Life before Death. Strength and Courage. Finding Meaning.

Resilience, Rethinking your thinking traps, meaning, Post Traumatic Growth

Resilience, Rethinking your thinking traps, meaning, Post Traumatic Growth

I believe in life before death. 

In my past, I forgot to appreciate what was true and real, and forgot to enjoy the moment, enjoy what I had.

I see in my clients, who I now think the Universe brings to me to mirror my own journey, the same struggles:

We work too much, eat too much, diet too much, deprive ourselves of fun too much, drink too much, shop too much, try to please others too much. And still there’s this hunger inside us that goes unfed.

How are you living your life today, now, in this moment?
What do you desire, crave, yearn for that you could have NOW?

What are you putting off, sweetie pie?
Why wait? 


Life is for YOU. Today. Now.

 

My mission is to help people (mainly women, but yes, some awesome dudes, as well) accept and love themselves back to health. To help people focus and build on their strengths as a way to heal and find meaning in life. To help us all learn skilled resilience.

To turn away from what I call the “Diet Industrial Complex” which has us hating our bodies, ignoring our desires, and shaming each other.

Join me – www.WomenFoodAndDesire.com 

To Crave Is Human: Women, Food & Desire

It’s time to stop counting calories…
time to stop giving up our power to the “diet industrial complex”…
and ask ourselves, what do my body and soul truly crave?

Healing. Strength. Energy. Resilience. Juicy Mojo. 
This is what we want.

The book arrives 1/6. Put these ideas into action now – I’ve created a free 50+ recipe cookbook for you – get it here: www.womenfoodanddesire.com

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Saying ‘no’ – on boundaries and cravings

 

 

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The body sets boundaries for us all the time, but how well do we listen and head the body’s message? 

Saying ‘no’ is as important as saying ‘yes!’

Saying no to other people’s to-dos, and saying yes to more quality sleep.

Saying no to the diet industrial complex, its rules and size requirements, and saying yes to deep, true healing.

Saying no to the fast food lifestyle, and instead embracing real food.

Saying no to a life of punishment, deprivation, and lack-luster experiences, and saying YES to pleasure, fun, and play!

This is the call. Will you answer it?


Get the free 50+ recipe e-cookbook that puts all this into action:www.womenfoodanddesire.com

Top 50 Mindful Eating Sites of 2014

 

 

Cool news! We’ve been chosen as one of the top Mindful Eating Sites of 2014!

The top blogs were chosen based on a number of criteria including:

  • sharing research-based, practical information on nutritious eating
  • tips for ending emotional eating
  • advocating approaches other than fad dieting
  • sound psychological strategies for ending mindless eating and developing a better relationship with food

These sites were chosen by www.eatingmindfully.com, a website that has provided information on mindful eating since 2001 by Dr. Susan Albers, psychologist and author of six books on mindful eating including the books, Eating Mindfully, EatQ and 50 Ways to Soothe Yourself Without Food, an early pioneer in the field of mindful eating.

It’s an honor to be featured amongst some of my favorite sites, including Summer Tomato, Geneen Roth, and Dr. Frank Lipman.

Check out the other sites and get some powerful inspiration! 

xo,

Alex

Comparison kills joy – be you, honey.

I’ll tell you the same thing I would tell Renee Zellwegger if I were ever to meet her:

Don’t waste one ounce of your precious time or mojo by giving a crap about what anyone thinks of you.

When you step out of the shadows and into the spotlight, shining your truth and showing your desires and cravings,
you’ll probably find yourself in front of a horde of haters…
a firing squad of saboteurs…
a panel of professional shamers ready to pounce.

What’s happening online to Renee Zellwegger today is why so many people hide from going for the life they so desperately want to live.

Just stepping out and being yourself is such a huge risk.

Look at how people are talking about Renee today…
Look at how we treat stars and celebrities…
We pick apart every move they make, every outfit they wear, and everything they say…

No wonder so many of them end up in rehab.

