107 Pussy with Mama Gena

The Cravings Whisperer Podcast

Hello, my Clan of the Crave Bears! Today’s show is going to be super juicy. There are going to be some naughty words so if you have any little bunnies you might want to listen to this episode when they are not around. I am interviewing Mama Gena also known as Regena Thomashauer! Regena is the founder of The School of Womanly Arts.

The final live Cravings Cleanse kicks off this week! There is still time to join! There are two classes a week and you can call in either one or both days on Tuesdays and Thursdays. Class number one is on Thursday, September 22nd! I have a special discount just for listeners: crave50 and get $50 off the cleanse. You can still get in January but it will be a play at home version.

I wanted to have Mama Gena on the show because I know a lot of women struggle with how to trust ourselves and how to trust our bodies. How do you do this? Mama Gena has been exploring female desire, pleasure and power for over 20 years. I believe her interview and book are going to set the world on fire! She started The School of Womanly Arts in her living room in 1998 and has since then grown it into a global movement. Regena believes that women are the greatest, untapped natural resource on the planet. She teaches us (them) to turn on our innate feminine power and create the life they love. Her approach comes from decades of research in the social, cultural and economic history of women. In addition to being the leader at The School of Womanly Arts, she is an author of 4 books.

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Show Notes:

  • How did The School of Womanly Arts come to be?
  • Why is the term sister goddess required?
  • How powerful are our pussies?
  • Why was Pussy chosen for the title of her new book?
  • How can pussy open doors?
  • What is clitoracy?
  • What is pussy rehab sequence?
  • What is her dream?
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Resources:

www.cravingscleanse.com

Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts: Using the Power of Pleasure to have your Way with the World

Mama Gena’s Owner’s and Operator’s Guide to Men

Mama Gena’s Marriage Manual

Pussy: A Reclamation

#pussyareclamationdancebreak – Rock out daily to your favorite jam and post the video with this hashtag!

Woman Don’t Ask- Linda Babcock

www.mamagenas.com/newbook

 
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106 3 Mindset Tricks for Any Cleanse

The Cravings Whisperer Podcast with Alexandra Jamieson

Welcome back to the Crave Cast! Today I will be talking about the 3 mindset tricks for any cleanse or detox, diet, exercise etc. Mindset is everything! That’s why I fell in love with positive psychology. A funny example of this comes from my kid from this past weekend. My husband and I decided that we love musicals so much that we wanted to show my kid. We started with “Chorus Line”. My kid fell in love with this, especially the number where there is acrobatics. My son decided he

A funny example of this comes from my kid from this past weekend. My husband and I decided that we love musicals so much that we wanted to show my kid. We started with “Chorus Line”. My kid fell in love with this, especially the number where there is acrobatics. My son decided he needed to start working out to be like the actor/dancer he saw in that number. He did a lot of push-ups, sit-ups and other exercises on Saturday. On Sunday, he came to me and told me that when he exercises that it makes his stomach hurt. I explained to him that this is normal and that sometimes you will be sore to get what you really want in life. This was a great mindset moment for us!

Also, I have a special announcement so make sure you take note!

 

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Show Notes:

  • Who are the happiest people?
  • What is something people everywhere value?
  • What is one of the best ways to boost your happiness?
  • How do you do gratitude correctly?
  • Growth mindset vs fixed mindset

 

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Resources:

 

www.cravingscleanse.com

 

 
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105 Listener Q&A: On Cravings + Adulting

The Cravings Whisperer Podcast with Alexandra Jamieson

Welcome back to The Crave Cast my Clan of the Crave Bears and welcome any new listeners from iHeart Radio! So honored to be added to iHeart Radio. I want to make sure everyone knows two of the greatest things that are going on in my world. I created this three-part series all about cravings: bacterial, nutritional, emotional and physical with some positive psychology sprinkled into the mix. That is up this week until September 9th! Go watch those at bit.ly/3cravevideos and you can also find them at cravecastpod.com. On the 10th, the Cravings Cleanse is opening its doors! This is an 8-week program and I give you live coaching sessions for 8 weeks to help you with your healing and it’s just a delicious cleanse. We are going to be drinking green smoothies and eating real food and I will be there for you twice a week! You can go to cravingscleanse.com on September 10th!

