Are you listening? They’re talking to you…

We all have cravings.

Every single one of us longs to connect with the people and things that will make us feel whole, alive, loved, and satisfied.

I’d say, in fact, that this whole human experience of ours is essentially built on a bedrock of craving. It’s human nature, after all, to yearn, to long, to want, to desire.

So I ask you, with genuine curiosity, genuine interest:

What do you most crave?

Your cravings are the most powerful way your body speaks to you. What have you heard lately? Listen in… (Click to Tweet this)

I’m certain that it’s not really that peanut butter cup you’ve got tucked away in the glove compartment of your car, or the triple venti latte with a shot of syrup that you rely on every afternoon to get you through another stressful day on the job.

I bet it’s not that glass of wine you automatically reach for to help you relax at the end of a long, hard day. Nor is it the cookies, cakes, and other goodies you spend a lot of time daydreaming (and beating yourself up) about.

It’s not the impulse to run away from your partner, or to yell at your kids, or to impetuously quit the job that is wrong for you—though we’ve all certainly had these moments, too.

Women, Food, And Desire by Alexandra Jamieson

What I want to know is what lies underneath all of these itchy, uncomfortable feelings?

What incredibly important and vital needs of yours are going unmet, unacknowledged, unfed?

What are you not getting from your food, your environment, your life, that makes you think you have no option but to overeat, overwork, act out, isolate, or overspend?

In other words, what do you most desire?

What will make you feel most passionately alive? These are, I believe, the most important questions we can ask ourselves, and the answers are to be found in our cravings.

Whatever you need, it’s rarely something that money can buy, but it is—and will continue to be—profoundly influenced by what you put into your mouth, what you do with your days, and what you either say or leave unsaid.

If you’ve come to the point where what you’re feeding yourself or telling yourself is filling, but not fulfilling, well, that means that the message buried beneath that craving just hasn’t gotten through to you yet.

What most of my clients want is to feel radiantly alive and well.

They want to wake up each day and step into their lives from a deeply authentic and honest place and know that the actions they take, the decisions they make, will truly reflect their most heartfelt values.

They want to really believe, way down in their deepest soul, that they are valuable and worthwhile and that their choices matter. That they are loved and seen.

The key to achieving this profound level of comfort with the self is simple: learn to listen to your cravings.

Listen to them, and learn to honor them.

This is as true for stay-at-home-moms, the retired accountant with grandkids, the start-up entrepreneur, and the high level executive. (and I’ve worked with all of you)

This is easy, but it is the hardest thing you will ever learn to do, because it takes putting yourself first in ways that are radically new, even frightening, for most of us.

But it’s time.

It is time to stop mindlessly trying to get our cravings to stop bugging us. The irony here is that they will only loosen their grip on us when we commit to stop, listen, and learn from them.

Only when you do this, when you learn to stop reacting and get quiet and really listen, will your cravings become what they truly are: your greatest guide.

In my book, Women, Food, And Desire, I share how to listen to your cravings. Through stories from my own life, and stories from my clients, you can make peace with your body and your heart so you can truly, finally be at ease in the world.

Because, in the end, that’s what we really crave: to belong, to be loved, to be well, especially within ourselves. We all want to know, really feel, that we are perfect human beings, with no limitations on how we get to look, whom we get to love, what kind of contributions we’ll decide to make in our lives.

We’ve lost enough time battling our bodies, giving in to the societal pressure that says we have to look or be or eat “just so,” and we’ve done this by hiding our truth from ourselves and everyone else
around us.

We’ve been cowering in shame long enough.

It’s time. It’s time for us all to lay down our weapons of self-destruction.

It’s time for us to become the exquisite caretakers of our own deepest desires.

In order to do this, we need to understand the four root causes of cravings, respect, and embrace our cravings.

What are your cravings trying to tell you? What can you learn from them?

How will you honor them?

I want to hear from you:

In the comments below – share your cravings, and what they mean to you.

Women, Food, And Desire - available in the UK, from Little Brown

Women, Food, And Desire – UK Edition!

Women, Food, And Desire - available in the UK, from Little Brown

Women, Food, And Desire – available in the UK, from Little Brown

For UK readers (including Australia!) Women, Food, And Desire is ready for pre-order now!

