Body Love, Soul Food. {join Alex in LA Saturday, June 13th}

Life in this body hasn’t always been easy…

…sugar addiction

…scoliosis, pain, and 2-years in a back brace

…sexual shame and divorce

…vegan to non-vegan

Surviving the waves of our lives take a lot of strength and self- knowing.

From the age of 5 my mom taught me yoga, how to eat and cook seasonal organic foods, how to use massage and alternative medicine to care for my physical and emotional pain, which helped me avoid the pain killers and Prozac I was headed for.

 

The tools are there for all of us, if we just know how to find + use them.

Tools for healing our bodies…

tools for healing our relationship with food…

tools for healing our disconnected souls by coming into fun community with others…

there is so much to learn!

Come and join me, SoulScape Journeys, and a group of wellness warriors in LA for my first ever west coast Soul Food Session “play shop.”

soulscape journey

In this 4-hour group experience, you’ll:

– get clear about what your body is really asking for when cravings strike

– discover new foods to help balance your energy, mind and body

– live coaching to foster healing insights and new action plans

– finally know what kind of exercise is best for your unique body

– heal past wounds that are lurking in your physical self, and…

— fall in love with living in your body on a new level.

We’ll begin at 1pm at Indigo Lab LA, and I invite you to join us.

Get your tickets and information here: 

 

You’ll leave knowing so much more about what your body is telling you, so that you can make the best food and lifestyle choices…

You’ll feel safe and free of shame, able to connect with others on a deeper level…

You’ll be free to step into your strengths, with a new community of friends who have your back.

Join us for this live experience, June 13th, 1pm-5pm in L.A!

42 Claire Cavanah – Founding Mama of The Masturbation Movement

Claire Cavanah on The Cravings Whisperer with Alexandra Jamieson

The Cravings Whisperer Podcast with Alexandra Jamieson

We’ve talked a lot about masturbation in the last month, haven’t we my crave bears?

So now let’s learn a little more about the history of this momentous occasion. This week, I interviewed Claire Cavanah, co-founder of Babeland and Babeland.com. She was an integral part of the creation of National Masturbation Month, and has some great insights into what the landscape of sexuality and masturbation was like twenty years ago.

Her business is also a wealth of information! You can visit the website for plenty of educational blog posts, to find out about workshops, or you can head into a store in NYC or Seattle like I did with one of my clients.

Today’s sponsor is Audible.com®, who has more than 180,000 audiobooks and spoken-word audio products. Get a free audiobook of your choice here.

I can’t wait for you to hear this fascinating interview with Claire Cavanah.

You can Subscribe to the podcast on iTunesSoundCloudStitcher or TuneIn

“Everyone needs to come to it in their own time to find out what you want and who you are sexually.”  (Click to Tweet)

Show Notes:

  • How to open a sex store
  • How National Masturbation Month was founded
  • What is a masturbate-a-thon
  • What the sexual landscape was like twenty years ago
  • How the internet changed sexual education
  • Why sexual knowledge used to be on the fringes
  • Why queer people have to talk about sex more than straight people
  • How knowing yourself sexually can give you energy
  • The benefits of masturbation include better circulation, better sleep, relief from menstrual cramps, stress reduction

“There’s no roadmap for queer sex that’s available.”  (Click to Tweet)

  • How to talk to your kids about sex and masturbation
  • Why masturbation is a foundation for better sex with your partner
  • How to talk to your partner about masturbation
  • How most relationships have a high desire person and a low desire person
  • Why you should support your partner’s masturbation
  • How masturbation helps your self esteem
  • How fantasy and porn can be the fuel for the fire
  • The importance of testosterone and your body rhythm
  • What’s different about the Babeland website

“Masturbation has lots of physical benefits, but it also opens you up to a happier and more fulfilled life.”  (Click to Tweet)

Links Mentioned:

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“Sex is always happening, so it’s always age appropriate to talk about.”  (Click to Tweet)

Cauliflower Rice Recipe: Inspiration In The Kitchen

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I haven’t posted a new recipe in a while…

And I’ve felt a bit guilty about it.

