs, we wouldn’t eat enough to thrive as babies, we wouldn’t feel the passions that carry on our genetic DNA, and we wouldn’t feel the inspiration to create great works of art.
So, I believe that cravings are divine!
That being said, our modern food landscape has changed so drastically in the last 80 years, that we now have cheap and easy access to highly addictive foods that our bodies naturally crave.
Until recently, fat, salt and sugar weren’t easy to come by, but they are very important to the health of our brains and bodies, so the way our bodies evolved was to make us happy when we eat those foods!
Our brains actually light up when we eat sugar, fat and salt – a release of dopamine, a pleasure chemical, follows every bite of fatty, salty or sugary foods. So we keep eating them, especially when we feel stressed or otherwise unwell.
So cravings for food are not “wrong” and don’t make you bad, or “weak-willed.”
You are simply responding to a positive feedback loop.
I believe our cravings for foods are rooted in three areas: nutritional, physical, and emotional imbalances.
Basically, a craving is a request from your body to balance something.
In that way, and so many others, our bodies are so brilliant!
Our bodies are either craving missing nutrients like minerals, which can cause salt cravings, or our blood sugar (AKA “brain sugar”) is low, and our brain needs glucose to operate, so it craves sugar.
Physical imbalances can be a need for better sleep or more exercise. We feel tired, so we hear the craving for energy and hear “caffeine!” In reality we need to move and rest more.
Then there is the world of emotional imbalances, which almost always overlap with the nutritional and physical needs. Stress, anxiety, sadness, loneliness, and anger set off a stream of chemical reactions in the body, like a release of adrenaline or coritsol. Over time, this makes our bodies uncomfortable, and we crave something to calm us down and feel “good” again.
Our bodies, in their wisdom, know that sugar or fat or salt will make us feel physically better, release the happy hormones in our brain, so we eat something that isn’t necessarily best for us long-term.
In order to manage our cravings, and have them work for us as our best allies, we need to take in the whole picture of our cravings and lifestyle so we can give our bodies what they truly need: real nutrition, rest, movement, physical fun, and joy.
Alex's Hot Pink Skates - the power of play

Why I believe in play – come camping with me?

I believe in the power of play…

I believe that in order to fall in love with our bodies, we need to enjoy living in them –

and the best way to enjoy your body is to play!

(hence my new pink roller skates!) pink skates

Whatever way you have fun in your body, whether it’s skating, hiking with your dog, or going to yoga with your best friend – when you have fun in your body, when you PLAY, your body responds.

It heals, relaxes, and major shifts are possible.

When we are at play, exercise moves from drudgery to heavenly. Competition moves from frustrating to fulfillment. When we play, we feel, act and look younger and more alive.

So play has become a very important part of my life.

And one of my favorite ways to have fun – since I was a kid – is to go to camp!

Getting out of your normal surroundings, playing with other “kids” of all ages, learning new skills, bonfires – what’s not to love?!

This September I’ll be featured at 2 camps, just for adults, and I’d like to tell you a little bit about them so you can join in if you’re game…

The first is Soul Camp:

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September 4th-7th Honesdale, Pennsylvania

(2.5 hours from NYC)

http://soulcamp2014.com/

Created as an adult camp for the soul, I’ll be speaking on Following Your Cravings to the Life and Body You’ll love at this fun-filled sleep away camp for the soul.

Check out the amazing list of over 35 “camp staffers” who will lead workshops on everything from yoga, meditation, astrology & angel card readings, boating at the waterfront, nature walks, Buti aerobics classes, breath work, intenSati, organic farming, arts & crafts and soo much more!

I am beyond thrilled and honored to be a part of this years Soul Camp Staff – if you have been waiting for the opportunity to see, hear and try out all of your favorite mind/body/spirit instructors & classes in one place at one time – this one’s for you.

OR ~ Come with me to the Good Life Camp!

Good Life Camp

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September 11th-14th Rock Hill, NY (90 minutes from NYC)

The brain child of my friend and mentor, Jonathan Fields, Good Life Camp is a weekend for the aligned entrepreneur who wants to build a life, not just make a living.

I’ve been reading and talking with Jonathan for a few years now, and love the teachers, guides and coaches he brings together for those of us who run our own show – or who dream to start their own business.