And no wonder so many of us hide our own truths.
We see what happens to famous people, and hear our own judgments about them, and we freak out that it will happen to us too.

You are the only person responsible for your actions and words.
You are NOT responsible for what anyone else may think about what you do and say.

In fact, what they think is none of your business.
Comparison is the thief of joy. When we think ourselves better off or worse than someone else,
we feel judged and bad about ourselves, even if we thought we “won” the match.

So all of this social media shaming and comparing?
It’s keeping you stuck and hating your own body, and fearful of aging, gaining weight, or ever being seen.

Gossiping about Renee Zellwegger and what kind of plastic surgery she had is keeping you stuck in and hating your own body.

Want to be happy with food, your body, and and how you relate to them?
Stop the comparison.

Or if you can’t stop it, (because, honestly, we are built to compare – it’s a human survival tactic) just NOTICE the comparisons, and say “thanks, I’m not in comparison mode right now.”

Want to love how you look in your body?
Stop comparing yourself to and gossiping about Hollywood stars.
And your friends.

Be the gorgeous leaf that you are.

We're all uniquely beautiful - no one wins when we compare ourselves.

We’re all uniquely beautiful – no one wins when we compare ourselves.

Love yourself, stop shaming others, and do your best to recognize your own judgments and comparisons.

You only win when you don’t compare.

Evolution of Medicine: Join me & Deepak Chopra 9/8-9/12

Getting healthy feels like finding a needle in a haystack these days…

Evolving medicine means that we are trying new things all the time. I’m cool with always learning (I’m a “life long learner” and could go to school for the rest of my life! AKA “nutrition nerd!”), but…

If you aren’t constantly educating yourself about the evolution of medicine, how can find the answers for your own desires and cravings for good health?

And there are so many who come to this site looking for simple answers that move the needle – for your own health and that of your family.

The Evolution of Medicine Summit will show you the future of healthcare.

Plus, it’s online and free from September 8-15, 2014.

Click here and listen to some of the top experts and find that new nugget of nutrition news to move you forward:  https://ji177.isrefer.com/go/emreg/deliciousalex/

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Here are a few of the other awesome presenters:

  • Deepak Chopra, MD, Best Selling Author; Ayurvedic and Mind/Body Medicine, The Evolution of Consciousness
  • Mark Hyman, MD, Multiple Best Selling Author, Chairman of IFM, Evolution of Medical Paradigm
  • Food Babe aka Vani Hari, Activist Blogger; Digital Innovator, Activism: Empowered Medical Evolution
  • Joe Cross aka Joe The JuicerThe Great Health Outsourcing Experiment

This Evolution of Medicine Summit will give  you with the insights you need to:
Understand what causes disease and how to disease-proof yourself
Elevate you and your family towards better health
Make the most out of the next generation of health technology

I love this series, and know that there are at least a few interviews that will help you find your way through the world’s overwhelming amount of health information.

So here’s what I suggest – pick 2 interviews. 

Sign up for free today, then look at the list of experts. 

And just choose TWO interviews to listen in on – choose the two that pull you and interest you the most.

You’ll pick the right ones, you’ll get 1 or 2 golden nuggets of info, and can put them into action.

Another cool thing about this series is that it includes some great free gifts as soon as you register:

 

  • “Are we Deluded by Disease?” a presentation by Jeffrey Bland, PhD
  • “Delivering Evolved Medicine,” a presentation by Tom Blue, CSO of AAPP
  • “The Four Causes of Chronic Disease,” 4 audio recordings brought to you by Revive Primary Care

I hope you’ll take the time for yourself to listen in and discover your next healthy step.

I’ll see you at the Summit!

xo,

Alex

 

Recover from burn out: East Meets West series (listen in)

If you’re here, you want to feel good. Not just good – GREAT.

And all the time, not just once in a while. Yet, how to get that great feeling?

You’re juggling a lot: your career, family, friends, and the dog. Who has time to be healthy?