I have been sharing a lot of new mindset tools from positive psychology that have made a big difference in my own healing journey, as well as my clients.

But at home, for myself and my family, I’ve been making simple foods, using high-quality ingredients, and keeping things pretty easy.

I just haven’t been focused on new recipes for a while…

It wasn’t that I’d lost my love for cooking, I just didn’t feel like a new greens recipe was as important as sharing these new tools I found so inspirational.

And it felt strange for a while, and I was plagued with doubts:

  • I’m a professionally trained healthy cook – why am I not excited about new recipes?
  • I know people want new recipes to inspire healthier eating – why can’t I just keep creating them?
  • Aren’t there already thousands of recipes online to choose from? Can I really add anything new?
  • Am I going to confuse my readers if I post mindset tools and then put up a recipe every once in a while?

So I didn’t create anything new for months. Until now, as I got really excited by this delicious new way of making cauliflower, quickly, with a few ingredients.

My programs and clients all still get recipe and menu planning help, when that’s what they need.

But I see more and more that having new recipes isn’t enough to help you make the lasting changes you want in your body and life.

I want to help you think about food and your body in a new way, using proven strategies that help you feel peaceful, strong, joyful, and whole. That’s the power of positive psychology and my mindset makeover tools, like those I teach in the Vitality Mentorship.

But I also love to eat, and I know you do too. I still cook every day, even if it’s whipping up a green + protein smoothie, tea, and a salad.

Well, I’ll be sharing new recipes when the inspiration strikes, rather than forcing myself to be a recipe hub.

Because as you probably know, forcing yourself to do things that you don’t feel totally juicy and excited about is a recipe for self-sabotage, frustration, and a loss of passion.

And I’ll continue to share nutrition + food tips because I know that our cravings and food habits stem from 4 roots causes: bacterial, nutritional, emotional, and physical.

So today, I’ve got a brand new way to whip up a family-pleasing cauliflower dish, filled with nutrition, that cooks up quicker than quinoa:

Cauliflower Rice Recipe:

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This recipe provides a delicate sweetness of cooked cauliflower, onion, and red bell pepper, which is my strategy to help with nighttime sugar cravings. Adding sweet foods at dinner satisfies my sweet tooth. I also like the high fiber content, which your body uses to get rid of excess estrogen.

1. Start with 1 head of organic cauliflower, washed and patted dry. Cut out the core and chop into large chunks.

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2. Place the chunks into a food processor fitted with an S-blade, and pulse 20-25 times, until cut into tiny pieces, but not mushy. You can also shred on a box grater.

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3. Set a large skillet over medium-high heat and add 2 tablespoons of coconut or olive oil. Dice 1/2 a yellow onion and red bell pepper, and saute with 1 teaspoon of salt until the onions begin to brown.

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4. Scoop the shredded cauliflower into the pan, and stir well. Cook for 5 minutes, adding another 1/2 teaspoon of salt. Stir well, and cover, turning heat to low, and cook for 5 minutes more.

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5. Turn off the heat and allow to steam for 2 minutes before serving hot.

Share with your loved ones, and save the rest for leftovers – reheating is a snap! Just add to a pan with 2-3 tablespoons of water, stir, cover, and heat over medium for 5 minutes or until heated through.

Enjoy!

xo,

Alex

 

P.S. Want a few cooking ideas like this, and help plotting your life’s transformation? Applications for the Vitality Mentorship program are open until June 10th:  

What You Need to Know Right Now About Loving Your Body

She was struggling…

with food,

with nutrition,

with body image issues,

with what steps to take next in her life…

After 7 years as an elementary school teacher, a breakup, and a major move across the country, Lyndsi felt lost.

  She's just getting started...

 A good friend told her about my work, and we had a Skype chat…

“It was really powerful…and I’d never worked with a coach before.”

She hadn’t tried this.

She’s tried almost everything else…

books, retreats, weight watchers, extreme diets, and more.

