My To-DON’T List

I’ll be 40 in 8 days…

And what I hear from so many women, both older + younger,
is that they want to feel like they’re living their own lives.

And that too often we wake up one day, or look in the mirror, and say:
what am I doing?
Is THIS what I want? What have I been wasting my time on? 

I felt that way when I realized I couldn’t trust my marriage and asked for a divorce.

I felt that way when my body was breaking down and I knew I needed to eat meat again.

And that feeling shows up in daily choices around how I spend my time, how I run
my business, and what I do with the finite energy I’ve got.

Our deep fears keep us from sharing our quirks, truths, and following our cravings.
Cravings for experiences, creation, well-being, and adventure.

Fears of being publicly shamed,
Fears of being selfish, being too much, being too loud,
just being ourselves.

And we give away our precious energy to things + people that don’t really matter to us in this short life.

Creating boundaries gives us a framework in which to create our own life.

   “What you say no to is as important as what you say yes to.” Tweet this

what you say no to is as important as what you say no to

what you say no to is as important as what you say no to

What I WON’T do…AKA My To-DON’T List:

eat foods that drain my energy, and put me in a food coma
spend more than 30 minutes on social media a day
let my phone distract me from my family
get lost in gossip magazines + reality TV (AKA the “comparison trap”)
let fear get in the way of sharing my ideas with the world
waste energy judging other women
read my book reviews online
apologize for taking time + resources for my self care
apologize for taking up space
spend time on projects that don’t serve me, my readers and listeners
get lost in negative mind chatter that my body and life aren’t good enough
respond to negative online attacks – haters gonna hate, and I don’t need to throw them any more fuel

What I WILL do…

daily yoga
write as if my soul will die if I don’t express it
cook + eat foods that boost my energy
get 7-9 hours of sleep a night
meet up with at least 2 friends a week
read a new book for fun every month
get the tattoo I’ve been dreaming of, now
take a trapeze class
roller skating birthday party
frequently initiate juicy dates with my man
read and play daily with my son
take time for myself to read, walk, be in nature
take my bike for a tune up so I can ride the first nice day of spring
call my Dad, brother, and Grandma regularly
write thank you letters to all the people who helped me spread the word about Women, Food, And Desire
take hot baths and read inspiring books
tell everyone I love them any time I feel like it
draw, paint, color, and play my ukulele – and share them all with people
give away $100 as a family every month to awesome charities…

live as if 40 were my LAST birthday, because really, who knows?

I want to hear from you here in the comments below:
What will you NOT do anymore?
What’s NOT serving you?
Make a list.
Share it.

I’m here to cheer you on and support your biggest vision for your life! xo, Alex

A gift to help you relax! 2 spa baskets from Topricin


Relax with Alex + Topricin! Win a $50 gift basket

Relax with Alex + Topricin! Win a $50 gift basket

Unwind & Relax! 
After a long day, it’s time to chill, and you might have some aches + pains that keep you from feeling as good as you want.

I’ve been using Topricin for years because it’s safe, and it works.  No minty aroma, no icy-hot sensation, just a nice lotion feel that works on pain.

On neck pain, tight shoulder muscles, over worked calves, tired feet, and even my kid’s growing pains, we always have extra tubes of Topricin in the house.

I’ve had back and neck pain since the age of 12 when I was diagnosed with scoliosis, but with yoga, biking, and Topricin, I keep the discomfort in check.

Topricin and I have teamed up to give away 2 awesome spa sets!

Each Deluxe Topricin Spa Set includes:

  • (1)2oz Topricin Pain Relief Cream
  • (1)4oz Topricin Pain Relief Cream
  • Mini Manicure KeyChain
  • Filing Block
  • Spa Music CD
  • Reflexology Card (Hands)
  • Smoke Blue Fabric Bag
  • Topricin Sample Envelope

Enter here:

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Perfect for all types of aches and pains, Topricin is patented for treating fibromyalgia and neuropathy, and is safe for diabetics and children.


Win a $50 gift basket from Alex + Topricin

Win a $50 gift basket from Alex + Topricin

When grocery shopping is a chore, not a pleasure…win 1 month of Instacart delivery!

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I LOVE buying and making my own food.

