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254: Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free with Nancy Levin

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If you need a little help to start playing by your own rules, there’s a few ways we can work together more closely.

Nancy Levin

This show is all about living life by your own rules. One of the challenging areas in which we need to break the rules is in setting boundaries. It’s an ongoing battle for many people–and for most women. Let’s dive into this topic and learn more!

Nancy Levin has written a new book, Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free, and she’s busted a lot of myths around setting boundaries. We’re discussing the nitty-gritty of boundary setting, and Nancy is sharing truth bombs to revolutionize your life and your relationships.

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Show Highlights:

  • The definition of boundaries: the limits I set around what I will or will not do, tolerate, or accept
  • How to get clear on self-locating to determine what’s OK and not OK for me
  • The misconceptions are that boundaries are a wall that is constrictive, restrictive, and make me a “mean bitch”
  • How Nancy’s view of boundaries differs from the commonly accepted view
  • Why boundaries are super-challenging for us to cultivate
  • Examples of how we were taught as kids that setting boundaries is wrong and unacceptable
  • How our bodies feel the trespassing of boundaries in the first place
  • How Nancy learned to set boundaries for the first time in her marriage when she decided to make her needs a priority
  • Recognizing the red flags and the crossing of your own boundaries to maintain a relationship
  • Moving out of blame and victimhood into responsibility and empowerment in realizing we hold power over our boundaries
  • How boundaries correlate directly with our self-esteem
  • Why we should ask, “What do I think, feel, and need?” rather than asking that about other people
  • Nancy’s Boundary Ninja Move to give yourself permission to consider your own needs AT LEAST as much as you consider the needs of someone else
  • The balance between selfish and selfless
  • The “three sisters” who support us in honoring ourselves are selfish, self-love, and self-care
  • Why we can’t make our boundary someone else’s responsibility
  • Ideas about putting your boundaries “out there” for people to know
  • The danger when you set a boundary and don’t back it up; “If I don’t honor my own boundaries, then why on earth do I expect anyone else to honor it?”
  • Why it’s OK to set messy boundaries at first
  • How to say NO with grace and gratitude, not guilt and excuses
  • How boundaries will prevent burnout
  • The best basic boundary is to get comfortable in saying NO (and don’t apologize for it!)
  • Benefits of setting boundaries: being in a place of alignment and having better relationships
  • How Nancy broke the rules to get where she is today
  • What rules Nancy followed to get where she is today
  • How Nancy decides to follow or break rules today


Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free by Nancy Levin