Then we started meeting on Skype for 4 months…

I coached her through the emotions of worthiness, confidence, confrontation, and career dreams.

WATCH LYNDSI’S STORY UNFOLD HERE:

NOW:

She’s not eating when she’s not hungry anymore.

She’s present, more peaceful in her thoughts, and more confident in her body.

She’s LOVING her body more!

And the super cool, exciting thing?

She’s taking major steps to create the future and career that she has dreamed of.

A center for women to heal their bodies and relationship with food.

Lyndsi is truly being the change she wishes to see in the world.

She’s taking major steps to create the future and career that she has dreamed of.

A center for women to heal their bodies and relationship with food. Lyndsi is truly being the change she wants to see in he world.

“I’ve had wonderful coaching and community to help me take those steps forward.”

For the first time, the vision of her life and career feel possible, exciting, and joyful. Lyndsi found the support, direction, and inspiration she needed to take her next step…

xo,

Alex

P.S. Applications for the Vitality Mentorship, a 4-month group and private coaching program with me, are open: have you looked at the program yet? Have you filled out your application? Why not? I am curious – just email me at alex@alexandrajamieson.com with any questions…or fill out your application here by June 6th so we can see if this is the right next step for you! 

41 Psalm Isadora – Your Sexuality is Your Power

Psalm Isadora - Featured Art -The Crave Cast

The Cravings Whisperer Podcast with Alexandra Jamieson

How do you figure out what feels good to you?

That’s what National Masturbation Month is all about, and that’s what I’m talking about with Psalm Isadora today. Psalm is a sex and relationship expert as well as a yoga instructor.

Today we’re talking about shaking the shame around our bodies, sexuality and taking the time to explore!

My sponsor today is Audible, and they are offering our listeners a free audiobook of your choice and a free 30-day trial membership. Click here and choose from over 180,000 audio programs – download a title free and start listening. It’s that easy. Go to audibletrial.com/cravecast and get started today.

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Now it’s time to go on an adventure with yourself, my clan of the crave bears. So, let’s go!

You can Subscribe to the podcast on iTunesSoundCloudStitcher or TuneIn

“When did you have your first orgasm? And how did you feel about it?”  (Click to Tweet)

Show Notes:

  • The importance of breaking down the taboo around sex
  • Where sexual shame comes from
  • Why you should masturbate more
  • Why it’s important to know how your body works
  • Why you should know how to connect with yourself sexually
  • What is a jade egg?
  • How building kegel muscles helps with urinary incontinence
  • The sexual benefits of strong kegels

“The shadow around sexuality means we can’t bring light to this subject.”  (Click to Tweet)

  • The effects of a healthy sexuality on your health
  • Why a strong vagina is good for your whole self
  • How sexual repression exists all over the world
  • How taking away women’s sexuality takes away their power
  • The power and energy of the womb
  • The importance of knowing how your vagina works
  • How teaching women about sex will lead them to more empowered choices

“Masturbation is like sex light: all the pleasure, none of the calories!”  (Click to Tweet)

Links Mentioned:

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“The womb is like a nuclear power center that powers your whole life.”  (Click to Tweet)

9 ways to get out of your comfort food zone

9 ways to

We all have ideas of what we wish to become.

9 ways to

I was with my son, on our way to the park so he could try out his new skateboard. “Are you ready to go down the ramp?” I asked.
Wonder Boy looked up at me and said, “I don’t want to…I’m scared.”

I didn’t miss a beat, looked into his eyes, and replied,
“It’s ok to be scared, but it’s important to try it anyway.”

It’s a powerful message.
“Trying it anyway” is at the heart of a fully lived life.

It’s what I tell my clients when they know they need to ditch sugar and gluten.

It’s what I tell my clients when they need to have a big talk with their partner or boss…
or finally start dating.

It’s what I tell myself before taking on a new big idea for my work.
(podcast? a book about cravings? interviewing experts on masturbation??)

Without anyone else encouraging us to try new things,
we tend to dig ourselves deeper into our comfort zones.

