Is self-love the missing ingredient in your weight loss plan? 5 Reasons To Masturbate

If you’ve tried every diet, cleanse, detox, and fast, and you’re still having trouble feeling good in your body, it’s time to really get serious:

It’s time to add self-pleasure (AKA masturbation) to your gym + juicing schedule.

Well, not JUST masturbation, but anything that brings you sincere physical pleasure that also balances your hormones. And arousal and orgasm are most easily achieved through masturbation, especially if you’re single, or in a sexless relationship.
5 reasons masturbation is a MUST for balancing hormones (and dropping a few pounds):

1. According to the 2009 University of Michigan study[i], orgasm help the body release oxytocin, the “love + bonding” hormone, which in turn lowers cortisol,
the main stress hormone chronically elevated in many women (like me!) and lead to stress eating, and weight loss resistance.

2. Higher levels of oxytocin makes us happy, which keeps those emotionally-triggered food cravings for sugars, cheese, and other “happy foods” at bay. This surge also raises levels of a substance called CCK, which helps control your appetite. Just start! Even if you’re not an expert, your own digits are ready to help you begin at home. Oxytocin levels are usually increased simply through the physical stimulation of the clitoris, vagina, cervix, and breasts. So even if you don’t reach climax, you’ll still be releasing these powerful neurotransmitters. Women who enjoy more sexual stimulation have more balanced estrogen and testosterone. These hormones add fire to sexual desire,  improve mood and memory and can even help prevent abdominal fat.

3. In my book, Women, Food, And Desire, I tell the story of a client who wasn’t dating, and wasn’t masturbating. She had also been suffering tummy trouble for years, and worked a very stressful job. Bloating, gas, and the dreaded “muffin top” that wouldn’t budge. I took her to Babeland, a clean, well-lit place for sex toys, and we talked with a knowledgeable staff member who helped her pick out her first non-toxic vibrator. After a couple of weeks of self-exploration, she noticed a major difference in her digestion! And she certainly had a nice spring in her step!

4. Daydream, girl! Another study[ii] reveals that sexy daydreams release testosterone in women – which means, when you read erotic fiction, or watch any kind of porn that excites you, your body will begin anticipating encounter, which naturally raises your libido. Babeland.com has some great options for the desire seeker.

5. Orgasms help us sleep, which may be the best reason of all to masturbate. Oxytocin, that wonderful love drug, creates an overall feeling of relaxation and even sleepiness. Vasopressin and melatonin, two other neurotransmitters associated with sleep, are also released during orgasm.

Masturbation happens in most relationships, so if you’re not talking about it with your partner, bring it up. Share this information with them!

If you’re single, and not masturbating regularly, start including self-pleasure in  your life, consistently.

The psychological and emotional benefits are so helpful for what ails us:

Wouldn’t it be nice to feel relaxed, satisfied, and good without needing a cupcake?

For more great insights on the benefits, myths, and latest science around masturbation, check out the latest Crave Cast podcast episodes!

I’ll be interviewing some of the top experts on female desire, sexual health and more!

Go here to subscribe to the Crave Cast: 

Happy May!

xo,

Alex

 

[i] J Sex Med. 2009 Mar;6(3):739-51. doi: 10.1111/j.1743-6109.2008.01123.x. Epub 2008 Dec 5.

[ii] Horm Behav. 2011 May;59(5):754-64. doi: 10.1016/j.yhbeh.2010.12.005. Epub 2010 Dec 24.

 

Get Over Your “Shoulds” + Enjoy Getting What You Want

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Ever think any of these?

I should really lose some weight.

I should look for a new job. This one makes me unhappy.

I should really start eating better.

I should cut back the hours I am working.

I should really figure out what makes me happy, and do it more.

Should is just a dis-empowering word, so if you are using it, you most likely don’t really want to do what you are “shoulding” yourself to do.

 

Should Definition
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Used to express obligation or duty. You should send her a note.