Because one of Jonathan’s foundations is health and vitality I know that if you’re reading this and crave your own business as a way to express yourself in the world, then you may want to join me.

AND I’ve been offered a special discount to share with you, my peeps – so if you decide to sign up, use the code: FF10 and get 10% off camp!

That’s enough savings to buy all the organic chocolate for s’mores you can stomach!

Learn more about Good Life Camp here: http://bit.ly/goodcampalex

Organize your kitchen to eat healthier!

My messy kitchen = psychological troubles

I admit it: I had some kitchen shame.

 

I have an organization issue, and it was getting in the way!

See, I “kinda know” where everything is when I start to cook – after all, I do the shopping and put away the groceries.

 

Organize your kitchen to eat healthier!

Organize your kitchen to eat healthier!

But I’m usually in a bit of a rush (mantra for 2014: slow down & breathe!)

And tend to fling things into the cabinet or fridge.

 

And then I realized how this “no big deal” way of being was hurting me.

 

See, my kitchen started to feel cluttered and messy.

Even when the counters were clean, I knew there was a disorganized mess awaiting me every time I opened the fridge.

 

And having those unfinished, unmanaged, messes makes me uncomfortable.

I started to notice I was a little stressed in my kitchen – which makes cooking feel not-so-fun.

 

And when I feel uncomfortable in my skin, my whole being feels off.

And when I feel off, my body craves something to make me feel better, or distract me from the real issue at hand.

 

You may have felt this too: feeling uncomfortable or frustrated about something, and then your body starts to crave foods (usually fat, salt or sugar) to feel better?

 

There’s actually a psychological reason for this: the Zeigarnik Effect.

 

This effect explains how the brain is constantly annoying you when you have something unfinished in your life. It reminds you that something you were going to do isn’t done – and we experience dissonance.

 

It’s human nature to finish what we start, and when we don’t finish, our brains poke us all day long, depleting our willpower and making us uncomfortable.

 

Well, I’m dedicated to asking the real reason behind my cravings so that I feel authentic, connected and like I’m making progress towards my big motivating desires.

 

And my real craving was for organization and clarity!

But how to tackle the mess?

 

I decided to get some help!

I called my friend Jordana, an organizational expert (from Embarkability.com) with a great sense of humor, to come over and help me make sense of my kitchen.

 

Jordana came over and we went through my cabinets and refrigerator, and we made a “How to Cleanse & Organize Your Kitchen” video!

 

The video training will be a part of my upcoming Cravings Cleanse 8-week program, which begins in a few weeks (keep your eyes open!)…

 

But I wanted to share with you some of the best tips I got from cleaning out and organizing my kitchen last weekend:

 

(I’m so totally in love with my fridge now – I like to just open it an marvel!)

 

  1. Take it all off (or out)

 

When you reorganize your fridge (or spice cabinet – yikes!) take everything out first. This helps you see how much room you have, if you have any multiples of items (3 bags of hemp seeds, anyone?) and you can check the dates of everything. Throw out the expired, old food, and maybe take a wet towel to clean off the surfaces.

 

  1. Don’t should all over yourself: Do what works for you

 

One of the BEST things I learned from Jordana is to take the healthy veggies out of the crisper drawers and bring them to the top shelf where I would see them – and be more likely to use them!

My newly organized refrigerator! Keeps me healthier

My organized fridge! It’s so clear and easy to get the healthy stuff out – I love opening the door and am totally inspired to eat healthier!

 

I thought I “should” use the crisper drawers for veggies – but learned that I could do what worked best for me and my family. (Like leaving the fun, messy drawings my son makes on the front of the fridge, while cleaning out the inside of the fridge)

 

Don’t hide the food you want to eat more of –put greens in life-prolonging green bags within easy reach. I made so much room on the shelves by storing bottled drinks in the drawers.

 

  1. Don’t do it alone

 

Calling in an organized, helpful friend to help me out was the best thing I could have done. See, getting started feels like the biggest obstacle.

 

I didn’t know where to start! I thought I had to map it all out first! I had emotional attachments to old jars of mustard, but my friend didn’t!

 

See, when you have a friend who you trust to help guide you through the process, you don’t waste time worrying and thinking.

 

You just get it done.

 

Now, I LOVE my kitchen!

I was so inspired and felt free and clear last night, that I whipped up a huge spread for friends and we enjoyed a lovely meal outside.