Busy schedules, long-held habits, and old mindsets can lead us to shut off our hearts and minds and just coast on autopilot.

We keep using the same old comfort foods to help us handle stress, which keeps the extra weight on, and keeps our energy depressed.

A part of us knows that those old comfort foods will keep us in the stuck spot where we are, so that we won’t have to step into that uncertain next step.

We let the fear keep us from moving forward and just let life take us where it wants.

Our comfort food zone, hiding in the foods that exhaust us and make us feel heavy, keeps us from even trying to make the changes we dream about: dating, asking for the raise, changing careers, and more. Much more.

Is it too late to change?
That’s the great news; It’s never, ever too late to “try it anyway.”

But we get stuck in “fixed mindset.”

Positive Psychology shows us that we can have choose one of two mindsets: Fixed or Growth.

“Fixed” mindset is when you think you can’t change, you can’t learn anything new, you avoid challenges, when you see other people succeed it brings up jealousy, and you want to be told you’re smart.

I believe you can develop a growth mindset, and all it takes is knowing there is a new way to think, and to start watching your thoughts more closely!

Growth mindset says you can learn new things and change:

Growth mindset is open to asking for help, says “I don’t know how to do this…YET,” believes that you can learn something new, enjoys watching other people succeed, and wants to be acknowledged for working hard.

I try to show my kid when I’m trying something new, share any doubts, and share when I don’t reach the goal. I show him the process of what it means to try.
The wins and the losses.

Our culture is too danged focused on WINNING – that being 100% perfect, #1, and the BEST, is the only acceptable option.

B.S!

Moving out of your comfort zone requires us to break free from the past and old ways of perfection thinking, and push ourselves to do something we wouldn’t normally try.

But here’s the secret magic lurking just behind the fear:
often, the simple act of just trying something new can help you move out of your comfort zone.

Here are 9 simple ways to move out of your comfort zone:

9 ways
• take a cooking class
• take an art class
• volunteer for a local organization for 1 day
• take a new route to work
• say ‘Hi’ to someone new in your neighborhood or at work
• plan a trip to a new part of your city, or a place where people speak a difference language
• visit a new place of worship
• take a hike to a new park
• take the first step towards making one of your dreams a reality

Does it still feel too overwhelming? Here are some additional pointers:
• do some research on the first 2 steps needed to make one new thing happen – then act
• ask someone who has done the new thing you’re interested in about why they like it
• take a friend with you when you try a new activity or go some place new
• stop thinking of yourself as “fragile” – you are beautiful, but not a delicate flower
• call to mind a time when you did something new that was fun
• depend on yourself for your happiness, instead of others

And even if your attempt doesn’t work out the way you thought it might, it can still lead to growth and positive results. The most successful people on earth went through major failures before they became successful.

The more new things you try, the more you step out of your comfort zone, the less you’ll need  food to make you happy. The less depressed you’ll feel. The more energy you’ll have.
The more LIFE you’ll have!

What I am asking you to do is simple: do just one thing differently this week.

Your life is waiting for you, just outside your comfort food zone.

Ready to work with an experienced coach to help you

get out of your comfort zone and utterly transform your body + life?

CLICK HERE TO APPLY by June 6th for the Vitality Mentorship with Alex: 

3 Confidence Boosters That Will Make You Blush

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I still feel like that 12-year old girl in the back brace.

3 confidence boosters

Diagnosed with pretty major scoliosis, a curved spine,
I was given a hard plastic brace that added 1-inch to my girth, and
went around my body from below my hips up to my armpits.

For 23 hours a day, for 2 years, I wore the uncomfortable,
sweaty, bulky brace. It bit into my ribs, and rubbed red marks
into my hips.

Worse than the physical pain, I couldn’t wear any form-fitting clothes,
and had to wear bulky t-shirts and pants with elastic waist bands that
would fit over the brace.

That brace helped straighten my spine, but it made me extremely self-conscious
and chipped away at my self-confidence between the ages of 12 and 14.