Amidst it all you’re feeling tired, burnt out, and unhappy with your body. As each day passes, there is a long list of excuses of why there “isn’t enough time”.

Rather than wait for the perfect time to open up in your hectic schedule, it’s time for you to find out how to live healthy today! You’ve already put your needs aside and it’s finally time to take care of YOU.

Sometimes you just need that ONE thing – one new piece of information, or one new person, to help you break out of your old habits and start anew.

You deserve a new energy to get the self-care, time and rejuvenation you desire.

Imagine…

- Feeling vibrant
- Feeling excited to start you day
- Working efficiently and getting stuff done because you are eating healthy and have energy to get through your day
- Having time to exercise and still spend time with your family and kids
- Not having to take another miserable sick day from work

I want to introduce you to my friend, Susan Shah.

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Susan is a holistic nutrition and lifestyle coach. Previously a Wall Street professional, she was burnt out and understands first hand the difficulty of building a career while desiring self care and balance. Today Susan helps her clients achieve work-life balance and optimal health.

Join her FREE online series, EAST MEETS WEST FOR OPTIMAL HEALTH: Traditional Health Solutions For Your Busy Life where you will learn how to live your healthiest life. Learn traditional health secrets that will give you the lasting health results you’ve been want to integrate into your life without wasting another moment learning about the latest health fads.

Click HERE to get the series for free & listen in:

 

Here’s what you’ll find in the series:

- Hear from top experts in the field of nutrition, fitness, digestion, natural healing, and personal growth who will teach you to achieve your best health no matter how busy you are
- Actionable tips you can implement today so you feel in control and happy
- Easy steps to break through the fear that is holding you back
- Learn how to balance your career and life and still be happy juggling it all

I’m honored to be a part of this series – and hope that you find the inspiration and information you want (AKA crave) to make the rest of 2014 ROCK.

Sign up here for free: 

xo,

Alex

8 Ways to be the BEST Partner When Your Love is on a Cleanse…(or Diet, or Detox)

This guest post was written by Bob Gower, my amazing partner in life.

But MAN, I wish I’d known all this back when I helped create Super Size Me!!

I’m always amazed at how good he is at anticipating my needs and moods when I’m doing a cleanse or detox, which I realize comes from his many years of self-experiment! 

Having a support person you can call on to help you through any food change, including the Cravings Cleanse, is one of the best ways to succeed – and I hope you’ll share this with anyone close to you as your begin your next cleanse. 

Bob has mastered the art of supporting me through dietary changes, and has some words of wisdom to share with anyone who is partnered up with someone who wants to begin their own cleanse journey.

Within the first year of knowing, and loving, Alex she supported me in changing my diet, writing a book, and recovering from major surgery. And I supported her in a few things as well like launching a website, being a mom, and redefining her business.

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What I’ve learned from being with her is that while relationships may start with passion and friendship, they grow, and are sustained by, mutual support. We love each other by helping each other be the best we can be.

I should add here that this does not mean we point out where people fall short, or define what “best” means for our partner. Rather we let them define their own vision and then do what we can to help them get it.

And, if you’re like me, you fall short over and over again. You get caught up in the day to day of your life, your needs, your stresses and forget to take your partners stresses and ambitions seriously enough. This is natural and human—and it’s something to work on.

What I’ve learned from my own dietary experiments and those of my partner is that while they can have a hugely transformative effect on your life these changes can take a toll on our lives. In fact I’m sure that one of the most challenging things anyone can do is make a change to what they eat and how they eat.

Eating is primal and deeply related to our survival. And changes or limitations can show up unconsciously or consciously as a profound threat. So it’s during these times of change that support from a partner can go a very long way to helping us reach our goals.

If you have a partner who is doing a cleanse, trying to lose weight, break an addiction—or perhaps all three at once—you can be their biggest cheerleader, support, and ultimately, their hero.

1. Get Empathetic

The first step to helping is to understand what they are doing and why. Get curious about her goals for the cleanse and also what the program entails. What foods will she be avoiding and for how long.