 

Cooking became a joy when my kitchen was organized.

 

Are you inspired to organize your fridge?

What will you do first?

 

 

 

 

 

Simple strategy to learn to listen to you body's cravings

What to do when you have a craving: Gut Check Meditation

“You mean I should just do and eat anything I want? Because when I listen to my body it says it wants an skinny iced mocha,” she said, with not a little skepticism.

My client Jen and I were talking about her sugar cravings.

They felt constant, annoying, and she was trying to be “good” and not eat any sugar, of any kind, for two weeks before her vacation. She wanted to drop a few pounds before putting on a swimsuit, so she was eating these tiny little portions at each meal, and had sworn off sugar until her trip.

“You should listen to your cravings, Jen. You don’t always have to follow them exactly, but you do need to tune into your body and really listen to what it’s telling you.”

I had a funny feeling that Jen wasn’t eating enough and that her cravings for sugar were getting stronger because she actually needed more food in her body.

She was working extra hours before she left for vacation, and she was feeling tired after the holiday weekend with her kids. Jen had managed to stick to her diet rules all weekend, but she had been tired, impatient with her kids, and frustrated by Monday afternoon at work.

“Jen, your cravings are a message from your body that you need balance. It might be nutritional, physical, or emotional balance. So let me take you through a meditation I call the Gut Check. You’re going to close your eyes, scan through your body, especially your gut, and tell me what sensations you feel. Ready?”

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Gut Check Meditation for Cravings

Jen closed her eyes (we were on Skype together so I could see her) and sat for a few seconds.
“Where do I start?” she asked.
“Start at the top of your head,” I replied. “Just scan down through your body, and tell me what feelings, colors, sensations, or anything else you notice.”

Scanning through her body, she told me her neck felt tight and her eyes were heavy. As she scanned through her body, and got closer to her gut, she said,
“My gut feels empty. My eyes are tired, and my neck is tight.”

“Ok, can you ask your body how it feels and what it needs right now?” I leaned in and watched as she fidgeted a little bit. This whole “woo-woo” talking-to-her-body thing was a little weird for Jen, but she was so ready to feel differently about her body and feel good, that she was willing to try.

“My belly is hungry. I’ve been eating small portions for a week, and it’s really just hungry. I don’t think the iced mocha will really satisfy my hunger. I’d really love some more of that chicken and tomatoes I made last night,” said Jen.

Her body relaxed a little.

“My shoulders are so tight all the time. I’m working really hard so I can take time off with my kids, but I was so irritated with them all weekend, I doubt they want to go on vacation with me at all.” She sighed.

“And my eyes are so tired and heavy. All this computer work and sitting at this computer are tough on my body. I wish I didn’t have to sit down so much. Plus all the commuting time in the car! I’m totally stressed out and just want a nap. That’s what I want – a nap.”

See, Jen’s body, when asked the deeper questions, didn’t really want the low-fat, caffeinated chocolate drink. Her body was hungry, a little tired, and she was stressed out.

Her body, in its wisdom, just wanted to feel better. Since she wasn’t listening to the more subtle cravings for more food (because she needed to wear a bathing suit in a couple weeks), rest (because she was working too hard), and relaxation, her body shouted at her:

“At least drink a skinny iced mocha so we can get through all this crap!”

Jen’s body was actually trying to help her feel better. She just had to learn how to listen a bit deeper, and then follow through and honor what she heard.

Her calorie-restrictive diet wasn’t helping her feel good, and she saw that she could eat some more real food and still look and feel good on her vacation.

Her hard-working, hard-driving attitude at work wasn’t helping her feel happy with herself, or helping her enjoy her family. Jen realized that she could leave work at 5pm, have a simple dinner with her kids, and do some simple yoga before going to bed early so that she felt relaxed and rested.

She lit up when I said, “Hey! Why not do a few yoga stretches right now, at your desk, or go outside and take a 10-minute nap in your car? You’ve been working hard all day – your body deserves a little break.”

Jen saw that she could give herself what she really needed, and by the end of our chat, she was more relaxed, and more confident that she had a plan for how to eat and take care of herself so that she could feel great every day, and not just wait to feel good on her vacation.

I want to know what your cravings are really asking for!
In the comments below, share what your first craving was, and then do the Gut Check meditation. What did you discover? What will you do for yourself now? (It’s ok if you decide to have that first craving – there’s no right or wrong here!)