It has taken years to recognize the impact of those years on my confidence,
and years of inner work to heal my relationship with my body.

From deformity to healed, from wrong and embarrassing to lovable.

Confidence. No matter what your story, we women have an especially shaky relationship with it,
and that has a huge impact on our lives and health…

our ability to ask for what we need…
our ability to speak our minds…
our power to change as we grow…
our mastery of life and skills…
our ability to reclaim our bodies as perfect, strong, and worthy of love.

How can we grow our confidence in ways that are truly empowering?
How can we have fun with something that feels so serious?

Why do I care about women’s confidence?

I started to read the applications for my Vitality Mentorship program,
and almost every woman wrote about her painful relationship with her body, food, and confidence.

And I saw that it effects everything we do, everything about our lives, what we are willing to sacrifice for…

…how we take care of ourselves,
…how we show up and share our gifts with the world,
…how long we are willing to put up with people and circumstances
that hurt us or keep us returning to comfort foods to try to manage the stress.

Confidence is like a secret nutrient of our well-being.

I’ve been consciously healing my own confidence since my early 20’s,
when I began to sense the impact of that back brace on my ability to reclaim my body as my own.

In my own way, I’ve discovered 3 easy, fun ways to begin to grow my own confidence, and I want to share them with you.

And they might make you blush!

Because in order to boost our confidence from within, have to admit our greatness, be willing to try and fail in full view of others, and claim our right to pleasure and fun!

These 3 methods have helped me see my impact on the world,
my ability to feel good no matter what weight or state my body is in,
and to have fun in my body again, which is my foundation of emotional confidence:

3 Confidence

1. PLAY:

Hula hoop, roller skates, kite flying, biking, anything that involves moving my body
in a non-competitive, skillful way, brings me confidence.

When you playfully move in your body, your state changes, your hormones reach a peak of metabolic perfection, and the benefits of moving with joy bring your body into alignment so that you can drop weight (and inflammation) with less effort…

and begin to love moving in your body more.

From dancing along with Beyonce’s backup dancers in a concert video (badly) to
strapping on my hot pink roller skates and trying to finally learn how to turn right, over and over again…
when you play to learn some new physical skill, you build a new pathway of communication and love
with your body.

This weekend I finally figured out how to roller skate and turn right – and it was glorious!

Now, it took 3 or 4 trips to the local basketball courts, countless stumbles, and hearing my
own kid giggle when I flailed wildly while trying to learn…

But finally learning something new in my body, mastering a new physical skill, reminded
me of all the things that I’ve already learned in this life.

My invitation to you:

Pick your play! What sounds fun to you?
Finally learning to throw a frisbee with bullseye accuracy?
Hula hooping in your back yard?
Trying that new dance move you saw on YouTube?
1 minute a day to practice handstands against a wall? Summer salts?

Get out and play and have fun in your body – and dance like nobody’s watching.

2. PLEASURE TIME:

If you’ve been listening to my Crave Cast podcast this month, you’ve heard my interviews
with the groundbreaking sexual health experts to bring attention to the healing powers
of “self-pleasure” or masturbation.

“Solo play,” another name for masturbation, is a highly effective way for women to balance our hormones,
release pent up stress, increase fertility, and as important…
a way for us to find out how much good we are capable of.

Sex is a part of life, but for many of us, it’s an emotional, tense, uncomfortable part of life.
I believe as we get in touch with our body’s ability to feel pleasure through solo-play, we:

– are more confident in asking for what we want, in the bedroom and out in the world
– feel more capable of getting back into the dating scene or reconnecting with our partner
– draw better boundaries for our bodies and our energy

My invitation to you:

Schedule space in your life for solo play at least once a week.
Choose a new toy or simply use your hand and some organic coconut oil.
Light a candle, take a bath, and enjoy your own playground, your body.

If you’re looking for expert advice on how to embark on a solo play ritual, check out the last four episodes of my Crave Cast:

3. THE  NEW GRATITUDE RITUAL:

Gratitude journals are nothing new – you’ve probably written down 3 things you’re grateful for
and felt pretty good about it.