Understanding her plan is a good first step, but to really help you’ll want to go even deeper. Ask her about her intentions for the cleanse and what she hopes to get out of it. Ask her about her concerns and what scares her.

And also ask about her desires. If this were to be the amazing experience she hopes it will be what will change and what she’ll experience.

2. Ask “what do you need from me?”

Look at your calendars and the events you have planned. Dinner with friends, parties, family visits and ask how you can support her. Also ask what foods you can keep out of the house to help avoid temptation.

While you might consider joining her on some of the cleanse this isn’t really necessary. But it can be incredibly helpful for you to consume forbidden foods when she’s not around and to keep them out of the house altogether.

3. Outsource to save her/his/your energy & moods

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Cleanses and diets usually mean less energy. Her brain will likely have less glucose to work with and it’s glucose that helps us make decisions, do housework, and yes even regulate our emotions.

Help her conserve energy by offloading some tedious tasks like cleaning house, shopping, and some child care. Take over for her when you can and even get some outside, temporary help if you can afford it. Services like Taskrabbit, Handybook, Fancyhands, and Instacart* are great for times like these.

(*note from Alex: I’ve used all of these services myself to help me stick with my healthy eating goals by saving time, getting what I need to keep a wide variety of healthy food on hand, and save precious energy and willpower)

Also consider taking over some decisions—only with her blessing of course—since choice is not always a plus when you’re feeling depleted. “Hey honey tonight I’m going to handle dinner, we’ll watch a movie, then I’ll put the kids to bed.” These words can sound like heaven when you’re tired and worn out.

4. Know her self-worth is wrapped up in succeeding.

We don’t do cleanses unless we want to change something about ourselves. This often means something about how we look—weight, skin etc—and how we feel—energy, mood and more.

A big part of these changes is often how attractive we feel to our partner. But here’s the cruel irony: in order to feel and look better over the long term we have to go through times when we feel less energetic and less attractive. Things often get worse before they get better.

So keep in mind that 1) she wants to look and feel good for you and 2) while she’s on the cleanse she may actually feel like she’s looking and feeling worse than usual. And this means her self-worth may feel challenged.

A few words from you can go a long way at times like these. Express your love and attraction more than you usually do. And don’t forget the physical expressions of love and desire like flowers, back rubs, and kisses.

5. Know that mindset is half the battle

Change is hard but remember that this program she’s on is temporary and trust that things are going to get to a better place. And remind her of this, too.

But also know that her changes will lead to deeper and more permanent changes for her, you and your family if you have one. Be willing to step into that new life with her and also willing to look at and deal with your own fears of change.

Are you afraid she might want to take away your pie or beer? Talk about how her changes might lead to your own changes and what this means for you.

6. Love her up

I kind of covered this in the section on self-worth but it deserves it’s own section. When she’s struggling with one aspect of her body like diet it’s incredibly helpful for her to feel positive things deeply. If she’s complaining or feeling lousy don’t try to talk her out of it. Love her out of it.

Try things like extra physical contact like hand holding, foot massage, and even more special kinds of touch *wink wink nudge nudge*.

Treat it like valentines day (sans chocolate) and treat her to massages and bath time. She may be experiencing a lot of physical and emotional discomfort – step up and help provide the pleasure she can experience in her body and life.

This may be as simple as taking over the child care for an afternoon and giving her the opportunity to do nice things for herself like a bath, pedicure, or even a nap.

7. Intend support

This last one can be the most challenging. She’s changing and feeling down but let’s face it — your life isn’t easy either and you still have the same demands from job, and family. It’s not always easy to not want to lean on her the way you’re used to and the way you have a right too. Good couples support each other after all.

She may also have mood swings and be a bit harder to be around at times during a cleanse. Do your best not to fight and not to nag. And if she is being especially difficult you might ask gently if she needs to eat something (from Alex’s Cleanse approved list of course) since cleanse foods tend to burn a lot faster than “regular” food and she’ll be depleted faster than she anticipated.