Shopping, cooking, touching and smelling the ingredients…it’s a pleasure for me, connects me with my food, and is part of the experience of eating…99% of the time.

Then there are times when I’m running late, I need to pick my kid up from school, the weather is terrible, or I’d just rather work on my podcast, not run to the market.

That’s when I use Instacart.

Yes, I order my groceries online. Often.

This service, while not available everywhere, is a HUGE help for the busy family.

It’s a great way to save time, and honestly money – if my time is worth over $100 an hour, and it will take me 1+ hour to grocery shop, or even an extra $20 to get a taxi back home to save time (I’m a New Yorker – and haven’t owned a car in 18 years)…I’d just rather hop online, choose the organic, healthy ingredients I want, and pay less than $10 to have it picked up and delivered to my home.

Seriously – it’s a life saver!

Instacart is one of my favorite ways to enjoy what I love most about food – taking time to choose the recipes, and cook the food in my own home, rather than being stuck in traffic or fuming, looking for a parking spot.

Enter to win 1 month of Instacart Express above, which is their grocery delivery membership. With Instacart Express, you get free delivery on 2 hour & scheduled grocery deliveries over $35. Instacart Express begins with a 14-day free trial. After that, Express is just $99/year.

Instacart delivers in the Atlanta, Austin, Boston, Boulder, Chicago, Denver, Houston, Los Angeles, New York City, Philadelphia, Portland, San Francisco Bay Area, San Jose, Seattle & Washington D.C. areas. If you’re ready to save some time shopping, so you can have more time cooking, enter above! 

Don’t forget to keep coming back here and to follow me on Instagram and Facebook – the #20til40 giveaways go all the way through 3/27 (my 40th birthday) and we’ve got some HUGE prizes coming up!

Writing Is Healing: Write Your Story

Writing has changed my life, over and over again.

From sorting out my feelings in “dear diary” style countless nights over my life, to writing through the pain of losing my mother, to exploring what my cravings were telling me near the end of my vegan life, writing is one powerful way to sort through the mess.

Writing gets the thoughts out of your head, and onto the paper.

Writing takes the stress out of your body.

Writing can help you feel grateful and calm.

And clarity. Woah, can writing help shine a spotlight on your truth.

So for today’s #20til40 give away, I’m sharing one of my favorite writing tools – a lovely deck of cards created by my friend Cynthia Morris, writer, coach, and creative artist. Cynthia recently appeared on my Crave Cast where we talked about creativity and healing. Listen here:


“We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospect.” 

Anais Nin 

“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.” 

Maya Angelou, I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings


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“Writing is an exploration. You start from nothing and learn as you go.”

E.L. Doctorow

“Either write something worth reading or do something worth writing.”

Benjamin Franklin 

I hope you win!



Look as fine as yoga makes you feel – Win Couturetee Yoga Pants

I’ve been doing yoga since the age of 7 when my mom got a VCR and we would stretch along with Lilias, Yoga & You before my school bus pulled up to the corner.

Yoga is one of the best ways to get in touch with my body, calm my nervous system, strengthen my crooked back, and relax the tense muscles that support my daily writing habit.

And I want you to enjoy trying yoga, moving in your body, and loving how you look – every day.

So I want you to win a pair of these awesome hand-dyed yoga pants from Tristan Christopher +! 


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  • yoga is all about breathing into the discomfort, in order to get through it (like listening to your cravings)…
  • yoga is for everyone, can be done anywhere, and costs nothing, once you learn the moves…
  • yoga quiets the mind, tones the body, and brings an unbreakable confidence and partnership between body + mind.


So today, my dear Clan of the Crave Bears, I’m giving you a chance to win 1 of 3 pairs of hand made yoga pants to swaddle your hot buns in the beauty they deserve. The beauty you deserve to feel about your body.

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I hope you win!
Share the wealth, and tell your friends – send them an email with the link to this page, because you and your girl should totally walk down the street in these hot pants together!

Warm Up, Chill Out! Win my FAVORITE hot water bottle #20til40

I love feeling the soothing, melty relief of a squishy hot water bottle – and I want you to have THE BEST hot water bottle ever!

Seriously. I’ve looked.