But new science from the world of Positive Psychology shows us that there is a more powerful,
more beneficial way to honor what you’re grateful for.

In fact, this new way is much more empowering, and will build your confidence in short order:

My invitation to you:

Today, as a new, more powerful ritual, write down 5 things in your life that you’re grateful for –
and the role you had in making those things happen.

It’s not just about receiving good things, and having a positive periscope on the world…
…it’s about taking ownership of your impact on the world.

You need to remind yourself that you HAVE taken action that yielded positive results – and when you do it again, again and again, you will naturally grow your confidence.

Now I want to hear from you in the comments below –

How does your confidence effect your body and health?

Which of these 3 ideas will you play with this week?

Sometimes we need to borrow confidence. Getting into a community of curious change-seekers, who can offer you support in those moments when your own confidence is low, is the best way I know how to make lasting improvements to your body and life.

Applications are now available for my 4-month Vitality Mentorship program:
go here to apply by June 6th!

xo,
Alex

How to finally get the motivation you want – for real

“I wish I wanted to go to the gym every day.”
“I WANT to want to have sex with my husband more.”

I’ve heard these two secret wishes a lot from my friends and clients lately.

We all have dreams, goals, desires, and life cravings.
93% of people, polled by the American Psychological Association, have some aspect of their behavior that they want to change.

And most of our goals involve improving our health, body, confidence, sleep, relationships, finances…

If so many of us want to change, in such basic, important ways, why do less than half of us maintain the changes we attempt?

Why is change so hard?

 

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Most of us blame lack of willpower when we fall short of our goals.
Many of us blame a lack of time, or not enough money when we don’t go for it.

I believe it really comes down to the clarity of your wants, the strength of your desire, the reasons for your craving.

AKA: Motivation.

There are two kinds of motivation, and one is more powerful than the other.

External motivation is when we try something to earn a reward or avoid a punishment: dropping a size so we can fit into the skinny jeans, getting a raise so you can buy the new car, going to the gym every day so we don’t get heart disease…some day.

External motivation might be enough to get you started, but it’s not enough to keep you going.

Internal motivation is the secret sauce.

Internal motivation is when you fall in love with an activity because it is rewarding to your body, life, and soul. It lights you up and makes you come alive:

It’s when you go to yoga every week because it makes you glow and feel alive.
It’s when you play a game because it really excites you.
It’s when you love your work so much you would do it for free.
It’s when you put down your phone before dinner and don’t use it all night so you can be with your honey, which brings you the intimacy and juicy fun you crave.

Here’s an exercise you can use right now to get motivated from within, and have real, lasting change:

It’s called WANTING WHAT YOU WANT TO WANT (AKA: WWYWTW).

Getting specific about your desires, setting clear goals, stating your intentions –
these are all important strategies to follow. You need a map to know where you’re going, right?

But defining a goal or desire is really clarifying “what you want.”

What do you want to be MORE motivated to do?
Or: what do you want to want?

It might sound like this: (a few examples from my own and my clients lives)

I want to want to exercise so much that it’s naturally a part of every day.
I want to want to eat green vegetables!
I want to want to go to sleep at 10 every night so I’m well rested.

This can extend to dating, relating, career, and more:

I want to want to share my paintings online…

I want to want to date so that I get out there and finally meet some cool people…

I want to want to have sex with my partner more so that we feel more connected…

I want to want to start my own coaching practice so strongly that I finally sign up for that program that would really get me started…

Right now, pick one thing you WANT to want more.

Once you’ve got one good thing that you WANT to WANT, do this:
come up with a few things that would make you want that more.

If you want to want to go to yoga twice a week, you might say:

…if I went with a friend and we had a tea date after.
…if I knew the teacher was great and played good music.
…if I had a new yoga outfit that made me feel comfortable and cute.