The 3 Root Causes of Cravings & How To Transform Them

I’m no saint, and I ain’t perfect.
I crave foods that aren’t necessarily “good” for me.
And sometimes those cravings are extremely, how shall I say, inconvenient.
I’ve been angry with my body for wanting the cookie and milk (and cheese and meat and wine…), especially when I’m trying to reduce or eliminate sugar or dairy for a while.
But then I learned that my cravings were actually telling me something valuable – that something was out of balance.


I just had to learn how to listen, sit with the sensation of craving, and ask what they were there for.


When you hate your cravings, you’re sending the message to your body that you hate it.


It’s like yelling at a baby for crying.


No one ever taught us that our cravings are living, breathing messages from our true selves. It’s time to learn the language of your body.


Here are the three root causes of cravings, and how you can begin to decode your body’s messages:

1. Nutritional



Many cravings are your body simply asking for what it needs. Ever feel hungry? That’s a craving for food when you need nourishment. Is that bad? Of course not. Being hungry is wonderful! It means you need sustenance to survive.


A craving for salty food is often a real need for more minerals. Use sea salt, which is richer in a wide variety of minerals than white, instead of refined table salt, to  boost your mineral reserves. Sea vegetables, like dulse, kelp and nori are packed with minerals. Added to your lunch and dinner in small amounts, sea veggies can quiet the urge for salt as the mineral reserves have been filled.


Look at your diet as a whole – are you eating a wide variety of mineral rich foods? Are you getting enough calories? Where can you add more long-lasting, nourishing foods as condiments like sea veggies, hemp, chia seeds, or berries?

2. Physical



Have you ever wanted chocolate between 3 and 4pm? Oh, every day? Yeah, join the club! This craving is usually your body’s answer to the real problem: that you are tired from a full day of work. Your brain and body need to either rest or move.


When you next get that craving, I want you to close your eyes for ten seconds. How does your body feel? Is it tired? Anxious? How does it really want to feel? Do your eyes need a rest? Would a 5-10 minute nap in your car or putting your head down on your desk with eyes closed feel amazing?


Or perhaps you want to get up and stretch! Move around! Take a 10-minute walking break outside or even in the stairway in your building. Sitting all day is so harmful to our health, it takes more years off your life than smoking.


Your body knows this. It wants to move, feel alive and free. Give it what it wants. Move now!

3. Emotional



What about those cravings that pop up because you’d rather eat than feel the message from your body? How does the craving feel? Could it actually be grief, anger, frustration, or shame?


So many of our cravings are actually physical manifestations of an emotional issue. Have you been ignoring your feelings, pushing through to try to ignore the sadness?


In my own life, I experienced huge sugar cravings when going through my divorce. Other cravings, like popcorn on the couch for dinner, were very strong when I was considering going back to dating again. And again, when my mom died, cheese and dairy products were all I wanted, a signal that I longed for comfort.


Your cravings mean something. They aren’t bad, and you’re not weak for having them. Being to look at and listen to them.


Your cravings are your guide to your best life, and a body you love.

Discover your Cravings Type and get the free 30-page Cravings Report! www.CravingsQuiz.com

CNN & Martha got it wrong. Eat THIS food to cleanse & trim your gut!

How did CNN and Martha Stewart get this SO WRONG!?

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Martha Stewart & CNN got it wrong – REAL food to eat to cleanse & heal your gut



I just saw a piece on CNN from Martha Stewart, and sadly, the big gurus are giving bad advice.
In fact, the food they tell you to eat could HARM your gut, not heal it.
I give you the low-down and tell you the #1 food you SHOULD eat to cleanse and heal your gut!




See, I know that dairy is one of the biggest cravings for you, and I know that while you may crave it, eating milk, cheese and ice cream can cause havoc in your body (and skin…and mood… and hormones!)

So when Martha Stewart & CNN got it wrong and told people to eat the wrong kind of dairy, and totally misses that fermented vegetables are SO HUGE and growing in popularity, it makes me wonder what else they’re getting wrong!>
Hope you found this helpful! 
If you crave sugar or dairy, you may need more raw fermented foods like sauerkraut in  your diet!
And if you want to really understand what your cravings mean, be sure to take my Cravings Type Quiz.
Xo,
Alex 
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