Get your copy here: 

 

 

Warming Foods For Winter Weight Loss

Support your body this chilly season!

Instead of cooling your metabolism with summer fruits and berries, focus on naturally warming, seasonal foods, and your wellness and energy goals will be easier to reach.

Be sure you know your Cravings Type before you start adding these foods – Featherweight (AKA Vata) types will do better with some of these foods than Firebrands or Earth Mamas. Take the quiz and get your type here: www.cravingsquiz.com 


Anise
Basil
Bay leaf
Bitter orange
Black beas
Blackberry
Brussels sprouts
Butter, salted
Caraway
Cadamom
Carob
Cashew
Chestnut
Chile pepper
Cinnamon
Citrus peel
Clove
Coconut
Collards
Date
Dill
Fat and oil
Fennel
Fenugreek
Garlic
Garlic chive
Ginger
Kale
Mace
Miso
Molasses
Mustard greens
Nutmeg
Oats
Onion
Parsley
Parsnip
Pcan
Pine nut
Quinoa
Raspberry
Rosemary
Scallion
Squash, winter
Star anise
Tarragon
Thyme
Turmeric
Vinegar, unpasteurized
Walnut

This list of warming winter foods for cravings is awesome! Click to tweet!

Cravings and Women, Food & Desire Are Making Headlines!

Hot on the publication of Women, Food & Desire, I’m thrilled to share that this conversation about listening to our bodies, ending the restrictive dieting madness, and a return to self-love is making headlines.

Check out January 2015′s issue of Health Magazine – where cravings and WFD made the cover – where this topic should be!

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Weight Watchers Survivors - Women Food And Desire

Weight Watchers Survivors & The Diet Industrial Complex

Many women come to me and call themselves “weight watchers rejects.”

I call them weight watchers survivors.

 

Weight Watchers Survivors - Women Food And Desire

Our current “diet industrial complex” is full of programs that DON’T teach us to listen to and have compassion for our bodies.

Those programs are based on deprivation, shame-inducing public weigh-ins, pointless point counting, and don’t do nearly enough to address the plague of weight-loss resistance, gut disorders, and hormonal imbalances caused by food sensitivities.

We need a new way to heal and get right with our bodies.

A way of eating for self-love, that helps us listen to our true cravings for freedom, ease, and engagement.

The 4 root causes of cravings, bacterial, nutritional, emotional, and physical, are real and valuable healing paths to walk down.

Healing begins with quiet listening to your cravings and asking “what am I really wanting right now?”

Join us – go to www.WomenFoodAndDesire.com and order this ground breaking book today.

We are curious, supportive, and DONE with the old body-shaming way of doing health.

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Life before Death. Strength and Courage. Finding Meaning.

Resilience, Rethinking your thinking traps, meaning, Post Traumatic Growth

Resilience, Rethinking your thinking traps, meaning, Post Traumatic Growth

I believe in life before death. 

In my past, I forgot to appreciate what was true and real, and forgot to enjoy the moment, enjoy what I had.

I see in my clients, who I now think the Universe brings to me to mirror my own journey, the same struggles:

We work too much, eat too much, diet too much, deprive ourselves of fun too much, drink too much, shop too much, try to please others too much. And still there’s this hunger inside us that goes unfed.

How are you living your life today, now, in this moment?
What do you desire, crave, yearn for that you could have NOW?

What are you putting off, sweetie pie?
Why wait? 


Life is for YOU. Today. Now.

 

My mission is to help people (mainly women, but yes, some awesome dudes, as well) accept and love themselves back to health. To help people focus and build on their strengths as a way to heal and find meaning in life. To help us all learn skilled resilience.

To turn away from what I call the “Diet Industrial Complex” which has us hating our bodies, ignoring our desires, and shaming each other.

Join me – www.WomenFoodAndDesire.com 

3 Ways To Turn Your Cravings Into Your Spiritual To-Do List

What if your cravings were your allies, instead of something to war against?

What if the messages from your body, for food, sleep, sexual intimacy, movement, and inspiration, were showing you the happiest, healthiest path forward in your unique life?

