Welcome! I’m so grateful that you’re here and spending time with me today! We’re changing our name, did you hear? The Crave Cast will become Her Rules Radio in the very near future. Let’s check in on how Thanksgiving went, so how did it go? I gave you a couple of episodes in the weeks before Thanksgiving to help you deal with any of the pitfalls you may encounter over the holiday. My Thanksgiving turned into a “Friendsgiving” and we cooked all day and had friends over and the food was awesome! We had a 10-hour celebration and we got to enjoy time with friends. I love having a cozy day at my home, surrounded by people that I love.
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I first became aware of anger snacking in my own life. To be honest, it was during the time I was going through my divorce. I noticed it when I was so mad that I was crunching my way through a family sized bowl of popcorn. I was mad and was destroying things with my teeth. I crunched my way through snack after snack after snack. I wanted to act out in so many ways, but that wasn’t appropriate so I just crunched and crunched. Yep, you get the idea. That’s what we are talking about today!
- It can feel disempowering to be a woman much of the time
- My “Women Who Rock” Spotify Play List!
- 97% of women have at least 1 “I hate my body” moment each day
- It feels incredibly unsafe to show our anger as women
- Women aren’t encouraged to show our true feelings.
- Strong emotions get stuck in the body if they aren’t worked through
- Unexpressed anger + belief we can’t be angry + overwhelming futility + chronic sensitivity to threat = trauma
- We are surrounded by trauma that we aren’t allowed to respond to appropriately
- You won’t believe the stats mentioned about issues that affect women
- Your body registers stuck anger and it must release it in some way
- Find out how “the rules” affect and suppress all of us
- Why we go to war against yourself and against your body
- It’s ok to be angry, so give yourself permission
- Why you should take a self-defense class
- If you are a career nice girl – get your anger out
Here are some of my favorite practices to help overcome Anger Snacking:
- Go to your room, close the door and beat the crap out of your pillow.
- Write a letter to the person who makes you angry. Then do a burning ritual on it.
- Practice maintaining a calm awareness of your anger and allow yourself to feel it
- Remember that you are divinely worthy of love
- Start having challenging conversations with those who trigger you and make you angry
- Share your boundaries with them and share your desires for your future relationship and interaction
Your Body Keeps the Score – Dr Bessel A. Van der Kolk MD
Krav Maga – self defense
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It’s almost Thanksgiving, so I have to start today’s episode with my gratitude list!
- got to see the sunrise from my apartment window
- grateful for my Ginger kitty
- my amazing 10 year old son – for so many reasons
- my husband Bob – he’s amazing in so many ways
- my clients – strong, curious, brave women who are doing transformative work
- my listeners – I feel you. I hear you and I am so thankful that you show up here
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I’ll have to admit, in these last few weeks I have been tested. My gratitude has been tested. I started this podcast because I know that the pursuit of women’s health is a worthy pursuit. I shared my feelings in an episode after the election and received some pretty strong critiques from you. It’s so hard for women to have a safe place. We are always being judged and it takes its toll on our bodies and our minds. My comments in the show after the episode was that many women were feeling unsafe. Many women were feeling triggered by the sexism being displayed. I even encouraged women to take a self-defense class. I’m doing that and empowering myself to take control and feel powerful. I recommended getting together with other women and supporting each other.
I received some of the meanest comments that I have ever received. I was surprised by the anger that women were using so much anger in these comments. I was told I was being melodramatic. I was told to stop re-victimizing myself. I was criticized and told that there was nothing to be afraid of and I was just stoking fear.
I responded to every woman and asked them to start listening to and responding to other women in a different way. My goal is not to have anyone leave the group, but we have to keep having conversations and actually hearing each other.
In other news, The Crave Cast will be changing to a different name in the near future. It’s going to be called Her Rules! It will still be me interviewing great people, but we will just be called a different name. The mission is still the same and we have so much in store for you!