8. Celebrate Success

And lastly when the cleanse finally finishes both of you should do something nice like a meal out together to mark the end and celebrate. Choose a place that has a lot of healthy, cleanse-approved options, and perhaps a great wine list if that’s one of the things she’s looking forward to adding back first.

You are a part of each other’s success — and when Mama’s happy, everyone is happy! As a couple, you deserve to feel good as individuals and together.

If this inspired you to support your partner even more, wonderful! If it even inspired you to do the cleanse together — even better! But do talk before hand about the possible challenges you may face when you’re both feeling your way through the cleanse.

But hear me now: you can do this. Both of you, no matter who is on the cleanse. If she (or he) wants to join the Cravings Cleanse, know that it will be good for both of you.

And no matter what, it will be one of the best things you both do for each other, and yourselves.

Respectfully,

Bob Gower, Author & Consultant

Alex’s main squeeze

 

Your cravings MATTER

Your body is talking to you…you1
Are you listening?

It’s telling you your truth.
Do you hear it?

Maybe, but you may not understand the message at first.
You think you’re addicted to sugar.
Or coffee.
Or fat, or salt or any of the other foods you think you can’t stop eating.
You think you’re weak and lack the willpower to ignore the cravings.

I’m telling you to listen to them.
Have you ever just sat down, and felt into those cravings?

Try it.
I promise you’ll be ok.
Feeling a craving, feeling a hurt, or feeling any emotion won’t really hurt you.

Let the uncomfortable feelings and emotions well up in you.
When you just sit with them and watch, feel and listen to those cravings,
without judging them as bad, you will start to dissolve them.

Sit with it.
Maybe you’re at your desk or on the couch late at night.
Feel them.
Your body – is it really asking for the food, the sugar, the whatever?

What is your body really asking for?
What is the true message beneath the craving?

Because there is a bigger, deeper, golden message there.
Your body is your GPS.
It has always been telling you what you need.
Messages telling you to love someone.
Hints that you should do move now.
Pains that tell you you’re doing things to yourself that you just know aren’t serving you anymore.

Those pains and hints are like a blueprint from your body, your real self.

Your body doesn’t lie.
It’s always telling you the truth.

Can you listen?
Or are you afraid of what you may hear?
Worried that the truth is so big, so profound, will require you to make such great changes in your life that everything you thought you knew about what you wanted is wrong?

I’m here to tell you it’s ok.
It’s safe to hear the messages.
It’s safe to listen to your body, no matter what she (or he) may be telling you.

Not only is it safe, because you will always be ok, as long as you really listen to her,
you’ll actually gain clarity and insights about your life that you had only dreamed of.

I believe your cravings are your most profound guide in life.
But they’re scary because we’ve either:

a. never been taught to tune into the messages, feelings or frequencies that our physical self is speaking, or
b.you have been told, from an early age, that your body is WRONG, not good enough, wants the wrong things, should be ignored, is too something or not enough.

I call bullshit.
Your body is magical.
It is a miracle.
Your body is YOU and your are GOOD.

And until you start listening into the cravings for the bigger, grander, message you won’t have the life and body you really want.
The life and body you deserve.

A life of healthy movement and easy freedom.
A happy body filled with energy.
A body that looks and feels good, every day, because you love it, listen to it and treat it so well, that you just can’t NOT take care of her.

Because she is YOU.

So I offer you this:
permission.
An agreement between us do do something. Just to listen.

(I know I sometimes need permission from someone who cares to do what I need to do)

I’m here offering you permission to listen to your gut, listen to your body, and head the call.

What do you hear?
What is your body sharing with you?
What does she say?
Can you just hear it, feel it, see it?

Just listen.
You don’t need to do anything.
Just hear it.

What do you hear?
Whatever you hear, whatever truth your body reveals, just listen.
Write it down, share it, keep it safe in your heart, declare it or write it in the sand.
It doesn’t matter.
Just hear it.

This is your first step.

What do you hear?