Women, Food And Desire helps you uncover the wisdom in your body's messages

Women, Food And Desire helps you uncover the wisdom in your body’s messages

After working for over 12 years with nutrition clients around the globe, I’ve seen that the best way to help people create a diet and lifestyle that gets them the energy and body they desire is to listen to their body and cravings.

 

Cravings come from four root sources: bacterial, nutritional, emotional, and physical. Bacterial imbalance in the digestive system can cause raging sugar cravings to feed the yeasts and fungi that need carbohydrates to survive. Mineral and vitamin deficiencies lead the body to crave foods that provide a burst of energy, or a reliable hit of missing nutrients. Emotional cravings for joy, connection, and calm can result in yearnings for sugar and fat to help calm the physical manifestations of fear, anger, and anxiety. As human-animals, we forget that our bodies are designed to thrive with consistent, enlivening movement. And we are built to seek physical pleasure. But our sedentary, physically disconnected lifestyle keeps us from touching each other, or finding joy in moving our bodies.

 

We have been enculturated or “brainwashed” out of connection with our body, and feel ashamed of our desires and cravings. The overlap between sensual pleasures from food and companionship get us twisted into knots and we replace food for real intimacy.

 

After my divorce, I finally began listening to my own body’s cravings for meat, after being a strict vegan for over ten years, and my cravings for physical connection and intimacy with a lover. Rather than judging myself for breaking dietary and cultural rules about what is appropriate for a young mother and health coach to eat and experience, I listened to my body and gave “her” what she was asking for: men, and meat.

 

As I’ve coached hundreds of women in the last few years to start listening to their own bodies, I’ve seen joyous results in healing and lives transformed: and end to physical pain and a lifetime of body shame, new career possibilities followed, and marriages transformed.

 

Our bodies speak our truth to us, in subtle, and not-so subtle ways, every moment. Our minds are filled with other people’s agendas, religious rules, and media-induced judgments about how we should look, love, and live. We need to begin listening to the wisdom that emanates from our own bodies. Your body does not lie. It is incapable of invention. Be willing to listen in, and discover what your cravings really mean.

Top 3 Ways To Turn Your Cravings Into Your To-Do List

  1. Next time you have a food craving, stop and close your eyes: what is your body wanting right now, besides food? Are you tired? Stressed? Frustrated? Angry? What is your desired state of being? What can you do besides eat to feel rested, relaxed, or hopeful? Do that now.
  2. When choosing your next meal, take into account how you want to feel over the next twelve hours. If you need to be focused, try eating lean protein and cooked greens. If you need to be creative and outgoing, what foods will help you get into that headspace? If you want to feel calm, and relaxed, perhaps it’s best to avoid the sugary cupcake and instead try chamomile tea with a baked apple and cinnamon. The key here is to eat foods that will help you feel how you want to feel, in a healthy way.
  3. Write down the top 10 things you desire for your life in 2015. Now circle the three most frightening or challenging and take action on the one that you know would get you closer to creating your big life’s vision.

Sweet Potato Pudding – gluten-free pudding recipe, dairy-free pudding recipe, vegan pudding recipe

Sweet Potato Pudding

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Yield: 1 serving

  • 2 Red Garnet sweet potatoes
  • 1 tablespoon pure maple syrup
  • pinch cinnamon
  • pinch pink Himalayan salt
  • ¼ teaspoon vanilla extract

1. Preheat oven to 400F. Wrap potatoes in foil and cook for 60 minutes. Remove from oven to cool.

2. Peel skins with a pairing knife and place flesh in a food processor. Add maple syrup, cinnamon, pink Himalayan salt and vanilla extract. Process for 10 seconds, scrape sides and process 10 more seconds.

3. Enjoy!

To Crave Is Human: Women, Food & Desire

It’s time to stop counting calories…
time to stop giving up our power to the “diet industrial complex”…
and ask ourselves, what do my body and soul truly crave?

Healing. Strength. Energy. Resilience. Juicy Mojo. 
This is what we want.

The book arrives 1/6. Put these ideas into action now – I’ve created a free 50+ recipe cookbook for you – get it here: www.womenfoodanddesire.com

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