I’ll be 40 in 8 days…
And what I hear from so many women, both older + younger,
is that they want to feel like they’re living their own lives.
And that too often we wake up one day, or look in the mirror, and say:
what am I doing?
Is THIS what I want? What have I been wasting my time on?
I felt that way when I realized I couldn’t trust my marriage and asked for a divorce.
I felt that way when my body was breaking down and I knew I needed to eat meat again.
And that feeling shows up in daily choices around how I spend my time, how I run
my business, and what I do with the finite energy I’ve got.
Our deep fears keep us from sharing our quirks, truths, and following our cravings.
Cravings for experiences, creation, well-being, and adventure.
Fears of being publicly shamed,
Fears of being selfish, being too much, being too loud,
just being ourselves.
And we give away our precious energy to things + people that don’t really matter to us in this short life.
Creating boundaries gives us a framework in which to create our own life.
“What you say no to is as important as what you say yes to.” Tweet this
What I WON’T do…AKA My To-DON’T List:
eat foods that drain my energy, and put me in a food coma
spend more than 30 minutes on social media a day
let my phone distract me from my family
get lost in gossip magazines + reality TV (AKA the “comparison trap”)
let fear get in the way of sharing my ideas with the world
waste energy judging other women
read my book reviews online
apologize for taking time + resources for my self care
apologize for taking up space
spend time on projects that don’t serve me, my readers and listeners
get lost in negative mind chatter that my body and life aren’t good enough
respond to negative online attacks – haters gonna hate, and I don’t need to throw them any more fuel
What I WILL do…
write as if my soul will die if I don’t express it
cook + eat foods that boost my energy
get 7-9 hours of sleep a night
meet up with at least 2 friends a week
read a new book for fun every month
get the tattoo I’ve been dreaming of, now
take a trapeze class
roller skating birthday party
frequently initiate juicy dates with my man
read and play daily with my son
take time for myself to read, walk, be in nature
take my bike for a tune up so I can ride the first nice day of spring
call my Dad, brother, and Grandma regularly
write thank you letters to all the people who helped me spread the word about Women, Food, And Desire
take hot baths and read inspiring books
tell everyone I love them any time I feel like it
draw, paint, color, and play my ukulele – and share them all with people
give away $100 as a family every month to awesome charities…
live as if 40 were my LAST birthday, because really, who knows?
I want to hear from you here in the comments below:
What will you NOT do anymore?
What’s NOT serving you?
Make a list.
I’m here to cheer you on and support your biggest vision for your life! xo, Alex