I was one of those people who struggled and failed to change my life
and eating habits for many years.
Even thought I had written three books on vegan cooking, was helping
people heal their own bodies and change their lives, I was in a yo-yo
cycle with sugar. And totally. stressed. out.
Even though I was expected to know a lot about it, I still felt addicted to
sugar and couldn’t break free of the daily cravings. It was ruining my
health (repeated candida attacks) and my life (no focus, no energy)…
When I finally discovered the answer to transforming my life-long addiction,
I was so surprised to see that I had been following three rules that were actually keeping
And these three rules are e-v-e-r-y-w-h-e-r-e. They are so ingrained in our collective
culture that we don’t see them. Like fish who swim in water, we just live in it, not
questioning the reality of what is all around us.
What if we could see the false ideas around us and use new tools to help us create lasting change in our habits, eating, and thoughts?
That’s what I want to share with you today.
Because once you get that these three myths are really harming you, keeping
you stuck in your body and life goals, and totally not necessary, you can finally break free of your food and thought habits for good.
And get the body, energy, and life that you really desire.
After I share these three myths, and what you can do to dissolve them,
you’re going to have the chance to apply these new rules for change in
a powerful way, with my personal guidance.
The 3 Myths About How To Change Your Body That Must Die:
- Once you know what you should do, you’ll do it. AKA: Facts Don’t = Change.
It’s not enough to know you should change, or even what the next few steps are that you could take. If knowing was enough, we would all be eating, living, and creating in much different ways, right?
I’ll bet you know at least 3 things you “should” be doing differently right now that would have a big impact on your health and life. You’re not alone:
90% of people who have coronary-artery bypass surgery have not changed their eating habits or lifestyle 2 years after, even though they know their life depends on it. These folks are told by doctors that they must change their diet and lifestyle if they want to live a healthy, happy life. But they don’t do it. And they know the facts.
What does work, if knowing the facts don’t? Community.
Too often, like my client Susan, we try to make big diet and lifestyle changes alone. But we don’t live in a bubble – we are all part of a family, community, or tribe that can either support us or sabotage us. Most of us try to make changes alone, or are surrounded by people who don’t know how to show up for us in a meaningful way.
What does work is getting into a community that supports and inspires you to keep making powerful changes, every day.
This means forming a strong, emotional relationship with a person and a group of peers that inspires a sense of hope and belief that things can be different.
If you wanted to learn to paint, or take up archery, or learn to speak Spanish, you would want a teacher, a mentor, a coach, and a team to help you through it. When you have a coach or mentor and an accountability group who believes in you, you start taking consistent action that gets you where you want to go.
- Fear + Comparison Are Killers: Ritual Is Key
I see too much ‘fear based marketing’ out there, especially when it comes to the health and weight loss world. Some diet coaches, programs and books just try to really SCARE people in the hope that it will motivate us to change.
Fear has the opposite effect, especially for most women who are already over-stressed: we turn to food to calm us down, leading to a bigger problem than before.
Fear can also show up as comparison, which is rampant in our culture.
We are “creatures of comparison” and naturally weigh ourselves on the scales of “am I as good as her?”
This is our fear-based ego showing up, trying to save us from making a mistake. But it really has the effect of keeping us stuck from playing full out, going for what we want, and stepping into any stage where we might be recognized for our true value.
The cure for fear and comparison? The consistent action of daily rituals.
Change in our lives happens as a result of dozens and dozens of small things that we need to actually learn by doing and doing it again and again. Ritualizing self-care, self-love, bold action, loving thoughts, and eating for your aliveness – these are how we overcome fear.
I’d rather focus on “what’s RIGHT with you” and your strengths, than digging deep into your past traumas and hurts. Consistent, loving commitment to strengths, and rituals that make you come alive, are the powerful instigators that help my clients like Ellie create lasting, transformative change.
Ritual is infused throughout spiritual traditions as a way to help us manage hard times, connect in a healing way, and remember our true desires in life.
Profound change can happen even in the toughest situations. But it requires consistency in building new skills and rituals of the heart.
- “Just Work Harder!” Willpower Ain’t Enough, Time To Think Different
Working harder on the wrong things is crazy-making! We’ve all tried the low-calorie, low-fat, low-flavor foods that didn’t satisfy us long enough to finally heal our bodies.
You can’t just use up your limited amount of willpower every day to try and get through the stresses of life.
It’s time to think differently about food, get clear on what your big motivating desires truly are, and share your stories about how you got where you are.
All this helps to vision and create a new reality that can only come from new thinking.
My most successful clients like Ivana are willing to share their deepest true selves so that I can help them see the impact those old beliefs have on their life now.
Trying to muscle through calorie counting and a week-long juice cleanse does not heal the fact that your mother obsessed about your weight or that you have a serious food intolerance.
You can change your own life, and using new neuroscience, positive psychology, and functional nutrition, you can grow your resilience and skills for change in a truly powerful way.
The 3 keys to true and lasting change are: community, consistency, and thinking different. New hope, new skills, and new thinking.
These tools are available to you now, and I invite you to dive deeper into this work today.
Today I am opening registration for my brand new Vitality Program, which offers personal coaching from me for four months, group support from women just like you, Susan, Ellie, and Ivana, and much, much more.
Click here to discover more about this opportunity and to apply:
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