Every massage therapists secret? The Fomentek bag. Get one here, a gift from @deliciousalex #20til40

Every massage therapists secret? The Fomentek bag. Get one here, a gift from @deliciousalex #20til40

Just as I’ve been on a search for the perfect Earl Grey Tea (@RepublicofTea – your Earl Greyer is the current front runner!) I’ve been on a search for the best, relaxing hot water bottle.

Am I a grandma?

No, but I do love cats, B&Bs, hand made quilts, tea, making inappropriate jokes at family gatherings. So yes, I’m a grannie in training.

Heat therapy is so good for sore muscles, releasing tension at the end of the day, and has been in use since humans tripped into that first hot spring:

  • good for sore muscles when your handsome masseuse Juan is out of town
  • great for painful joints when you’ve been madly writing your next erotic novel all day
  • helps relieve headaches after the 90 minute commute, and won’t ruin your hair-do unlike a hot shower
  • hot water bottles make a good “boyfriend” replacement when your partner is out of town + you hate getting into a cold bed alone

Today’s #20til40 give away is THE FOMENTEK bag, which I’ve been using for years. (No, not my personal bag, but one just like it)

I’ve had scoliosis and the back pain that comes with a twisted spine since the age of 12. Hot water, massage, yoga and regular biking help me keep things in line…literally.

Enter to win your very own hot water bottle here, and put me down for a thank you card, because baby, you’re going to love it! xo, Alex
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Win my book and more from my grrls at Tue/Night:

You could win Women, Food, And Desire in the Tue/Night Book Giveaway!
Enter by 11:59PM 3/16 for a chance to win my Women, Food And Desire!

TueNight speaking

Last week I had the pleasure to speak to a room packed with women (and a few cool dudes) about cravings, pleasure, and desire in Brooklyn. The women behind hosted an amazing salon of writers who all read their stories of desire. I got a chance to speak from the front of the room with co-founder Margit Detweiler and share my story, chronicled in Women, Food, And Desire.

I left the evening inspired and certain that we need more places and chances for women to get together to share their truth about desire. That’s the only way we can loosen the strangle hold of the Diet Industrial Complex on our collective minds and bodies.


Be sure to check out, and enter to win a copy of WFD and a FREE membership to my Rapid Refresh & Reboot program!



Sporty, Pretty, Insulated? Win A Polar Bottle! #20til40

Alex wants you to be hydrated! Win this Polar Bottle! xox

I think we all need more pretty in our life – and more water!

I can’t give you this stained glass window that my artist grannie and I made together – it’s one of my prized possessions – but I can give you this awesome sports bottle from Polar Bottles!

Polar Bottle Give Away!

Polar Bottle Give Away!

As I get older, wiser, and way more sexy (If I do say so myself!) I find staying hydrated is WAY more important:

  • to ensure proper pooping (you know – elimination)
  • to keep fine lines and wrinkles at bay
  • to stop from craving the iced decaf lattes I used to live on

I’m turning 40 in 15 days, I NEVER leave the house without a water bottle.

I want YOU to be hydrated, and to send you a pretty non-toxic water bottle from my pals at @PolarBottle!

Just enter below as many times as you want!

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Alex wants you to be hydrated! Win this Polar Bottle! xox

Alex wants you to be hydrated! Win this Polar Bottle! xox




Clean, beautiful, simple: Soma Water Pitcher Give Away! #20til40


You’ve heard it before, but maybe you don’t do enough of it: drink water. Today’s #20til40 give away will inspire you to drink more, in style! My friends at Soma Water Filters are giving away one beautiful glass carafe, what I call “the better Britta.” give-away-a-thon_soma This streamlined water filter delivers crisp, clean water, minimalist good looks, and a subscription service that means you never have to deal with stickers or timers again—the company delivers new filters to your door every two months. An organic filter made of silk + food-based plastic means you’ll never have those pesky black flecks again (or the guilt of throwing away a bulky landfill filter). Plus, the glass carafe is non-toxic glass, and so stylish it’s a lovely addition to your table.

I’ve put together over $1000 in prizes and am giving away 20 days of goodies!

Books, juices, my favorite healthy products, jewelry, and more are just a tiny way for me to say thank you for being a part of my online tribe – my “Clan of the Crave Bears!”

Enter to win this Soma Water Filter below! xo, Alex

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P.S. If you’re ready to just buy a soma and get some pretty water for your home, order one here: