A recent client, and soul-sister from another mister, was on the edge of MAJOR, positive shifts in her life:
- Recent divorce from her toxic ex
- Bought her first home with her new man
- Moving her daughter to a better school
- HUGE promotion at work to a global position
Along with those stock options and international travel plans?
Up Leveling Problems:
- Drama queens at work, and her past, coming out of nowhere
- Toxic texts from her toxic ex, requiring a restraining order
- Higher demands in her new position which are actually counter-productive
These are “problems” that come with the achievements.
Shifts in your life that are a direct result of leveling up your mindset, choices, and existence.
Along with life’s other challenges, she’s coming face-to-face with B.S. that she is
JUST. NOT. AVAILABLE. FOR.
This is common when you begin to make big steps in your life.
As you shift your life, the way energy flows into and through your life will also change.
Systems will need to be recalibrated.
Other people will throw what I call “Adult Temper Tantrums.”
As you define and hold new, strong boundaries for what you stand for, people who don’t really get it will have a hissy fit.
Even when your new boundaries have very little, if anything, to do with them.
You just have to stick tight to your plan.
Defend your desires.
Enlist the support of friends, family, or a mentor who believes in your vision as strongly as you do.
I’ve been there myself. With each new book published, or increase in impact:
Toxic friends with bad/no boundaries?
Yes. Love you, but I’m not sticking around for this.
Employees who aren’t up to looking at their own part in broken systems?
We need to fix this together, or it’s time to find someone who is up to the task.
Romantic partners who indulge in unnecessary, exhausting drama?
This is not the life I want to lead, nor is it the role model I want to be for my child. This must change.
It’s not heartless.
In order for your vision to become real, you must start operating at the level of the woman you’re becoming.
How does your highest version self handle the toxic ex?
Does she try to talk him down and handle his ego with kid gloves, spending hours of precious time and energy trying to come to some understanding?
No. She files the police report.
How does your highest version self handle the drama queens at work?
Does she try to get everyone to like her knowing full well the drama queen’s gossip is poisoning the entire team?
No. She talks with HR and let’s them do their job.
And, BTW, you can’t help them by sticking around to be the target.
You can’t help them at all, if they’re not interested in healing this dynamic.
Remove yourself from the equation. It’s the only way to change the game they’re playing.
When you shift your energy and attention, you begin to level up again:
- You get the promotion, the stock deal, and the platinum travel status
- You call back all of your energy for your personal growth
- You block the toxic calls/texts and stop wasting time on stuff that doesn’t matter
- You have more energy for your family and dream projects
- You clearly express your boundaries… and stick to them.
As you step up that ladder of success, you will most likely encounter these Up Leveling Shifts.
But the good news?
You can handle it.
It’s your flag in the sand.
It’s how you stand for your desires.
You don’t put in all the work just to back down at the first sign of resistance.
The women I work with, on their leading edge, need to support themselves energetically, emotionally, strategically, physically, and spiritually.
Repeat after me:
“The woman I’m becoming is such an undeniable rock star, it gives me chills.”
When I feel into that version of myself, I move differently. I choose differently.
Time to get to work.
Ready for the support you want to make this transformation real?