If you want to want to have more juicy, sexy time with your partner, you might think:

if we both put our phones and gadgets away before dinner and keep them off…
if we sat together and shared our fantasies in a safe, loving way with no agenda…
if we spent an hour apart, focusing on our own self-pleasure first, to get ready…
if I got my favorite erotica book, and he watched something that turns him on first…

That would put you into the zone of actually wanting.
Your intrinsic motivation will blossom.
You will come act, make headway, and come alive.

This positive psychology technique can help you identify strategies that boost your intrinsic, personal, soul-driven motivation.

Once you have really good reasons for WHY you want to want a new activity, food, or habit, you’ll follow through for yourself.

Confidence blooms, action is sustained, mountains move.

So now I want to hear from you:

In the comments below, share the thing you want to want.

Get clear about your desires and life cravings and WHY you might want to want them as a lovely way to grow you motivation.

I’d love to read your thoughts and desires!

xo,
Alex

P.S. I’m now accepting applications for the Vitality Mentorship program. This 4-month experience combines private sessions with me and weekly support and coaching with a group of 20 women.

40 Kim Anami – Getting Your Vagina and Your Life in Shape

Kim Anami on The Cravings Whisperer with Alexandra Jamieson

The Cravings Whisperer Podcast with Alexandra Jamieson

We know there is a connection between our emotional needs and our physical needs. But how can fulfilling one help fulfil the other?

Continuing with the 20th anniversary of National Masturbation Month, this week I’m talking with Kim Anami, holistic sex and relationship expert. Kim is a wealth of knowledge when it comes to the link between your sexuality and your everyday wellbeing.

Oh, and did I mention she’s also a vaginal weightlifter? Yes, this woman knows all about the vagina, and how strengthening it can not only be good for your sexual life, but also for your outer life.

Today’s sponsor is Audible.com®, who has more than 180,000 audiobooks and spoken-word audio products. Get a free audiobook of your choice here.

So my friends, let’s jump in to learning all about the vagina and its amazing abilities to heal us inside and out!

You can Subscribe to the podcast on iTunesSoundCloudStitcher or TuneIn

“How you show up in bed is usually how you show up in life.”  (Click to Tweet)

Show Notes:

  • What is a holistic sex expert?
  • How signs from your sex life can illuminate your personal self
  • The connection between food and your inner wisdom
  • How sex is a personal growth tool
  • How not caring what others think is good for you
  • Why symptoms may be caused by issues in your sexual relationship
  • What self actualization in your sexual life can do for your outer life
  • How sex is a part of everyday life
  • Why your body is the best teacher
  • How to examine how we’re conditioned
  • Why the urge to medicate is our body telling us what it needs
  • What is the core inner need?

“Our culture has this bipolar relationship with sex: it’s everywhere, and yet you aren’t really allowed to have it and enjoy it.”  (Click to Tweet)

  • Why the relationship and sex are intertwined
  • The importance of openness and surrender in the sexual experience
  • What is the power of vulnerability
  • Who is the well-f**ked-woman?
  • Why self pleasure is good for you
  • What is stopping women from being comfortable with their sexuality
  • How to find a happy medium between being sexually voracious and confident
  • How stress can affect the body and weight
  • The importance of reclaiming your body
  • Why it’s important to have a strong vagina
  • The truth about kegels
  • What is vaginal kung fu?

“Our sexual energy is our genetic blueprint.”  (Click to Tweet)

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How to be YOU when it’s scary but your life depends on it

how to be you

I wanted men, and I wanted meatballs.
This wasn’t an easy realization when I had published three vegan cookbooks, become famous as the “vegan girlfriend” and co-creator of Super Size Me, and was also known for being married to a famous filmmaker.
Getting clear about what I really needed in my life, and on my dinner plate, was a messy, scary, and profoundly important task. It required me to listen to my soul and my body, and be authentically me, in public, even when it felt like I was stepping in front of a firing squad to do so.