Used to express probability or expectation. They should arrive at noon.

Used to express conditionality or contingency. If she should fall, then so would I.

 

You may want the result of losing weight or finding a job you love, but inherent in the “should’ statement above is the connotation that it is an obligation, not something you want to do.

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There is a lack of desire and a sense of guilt present in these statements.

There is also a sense of expectation.

AND, this is all GREAT information. Whenever you “should” yourself about doing ANYTHING, there is some aspect of doing this thing you feel you “should” do that seems unpleasant or uncomfortable, that you really don’t wish to do.

So, do you really want to shame yourself into doing it???

That never works does it? When anyone else tries to guilt you into doing something, does that ever feel good? You generally resent doing something you are guilt-ed into doing, right?

And, this entire conversation is energetically draining.

So, whenever you hear yourself say the word “should” can you please stop and think about what you are expecting in this scenario?

What about this seems difficult to you?

It’s easier to make time in our lives for things we want to do or for things we feel will have some kind of positive pay off, like advancing our careers in some way.

Who has found time to:

Go to a networking event?

Have dinner or lunch with a friend you enjoy?

Watch your favorite TV show, the one to which you are addicted?


You do these things because they pay off in some way.

Going to that networking event may help you make an important business connection.

Having dinner or lunch with your friend will be fun and supportive.

Watching your Favorite TV show will give you something to talk about at work and be a fun distraction.

So, if you can figure out something you can do that will support weight loss that also provides you with some other more immediate, emotional pay off, you are more likely to do it!

Walking in the park with a friend gives you a calorie burn plus some friendship- fun and support.

Riding a stationary bike while reading a great novel or watching a great TV series will make you want to get on that bike to see what happens next.

Taking a workout class or dance class that inspires and exhilarates you will make you want to go back for more!

You are most likely NOT going to do something that you think you “should” do, so watch for that word dancing around in your head or your conversations.

The word “Should” is just an alert that:

You have an expectation that the only way you can get the result you want is via hardship.

The ways you see this thing you want happening don’t have any positive emotional pay offs.

You think what you want is impossible for you.

 

If you don’t believe something is possible, it will be really tough to make it happen.

 

There are so many fun and engaging ways to exercise and feel great in your body!

There are lots of really delicious ways to eat healthy!

It’s way easier to take steps to get a new job when you believe it is possible to work in a situation you love!

 

If you would like to discover just how you “should” yourself and how you can get the results you want by taking actions you really LOVE and ENJOY doing, join me and my Buddies, Lara Riggio and amazing psychotherapist to the stars, Terri Cole for an amazing day in which we will be helping you experience how you can get Get it All Done with more ease, grace and joy.

In our Success Simplified Workshop on May 2nd in NYC, you will discover:

  • How to distinguish between a “Should” and a “Want” so you minimize unnecessary pressure in your life.
  • The art of mastering how to set effective boundaries with ease and kindness, so you don’t get roped into doing anything you don’t want to do.
  • How to identify what is stealing your energy, and get it back!
  • Discover how easy self-care activates The Law of Attraction, so you can benefit from this real phenomenon.
  • Sample the magic of quick & easy mindfulness practices like mini meditations and 60 second Present Moment
  • Awareness exercises you can do anywhere to harness the power of your intention.
  • And Uncover the downloaded limiting beliefs that are stopping you from having what you deserve, release them with energy work and feel the freedom and power you have as a result.
  • Release your resistance to receiving, so you can accept the help, love and appreciation available to you.
  • Learn how to listen to your body’s cravings, discover what your body needs from them and how to satisfy yourself with food.

 

Meet + bond with women like you: join this empowered posse of like-minded sisters, and know you are never alone.

Come get your health + inspiration on, and still have time in your Saturday schedule for your errands and a mani/pedi.

So, in addition to all the priceless strategies, tools and support you are going to receive during the day, you will be receiving over $160 of free stuff to help you practice what you discover throughout the day!

Sign up before April 20 + get the Early Bird Special, save $50!

Click Here to Register 

 

Come Play With Alex! 1-week retreat in North Carolina!

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WOMEN, FOOD & DESIRE WITH ALEX JAMIESON

This transformational workshop is led by bestselling author, functional nutrition coach, and chef, Alex Jamieson. Alex will guide you in discovering the true meanings of your food cravings, and teach you how understanding these cravings is the key to satisfying your deepest desires. Along with Alex, some of Asheville’s top teachers, natural healers, and conscious cooks will take you on excursions to explore, concoct, and connect with your body and how to meet your desires in a way that serves your well being. In this workshop you will learn about the core of your desires, detoxing your system, feeding your cravings, healing your relationship with food, and embracing your body.

If you love pleasure and food, you will gain life-long wisdom in this week-long retreat.

DATE: December 6-12, 2015. LOCATION: Asheville, NC.

FEE: See Early Bird Discounts & other details below. Register + learn more here: 

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LEARN:

Learn the real reasons behind all your cravings––for food, sleep, sex, movement, companionship and inspiration––and how to satiate your cravings in a loving, healthy way. Experience natural healing, emotional release, pure pleasure, and deep connection. Throughout the week, you will be learning about the following:

With Alex You’ll Learn:

To make peace with food & embrace your body
The importance of pleasure & how to prioritize it
How cleansing can connect you with your authentic self
What your cravings mean & creative recipes to satisfy them
The secrets to thriving relationships, vitality & positive aging
Heart habits & healing rituals to release the past & move forward
Transformational dietary changes & mindset tools to improve food habits

Hands-on Projects & Healing Practices:

The Conscious Kitchen: Active meditations for a healthier you
Nature Walks: Connecting with the beauty & stillness of nature’s wisdom
Herbs for Healthy Hormones: Making medicine for menstruation to menopause
Everyday Aphrodisiacs: Cacao concoctions, herbal teas & tonics for a sensual life
Emotional Freedom Technique: A.k.a “tapping” your way to food freedom & ease
“Combining humor and candor with a smart, science-based approach, Alexandra Jamieson helps you develop a healthier, sexier, more vital existence. With practical, easy-to-implement strategies, she shows you how to transcend obstacles and tap into your deepest purpose.” ~ JJ Virgin, nutrition & fitness expert and bestselling author

 

LOCATION
Asheville, North Carolina is based in a food-centric and ecologically lush bioregion. Surrounded by the oldest mountains on the planet, the hoppin’ downtown is full of local artisans, organic restaurants, farmer’s markets, street buskers, yoga studios, and independent everything. It’s the first Bee City, USA, the #1 Beer City in the country, andNational Geographic named it one of the best cities in the world, while Good Morning America recently featured Asheville as their top city to visit in 2015. There’s tons to do, so stay a couple extra days if you can.

Homewood-AshevilleThe workshop location for the morning portion of the workshop is at the beautiful Homewood stone castle in the historic neighborhood of Montford — a short five minute drive from the heart of downtown. The afternoon workshops will rotate between various homesteads, gardens, and woodlands — roughly within a 15-minute drive from downtown. Carpooling is encouraged and connections will be made for those without cars.

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To learn more + register, go to: http://ashevillage.org/women-food-desire-with-alexandra-jamieson/

Win Women, Food, And Desire + Cool British Magnet! #20til40

Did you know Women, Food, And Desire hit #1 on Amazon in Popular Psychology/Sexuality, #2 in Health, and was named one of 5 books to Love Yourself Well by fitbottomedgirls.com, as well as the top winter non-fiction book by goop.com!?

Woohoo!

That’s one of the reasons why I’m celebrating with my #20til40 give-away-a-thon, giving away 20 days of my favorite products and goodies that keep me happy and well.

Today’s give away? A signed copy of my book, Women, Food, and Desire, and 2 awesome fridge magnets with the British version of the cover + my favorite theme for the kitchen:

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Enter to win below!

And come back every day through 3/27 to win over $1000 in prizes! xo Alex

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#20DaysTil40! Celebrate Alex’s 40th Birthday with 20 Days of Healthy Prizes!

 

I’m turning 40 on 3/27, and I am SO excited to celebrate the 40 blessed, wild, crazy, heart-filling and gut-wrenching years I’ve been honored to be alive.

I usually don’t get all that excited about birthdays, but this one feels BIG!

20 Days of Prizes To Celebrate Alex's 40th Birthday!

There is good science that points to an energy + momentum when we reach a decade birthday. My intention is for 40 to be vibrant, soul-deep, fun, and meaningful.

To really celebrate, I want to give away as much as I get from all of you – so I’ve put together over $1000 in prizes and am giving away 20 days of goodies!

Books, juices, my favorite healthy products, jewelry, grocery delivery services, and more are just a tiny way for me to say thank you for being a part of my online tribe – my “Clan of the Crave Bears!”

Enter Below & Come Back Daily to My Blog To Enter Again!

xo, Alex

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Join me in celebrating this 40th turn around the sun with my partners CVSkinLabsSoma Water Filters, Perfect Supplements, Fomentek, Topricin, Rock That Gem, Suja Juices, Instacart,and more!

 

Alex on Today Show with Kathie Lee + Hoda talking Women, Food, And Desire – oh, and cravings

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Alexandra Jamieson on Today Show Kathie Lee and Hoda – Women, Food, And Desire and Cravings Cleanse

Talking with Kathie Lee + Hoda on the Today Show about Women, Food, And Desire and the Cravings Cleanse was a blast!

These ladies were really interested in the book – even if they kept talking about shrimp scampi!

Watch the full interview here: 

http://www.today.com/klgandhoda/4-reasons-why-women-crave-food-touch-more-2D80474246

Come join me as I coach women (and a few awesome dudes) who want to put the message of Women, Food, And Desire into action, with the new 8-week Cravings Cleanse.

The new course starts 2/12 – learn more and register here: 

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xo,

Alex

 

 

Live “Women, Food, And Desire” book club call with Alex!

Are you reading Women, Food, And Desire?

Want to go deeper, ask Alex a question, or share your insights about your experience of the book?

My baby neice digests the topics of Women, Food, And Desire..

My baby niece digests the topics of Women, Food, And Desire..

Join us for a live call tonight!

Women, Food, And Desire Book Club 
Thursday, February 5th at 6:30pm Eastern

Call in by phone: (425) 440-5100 
Guest pin code: 358597# 

Full list of local Numbers: 
http://InstantTeleseminar.com/Local/?eventid=65310429 

Listen in via computer:
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My 25 top tools for vitality & cravings

This is the conversation too few of us are having –

What do you want? What do you crave?

I am on a mission – to help us all understand our cravings, where they come from, what they’re truly asking us to do, and to turn them (and our bodies) into our best allies…

To get the body, energy, and life we really desire.

I’ve overcome my own food addictions and the weight and health problems these habits caused, and learned something life-altering: when we listen to our cravings, they will lead us onto the path of deep healing.

I’ve dedicated my life to helping other women learn to listen to the wisdom of their cravings and make food their greatest ally as they step into their lives with authentic passion.

Next week, I’m bringing together 25 of my friends, most admired experts, and favorite coaches in the Women, Food, and Desire Tele-Summit.

I’ll interview over 20 cutting edge experts in eating psychology, cravings, embodiment, weight, health, and nutrition.

Women, Food, & Desire is a revolutionary FREE online event from November 3-7 , 2014!  

Sign up to join us and get access to these juicy conversations – I know I can’t wait to listen to the other experts!

Why I believe in play – come camping with me?

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I believe in the power of play…

I believe that in order to fall in love with our bodies, we need to enjoy living in them –

and the best way to enjoy your body is to play!

(hence my new pink roller skates!) pink skates

Whatever way you have fun in your body, whether it’s skating, hiking with your dog, or going to yoga with your best friend – when you have fun in your body, when you PLAY, your body responds.

It heals, relaxes, and major shifts are possible.

When we are at play, exercise moves from drudgery to heavenly. Competition moves from frustrating to fulfillment. When we play, we feel, act and look younger and more alive.

So play has become a very important part of my life.

And one of my favorite ways to have fun – since I was a kid – is to go to camp!

Getting out of your normal surroundings, playing with other “kids” of all ages, learning new skills, bonfires – what’s not to love?!

This September I’ll be featured at 2 camps, just for adults, and I’d like to tell you a little bit about them so you can join in if you’re game…

The first is Soul Camp:

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September 4th-7th Honesdale, Pennsylvania

(2.5 hours from NYC)

http://soulcamp2014.com/

Created as an adult camp for the soul, I’ll be speaking on Following Your Cravings to the Life and Body You’ll love at this fun-filled sleep away camp for the soul.

Check out the amazing list of over 35 “camp staffers” who will lead workshops on everything from yoga, meditation, astrology & angel card readings, boating at the waterfront, nature walks, Buti aerobics classes, breath work, intenSati, organic farming, arts & crafts and soo much more!

I am beyond thrilled and honored to be a part of this years Soul Camp Staff – if you have been waiting for the opportunity to see, hear and try out all of your favorite mind/body/spirit instructors & classes in one place at one time – this one’s for you.

OR ~ Come with me to the Good Life Camp!

Good Life Camp

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September 11th-14th Rock Hill, NY (90 minutes from NYC)

The brain child of my friend and mentor, Jonathan Fields, Good Life Camp is a weekend for the aligned entrepreneur who wants to build a life, not just make a living.

I’ve been reading and talking with Jonathan for a few years now, and love the teachers, guides and coaches he brings together for those of us who run our own show – or who dream to start their own business.

Because one of Jonathan’s foundations is health and vitality I know that if you’re reading this and crave your own business as a way to express yourself in the world, then you may want to join me.

AND I’ve been offered a special discount to share with you, my peeps – so if you decide to sign up, use the code: FF10 and get 10% off camp!

That’s enough savings to buy all the organic chocolate for s’mores you can stomach!

Learn more about Good Life Camp here: http://bit.ly/goodcampalex

Join Me For The Summer Lightness Cleanse Retreat in NY


Hi Everyone! I want you to spend five days not doing a single dish, not cooking a single meal, not even making the bed.

 I’m SO excited to announce my retreat in upstate New York – And you’re invited!

Join me June 30th for the SUMMER LIGHTNESS CLEANSE RETREAT: Discover Your Ability to Rejuvenate & Shine!

Where: Omega Retreat Center, Rhinebeck, NY

When: June 30-July 4th (departure after breakfast)

Click here to find out more & register now.

Join me and a group of fun, wholehearted, like-minded people who want to feel great and start summer with a clean slate.

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Here’s what we’ll create:

1)    A lasting sense of ease and joy of being in your body.

2)    A deliciously easy detox experience that moves you towards your health goals.

3)    Space, support, and uninterrupted time to exist in a way that is true to who YOU are.

 

I want you to pause on a thought for a minute. Really close your eyes and see if you can feel it.

Step into lightness.

Feels good, yes?

Are you even smiling a little?

What will happen when you step out of your routine and leave all the little loose ends of your usual day-to-day?

Lots can happen. Big shifts. . . Having actual movement through a block you’ve had for quite some time. Et Voila: The result? Lightness.

But it takes determination to get to that lightness.

And support.

It’s likely not that hard to do—probably even takes less time than you think.

Maybe it’s even a lot easier than you imagined in those cranky moments when you’re sleep deprived, your computer’s hard drive failed, or suddenly need to find a whole new wardrobe for your kiddo because he had to go and have a growth spurt…

Then there’s dishes and laundry and cooking, oh my!

