5 Ways to Master Your Inner Critic [AKA “B!tch Bra!n”]
In talking with dozens of coaches, doctors, and entrepreneurs who want to grow their business as they simultaneously fix or heal their own personal issues, I hear a lot of “bitch brain” issues. This is a term I created while writing Women, Food, and Desire, and it struck a chord with many readers…
“Bitch Brain” is a way I describe your inner critic – the voice that stops you from taking risks, speaking your truth, and gets in the way of your desires.
Women often grapple with Imposter Syndrome and doubt because when we try to go after our life’s desires. As and expose ourselves to the fear of failure and the culture of perfectionism we live in, our own ego becomes our worst enemy.
Here’s how the Bitch Brain, or inner critic, or “BB” for short, messes with your life:
…you want to create your own business, but the bitch brain (AKA inner critic) tells us we don’t have enough experience…and eat more sugar to handle the frustration induced exhaustion.
…you dream about helping others with your health coaching knowledge, but the inner critic says “you still have your own health problems, how could you help someone else?”…and you end up overeating at night to try and silence the discomfort.
…you have an old voice from your mother that repeats about how a nice girl should act, and it keeps you from daring to ask for more or demand justice…and you drink a few glasses of wine every night to try and relax.
…you know you have a purpose in life, and have tried lots of educational programs or read all the self-help books, but your inner critic tells you “why bother?” so often you feel totally bummed out and confused about what to do next…so you keep eating the foods that keep your energy low and mind fuzzy because, again, “why bother?”
The inner critic can be deadly.
It can rob you of your vitality and resilience.
And the BB can be handled. But only with love and awareness.
Here are 5 things you must know to handle the inner critic:
Give your BB some space to be heard! Take 3 minutes to write out your thoughts to these questions and see how you feel:
1. hat does your BB say when you want to speak up about an injustice or problem at work or in the home?
2. What does your BB say about a career choice you dream about making?
3. What does our BB/inner critic say when you want to dress up? When you pass by a mirror? When you want to try something new?
You’re not crazy, wrong, or bad…that your very human brain is trying to keep you safe. Know that you are wired for the inner critic, but that ultimately YOU are in charge.
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