Today’s guest is Sam Bennett. She’s the author of a new book “Start Right Where You Are” and she also has another book called “Get It Done”. She is a writer, speaker, actor, teacher and creativity/productivity specialist. She is the creator of the www.TheOrganizedArtistCompany.com, dedicated to helping creative people get unstuck, especially by helping them focus and move forward on their goals.
- Sam’s theater background
- She had to stop waiting to be happy in the future
- Why she moved self-care to the top of her to-do list
- How she changed the conversation in her head, so she wasn’t always yelling at herself
- Sam gets resentful that men don’t have to fool with self-care
- You cannot feel guilty about taking time for yourself. That’s backward thinking.
- Why you can’t always be a perfectionist…if you want to enjoy life
- The bad art
- Feelings just want to be felt
- Bless the body parts
- Ways to soften your judgment voice
- There aren’t 2 versions of you. The perfect version of you doesn’t exist. Only you exist, so you cannot compare yourself to something that doesn’t exist
- Surrender isn’t giving up, it’s giving in
- How to relieve overwhelm
- Get your cell phone out of the bedroom – why and why it matters
- Happy, grown up, naked time…..you have to listen to find out about it!
- How to turn complaints into requests
- 4-7-8 breathing
- Nothing bad is happening
Connect with Sam – Website – tons of freebies here, so go get them!
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Books Sam Recommends:
Return to Love
The Noonday Demon
Hello, my Clan of the Crave Bears! At this time in our lives and in our country, many are struggling and experiencing heartbreak and division. Some are wounded and others are frustrated. This adds a tremendous amount of stress to our lives! And to top it all off, we are heading into the holidays, which adds another layer of stress as well. So that’s what today’s episode is about……how to manage the stress and food of the holidays.
Let’s start with food – we are bombarded with triggers around the holiday season. However, there are foods that can help reduce our stress and add calming support to our bodies and emotions. Here are 10 foods you should indulge in especially around the holidays. You’ll feel focused, calm and resilient!
10 Anti-Stress Foods for the Holidays:
- Water – stay hydrated
- Camomile – it’s calming and great in tea
- Sweet potatoes – calming on your stomach – roast a batch at once and store in fridge to make sweet potato pudding.
- Coconut oil/Coconut butter – fuel for the brain and helps to balance hormones
- Leafy greens – kale, bok choy, etc. Rich in folate and a great source of fiber
- Pumpkin seeds – great source of amino acids
- Raw sour kraut – supports your gut health and makes you feel better (all fermented foods have this effect)
- Smoked salmon or other wild caught fish – high in Omega 3’s and play a big role in your emotional health
- Dark chocolate – a mood elevator for most people (85% cocoa)
- Sunshine – in your eyes and on your skin helps your body produce serotonin and is a mood enhancer
Sweet Potato Pudding:
Peel cooked sweet potato
Put in food processor
1 tsp. maple syrup
1 tsp. vanilla extract
Blend until smooth and it’s delicious – you can add melted coconut oil to it too!
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Ways to Handle Holiday Stress:
- You can have food stressors because of the traditional holiday foods that family insists on cooking, but aren’t in alignment with your diet.
- You may feel that your desires are not validated by your spouse and could be stressed about the possibility of another fight or confrontation.
- When we decide to eat differently, it can be seen as an attack on someone else’s identity.
- Start the conversation about guidelines or rules for food well before the holiday begins.
- Verbalize the support you need from your spouse and family
- Don’t make it a big deal – strive to make it comfortable for everyone
Let’s talk about strength and boundaries:
- Emotions are running high and it may not be a great time to be around family that will not allow you to express what you are feeling. Seek support from like-minded friends.
- Pay attention to your emotions and feelings
- Show up and respect the feelings and emotions of others
- Explore your emotions with your friends
- Avoid media that preys on fear and insecurities
- Be vulnerable and honest about your fears and emotions
Profoundly helpful books:
The Body Keeps the Score
Swamplands of the Soul
Hello Crave Bears! I awoke this morning feeling a bit angry. It has taken me all day to come up with words to open this week’s show. I voted for Hillary. I voted for a more open, inclusive, just society, against fear, hate, anger, normalized abuse and sexism, and I voted against Trump. We wonder why more women who have been sexually abused don’t come forward? It’s because an abuser can become the President. Unless we get to a point in our society where we create a climate where abuse and sexism isn’t laughed off, but it is taken seriously and eliminated. We can’t allow deplorable behavior to become normalized. We have to create a safe environment where we can explore the injustice and then do something to fix it.
It’s time for all of us to invest even more in ourselves. When we are strong, our communities are strong. We have to take care of ourselves so that we can be the best version of ourselves to offer to society. When we feel good about our own well being, we can also stand for others, who can’t stand for themselves. We can’t be fearless. We need the fear to guide us. We need to feel the fear. Today, I offer you a way to heal the fear and anxiety that you may be feeling. We need to move to a place of healing. We need to move to a place of safety. I want you to feel safe in this place and empowered as a woman. You may have to become an activist or take a stand you have never taken before. Whatever you need to do to feel safe, embrace it and go for it.
I highly recommend doing things that make you feel safe and supported. Take a self-defense class, get together with a group of women, take a Tai Chi class or do anything at all to make you feel strong and safe. We are not victims, and we will not be victimized. We are stronger together and we need each other!
Today’s guest is Jon Levy. He has a new book out called,The 2am Principle. He’s a friend of mine, he’s a nerd, he’s a data geek and he has now built a life of adventure. He takes risks and he has an amazing, expansive life!
- How Jon got deep into the study of adventure
- Having almost no options can make you get really good at things
- The scientific evidence of benefits of adventure and diversity of experience
- Why some dangers situations are really only a perceived danger
- Flow state and how it affects you
- Why you don’t have to go that far out of your comfort zone to benefit
- We are hyper-social creatures and how we thrive because of it
- Why we need to be bad girls sometimes
- Rustling up some trouble – why you should
- How to use travel to test the limits of your personality
- You’re going to feel like an idiot at times – embrace it
- The 3 benefits of adventure and why it’s a gift
- Jon shares his most embarrassing adventure story
- Why so many of our apologies are unnecessary
- The influencers dinner and making dinner with Malcolm Gladwell
- 4 characteristics that cause influencers to engage
- Giving without any expectation, novelty, curation and awe – how it impacts influencers
jonlevytlb.com – Connect with Jon
The 2am Principle – Get Jon’s Book
Book’s Jon Recommends:
The Little Prince
Welcome back my Clan of the Crave Bears! We got a whole huge crop of great reviews this month. We are so close to 200 reviews! So, if you have a moment drop by iTunes and leave a review. Make sure you put your name on your review so I know who to announce when I pick a winner for the $1000 swag bag! This month’s winner is Jill from MN. If you haven’t joined my contest I have every month go over to iTunes and leave a review and that’s all you have to do.
Today, I’m talking to Ali Shapiro about how to have a truce with food. Ali is a life coach and co-host of the “Insatiable” podcast and a speaker. She combined her training in functional medicine at the Institute of Integrative Nutrition and her masters’ degree in organizational dynamics at UPENN to create her “Truce with Food” method while in graduate school. She is also a 24-year cancer survivor! Her “Truce with Food” method is about ending the gymnastics with food that women get exhausted from. It’s about trying to be good with food but not too strict. How do you do this? Ali and I are going to get into that. Ali has an incredible wealth of knowledge. Please enjoy this interview with Ali Shapiro.
- How long has Ali been working with women?
- What made her want to help other women?
- Why did she think she needed to be on a diet when she was 8?
- Did she have safety in her own body?
- What does it mean to feel safe in your body?
- How does she help women to be able to trust their bodies?
- What is the difference between safety and familiarity?
- What has she seen in girls who played sports and risks?
- What is the “good girl” syndrome?
- What is the breakdown of how she helps women with their bodies in her program “Truce with Food”?
Women Who Run with the Wolves – Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estes
We all want to feel happy in our bodies, right? You have no idea how to get there … and maybe don’t realize how important it really is.
In this episode I get deep with Melissa Ramos, women’s health expert from Canada. Melissa focuses on Chinese nutrition therapy and owner of “Sexy Food Therapy Inc”. She helps women feel sexy from the inside out focusing on digestion and hormone imbalances. We are going to talk about the disturbing trend that is affecting millions of people in America, prescription drug addiction. It’s shocking how many people are using and abusing opioids these days. We need to address the root causes of the addiction. Melissa and I will go into the disconnection with community, lack of support and the overwhelming stress in people’s lives.
Then I will have on Dr. Anna Cabeca, a good friend and hormonal expert. Anna is a board certified OBGYN and a regenerative antiaging medicine expert. She is the creator of “Magical Menopause” as well as “Mighty Maca Greens”. We are going to talk about my new favorite product, her new Julva cream. I cannot tell you enough good things about this product for our delicate female parts. There may be some words or topics that you don’t want younger kids to hear so you may want to pause and scoot them out the door or put in your headphones.
- When did it start, that women were being diagnosed as being broken?
- Why are women so heavily medicated?
- Can the foods you may be eating affect you neurologically?
- How does the bacteria in your body affect your anxiety?
- How bad are the side effects of opioids?
- What is depression?
- What is “Sexy Lady Balls”?
- What kind of probiotic should you get?
- What are women coming to see Dr. Anna Cabeca for?
- What can be used for vaginal dryness?
- What can affect our hormone production?
- Should you douche?
- Should women smell like a flower?
- What is Julva Cream and how does is work?
- What is DHEA?
Welcome back my Clan of the Crave Bears! Today’s guest, Jonathan Fields is a wonderful man! I met him through my husband several years ago. When I first met him I didn’t know what a big deal he was. He has written several books, bought and sold several businesses and now he has written a new book called “How to Live a Good Life: Soulful Stories, Surprising Science and Practical Wisdom”. You might be thinking “seriously another book about how to live a good life?” but so many people are living this life so disconnected, disengaged, dissatisfied and stuck. Whatever is out there isn’t getting through.
Jonathan’s book “How to Live a Good Life” is your antidote! You can test it out with your own personal experiences. It’s drawn from the intersection of science and spirituality and Jonathan’s own years-long quest. This book offers a simple and powerful model, good life buckets. You spend thirty days filling your buckets and reclaiming your life. “How to Live a Good Life” is not just a book to be read. It’s a path to possibilities to be walked and lived!
- What is the story behind the story?
- What is Jonathan’s mission statement?
- Why did he use “How to Live a Good Life” for his title?
- How did he make living in New York “livable”?
- How did he come up with the cover of his book?
- What are the three buckets?
- What is embodied knowledge?
- Why does it feel so hard to create a good life?
- What are some places that people feel plugged in?
- Is there an increase in narcissism?
- Why don’t people go through with their ideas?
How to Live a Good Life: Soulful Stories, Surprising Science and Practical Wisdom
Hidden Brain Podcast – www.hiddenbrain.org
The Road to Character by David Brooks
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Today we are going to be talking about women’s worth, women’s health and women’s financial being. It’s important to have a handle on all of these things. But first I want to talk about Donald Trump, pussy gate and what happened when that tape was released when Billy Bush and Donald Trump were talking about women’s bodies. I think pussy gate is a good thing. Why? Because it’s getting this conversation out of the shadows and into the open. We need to talk about how we talk about women’s bodies. I don’t have a problem with the word pussy. In fact, you can go back two episodes and listen to my interview with Regena Thomashauer and hear about her book “Pussy: A Reclamation.”