There are a lot of ~distractions~ that can keep you from connecting to that lightness. And when you’re not feeling the kind of lightness that brings gorgeous a-ha moments, shatters emotional or mental blocks, or gives you refreshing clarity. . . you’re less likely to stop and figure out what you need to do to figure it out.

You can likely move through whatever you want to move through eventually, but it’s so DAMN inspiring to make it happen, because that, folks, is empowerment.

You get to step back and say, “Holy smokes, I just did that!”

But a lot depends on whether you want to wait for it to randomly occur, or go out and MAKE it happen.

Here’s what I believe in my bones: We don’t have time to wait for the life we want to come to us.

These things don’t just magically occur.

But the real magic is that we can easily create them.

Maybe you’ve been stuck for a while with something about your health that just doesn’t work.

And you realize that you want to do something that will actually give you that clarity, lightness, and practical help to make a change. I want to tell you a personal story.

You know you might be able figure it out on your own if you worked really hard, but that sounds like a totally fun party—not!

Fifteen years ago when I was working a job that didn’t fit me, I realized that I had waltzed into a life that not only didn’t inspire me, but that made me physically ill.

(Hello—break room sugar/caffeine central…my best “frienemy”!)

I was too distracted, exhausted, and downtrodden to see clearly enough to get myself out of that situation because I felt so bad ALL the time. I didn’t get to that state of ill health overnight, but I knew that I had to get out of there right quick because my life literally depended on it.

(Spoiler Alert…yup, my life got WAY better once I stepped outside the whirring chatter of the day and competing calls for my attention.)

Back in the day, the things that didn’t work in my life were hazy, but I saw them. I had a sense that they weren’t in alignment with who I was and who I wanted to become. But I didn’t act until it was a five-alarm fire (this is too late).

When I think about it, it was rather cruel of me to do that to myself.

So how do we do build up the momentum to invite these positive changes in a more kinder, gentler way?

Here’s what I do: (snd you can bet, I will do this for the rest of my life!)

I step outside.

One of my non-negotiables is to get away every few months—to conferences, retreats, workshops—events that fuel me and bring me closer to who I am.

When we experience a different way of being, we can’t go back to our lives and act the same old way. We’re changed people.

Taking time out, away from my family and my business to be at retreats is the best way to ensure that I’m staying on track with who I am. Being the best person, woman, mom, friend, and entrepreneur is a tall order, but I wouldn’t have it any other way.

In these inspiring moments I’ve gotten more clarity about my mission and started really rockin’ it.

Join me for the SUMMER LIGHTNESS CLEANSE RETREAT: Discover Your Ability to Rejuvenate & Shine.

We’ll get you all fresh and sparkly at laser speed.

We’ll have cooking demonstrations, easy and enlivening movement sessions, writing exercises, small-group discussions, guided meditations, and presentations from some of the best teachers I know.

We’ll talk about the “Toxic 6″ foods and avoid them all week in order to help our bodies remove the “static” that keeps us feeling anxious, tired, foggy-headed and stressed-out.

We’ll discover new ways to totally love delicious, healthy foods that boost our energy, mood and outlook on life.

You’ll get clarity on exactly what you need to feel better.

The best of all? You’ll get to take that lightness back home with you when you leave.

If you’re thinking that this might be your idea of a hootin’ and hollering good time, check out the link.

Oh yeah, and I’m super excited to say that I have something else to tell you:

When you sign up for the Summer Lightness Cleanse Retreat you are automatically enrolled in my 8 week e-course  that starts July 21st. More details to come, but for now just know that it’s a $350 program that you’ll get for free!

 

I hope I’ll get to see you there!

XO,

Alex

 

P.S. Imagine what you could achieve by getting fully recharged. More productive? More present for your work or family? More fun? Let’s find out :) Register here.

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