Authenticity: An honest action, made faithfully, resembling the facts, reliable, emotionally appropriate and true.
We all want it, but it’s hard to be you – the authentic you.

how to be you
Few parents teach us how to be ourselves, few teachers share how to follow our gut, and the feminine quality of “intuitive and sensitive” doesn’t hold much sway in our culture.
After 10 years of happy vegan-hood, birthing a baby boy into the world, writing three books and running my own health coaching practice, my life took a dramatic turn for the fucked.
My marriage was in shambles and my hormones were shot, and my business was on hold as my husband traveled the world and I took care of our son. My body and soul began to break down.
I had been known as a vegan expert, but I started craving meat as my hormones swung wildly out of control. I did my best to ignore it, which started a tortuous, abusive relationship with my body.
My husband hadn’t made love to me in over a year, and my coaching business was flailing as I couldn’t authentically promote my services when my own body and soul felt so depleted.
Nothing felt good, except my love for my son, the support of a few amazing friends, and a dim hope and resilience that refused to die.
As I moved myself and my boy into a smaller apartment, and trudged through the long divorce process, I finally got out for dinner with some friends.
I remember seeing their steak and salmon appear on our table, and my mouth secretly salivated as I grimly bit into my tofu salad. I wanted their food, but I couldn’t listen to my body’s cravings because my thoughts were too twisted up in a pretzel about what I “should” eat.
Yet, my body knew. She told me, over and over again, that I needed to change how I was eating in order to save myself. So I secretly bought some eggs, moved to fish, and then finally took the plunge to grass fed beef.
My body sang a Hallelujah! And my mind reeled with fear.
I suffered in silence for over a year about what was happening with my body and my meat cravings. I was afraid I would be ostracized and lose my entire business if I came out and admitted the vegan diet wasn’t working for me.
Then a funny thing happened on the way to the butcher. As I ate the meat my body wanted, my hormones came back to balance, and my libido and physical confidence, long lost, came back like a freight train.
I wanted feel alive again, and began dating like it was my job. Through over 100 first dates in eighteen months, I began to make friends with my body and trust her again. We talked a lot, and I listened to her as she gave me insights about who I should not date again, who I should enjoy a fulfilling one-night-stand with, and who I should ask out again and get to know better.
As I gave my body what helped her thrive, both meat and men, my grit and confidence grew. And the trust I had in myself was being built, meal by meal, date by date.
Building trusted relationships with an intimate group of real people, who don’t just retweet your ideas, was an essential step in staying strong on this path of discovery and clarity.
There will always be people who don’t agree with you, or think you’re weird, or call you downright nasty things. Shaming is the new public theater of the internet age. Build your community of actual, in-real-life friends who support you as you are, and who you are becoming. Joining a community of heart-centered entrepreneurs and best-self seekers was one way I committed to my truth – the women I met there have continued to be a great source of strength in my life.
In positive psychology, the idea that “you are the five people you spend the most time with” has been tested and proven. Cultivate friends and family who are fierce and loyal supporters of your evolution. They may not always agree with your strategy, but they will always agree with your possibility.

When I finally “came out” to my online tribe and Facebook, I was so glad that I had the physical resilience and trusted community around me. The internet blew up, and my story went viral.
I lost friends. Actual friends, not just people “unfriending” me.
But I stuck with my truth, trusted my body, and kept listening to her, throughout the thousands of hate mails, death threats, and angry phone calls from people who now hated me because I changed how I ate, and what I believed.
My journey resulted in my new best selling book, Women, Food, And Desire and a juicy, joyful 3-year romance with my partner Bob. And my passion for helping women find what makes their bodies and lives come alive has doubled my business and my impact on the world.

We need to stay strong and true to the vision for our life and our work, even in the face of negative feedback.
To be our true selves, it’s necessary to act on our body’s instructions and do the things, and eat the foods, and spend time with the people, who help us come alive.
Building a life and a business that feels authentic and honors your truth requires self-knowledge, trust, faith, and a deep, powerful connection to your body. Listen to her, and trust her.

Want to join me and a growing group of women who want the same thing?

Their lives and their bodies back. Their aliveness.

The 4-month Vitality Mentorship is open for applications – go here to apply!  

xo,
Alex

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