We need to reclaim our bodies! Your body is your own and you don’t have to put up with someone bigger or stronger than you doing things you don’t like. The word pussy was not what is so offensive. It’s women being abused, touched etc. and that this is looked upon as a joke. This leads to body shaming, women feeling like something is wrong with them if something is being said about them. This abusive rape culture that we live in has a real effect on women’s lives! When we don’t feel worthy in our bodies we don’t feel worthy to ask for that raise or promotion. When someone else more powerful takes advantage of us physically, we feel inferior and therefore we may not feel capable of understanding finance. So what happened last week with Trump and Billy Bush was disgusting. We need to take advantage of it and talk about this.
The interview we have today takes this one step further. We are going to talk about how this body shaming, sexual culture and how is it having a real dollars and cents effect on women’s income. I am going to be interviewing my dear friend Belinda Rosenbaum. We have known each other for years. Belinda is the CEO of a company called “OwnYourMoney.com.” There are a lot of money experts out there but Belinda is different. She doesn’t just give you money tactics she helps you with the inner game.
- What are the four c’s?
- What brought Belinda to the field she is in?
- What “meaning” are we putting around money?
- What top mistake causes people to struggle with money?
- How can we learn to deal with money?
- How do we change our way with money?
- How does Belinda help people “chill”?
- What are the fears people have about money?
- What are the top money skills needed?
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Just to give you an update on last week, we had Holy Grigg-Spall on hormonal birth control. This week she has an article on thegaurdian.com all about how the pill is linked to depression and how doctors can no longer ignore it. Be sure to go back and listen to episode 108 and share it with anyone you know who are on the pill or considering going on the pill.
Now for a little update in my personal life. I spent an amazing and powerful weekend in Los Angeles. A couple of my friends were going through some tough times and I felt so privileged and blessed to be able to go out there and support them. Not only was it great for me to go out and offer my support but they really impressed me how they asked for help. So often we try to do things on our own, we need other people to help us grow. We are accepting applications for Women on the Verge coaching program. This is one on one coaching to help you grow and heal and make your mark while having fun. This program is for you if you have ever wanted a trusted guide to keep you accountable for your life’s desires. You can go to alexandrajamieson.com/verge and check out testimonials from some amazing women who I have coached in the past.
Part of what keeps us from asking for help is fear. Today’s interview is with Gabby Bernstein and we will be talking about her new book “The Universe Has Your Back: Transforming Fear into Faith.”
- What inspired her to write this book?
- What did this book do for Gabby?
- Is this book good for anyone going through a breakdown?
- How does her book address how fear holds us back?
- What makes this book different from her other books?
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www.theguardian.com – Check out Holly Grigg-Spall’s viral article on “The Pill”
The Universe Has Your Back: Transforming Fear into Faith – Grab a copy of Gabby’s book
Hello, my Clan of the Crave Bears! On today’s show we will be talking about the pill, actually, a book called “Sweetening the Pill” by Holly Grigg-Spall. In the interview, Holly and I talk about my experience with birth control and how scary it was. The reason I want to talk about this today is because millions of healthy women take a powerful drug every day, from mid-teens to menopause. Few know the effects or potential side effects.
Contrary to cultural myth, birth control pills impact every organ and function of the body and yet most women don’t even think of it as a drug. Depression, anxiety, rage, panic attacks, are just a few of the effects of being on the pill. When the pill was first released, it was thought that women would not submit to taking a medication when they weren’t sick. Now the pill is making women sick! Holly Grigg-Spall’s book that we are going to talk about has inspired a documentary! Ricki Lake and Abby Epstein, the producers of “The Business of Being Born” are producing a new documentary, and Holly is the consulting producer and writer. This is a great book and great interview. If you are on birth control pills or any other hormonal birth control you will definitely want to listen to this episode!
- When did Holly start taking the pill?
- How long did she stay on the pill?
- Why aren’t we worried about the impact of birth control?
- How is her relationship with being a woman now that she is off the pill?
- How does the pill affect attraction?
- What is post pill syndrome?
- What is the pro period movement?
- What are some healthy alternatives?
Moody Bitches by Julie Holland
Mighty Maca Greens
Annmarie Gianni Essential Oils