We have our winner for the August swag bag, Stephanie Cahill! I’m so excited to send this enormous box of goodies to you! On top of all the wonderful gifts, you get the special bonus gift from guest author Nancy Lavigne, her book Worthy! You get to join her Worthy program which is worth over 700 dollars!

Up next we have our two listener questions about adulting (not adultery) and cravings. Make sure you stay tuned all the way until the end because these questions are great!

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Show Notes:

  • Is there such a thing as willpower to ignore cravings?
  • How can you get naps in your day?
  • How can you use prepped foods to help with cravings?
  • What is adulting?

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  • What does learning entail?
  • Take the risk!
  • Can you ask too many questions?
  • How can you talk about challenging things together?

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Resources:

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www.cravecastpod.com

www.cravingscleanse.com

 

 
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104 Dairy Cravings: Tell Me About Your Mother

The Cravings Whisperer Podcast with Alexandra Jamieson

Welcome back my Clan of the Crave Bears! I am back from my summer vacation! We went to Oregon to visit with my family and then went to Pennsylvania to visit with my husband’s family. We have so much fun but it wasn’t a relaxing trip. We are all exhausted! Maybe you have had a similar experience visiting family.

Make sure you tune into next week’s show. I will be announcing September 2016 Craving Cleanse. I’m going to offer a great deal just for crave cast listeners. This will be the last live craving cleanse! Things are changing here at craving cleanse headquarters.

Today we are going to be talking about dairy cravings and fall energy. First, we are going to have a Q&A on dairy with Sarah Peck and then we are going to dive into a spiritual reading with Monica Kenton to see what’s in store for September!

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Show Notes:

  • When were Sarah’s cravings the strongest?
  • What was it like growing up with her mother?
  • Did her cravings change when her mother came to visit after giving birth?
  • Is your body asking for certain things with your cravings?
  • When did Monica’s spirituality pop up in her life?
  • How did she move from Catholic faith to Native American spirituality?
  • How does she help people find their balance?
  • What can we expect in September?

Resources:

www.monicakenton.com

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The New Self-Esteem, or How Self-Compassion Is The Best Way To Love Yourself

Watching The Karate Kid (the original one, from 1984, of course) the other night, I saw an important psychological mindset come to life through a favorite Hollywood character:

How Karate Kid Taught Me Self-Compassion

The lead character, Ralph Macchio’s Daniel LaRusso, meets a great mentor in the form of the Japanese handyman, Mr. Miyagi. The older man takes Daniel under his wing to teach him how to protect himself from his high-school nemesis, the perfect blonde karate star, Johnny. Mr. Miyagi’s compassionate stance towards self-improvement shone in stark contrast to the punishing training style of Sensei John Kreese from Cobra Kai,  Johnny’s competing dojo.

 

Where Mr. Miyagi coached Ralph Macchio’s character Daniel LaRusso to fight with his brain and heart, evil Sensei Kreese shouted to his militant students:

 

“Mercy is for the weak…you’re nothing! You lost, you’re a loser!”

“The enemy deserves no mercy.”

 

Every woman I know, including myself, has had countless conversations with herself like this in the mirror. In our efforts to feel good about ourselves and look our best, we have taken the Cobra Kai path of toughening ourselves up to try and achieve higher self-esteem.

 

The Cobra Kai students were popular, boastful, and seemingly brimming with self-esteem. They grew their strength and self-regard through fighting. A winner to them was tough, invulnerable, even violent. And yet, in the long run, Daniel-san beat them with the more compassionate tactics taught to him by Miyagi.

 

Turning the Cobra Kai path on ourselves

Women are especially adept at this type of punishing mindset – except it takes the form of self-flagellation: our perfectionism leads us to overwhelm, overwork, and overload more often than men, and it’s slowly killing us, dimming our spark, and leading to lives filled with disappointment and shame.

 

This outdated tactic of trying to boost self-esteem through force and violent self-punishment has created generations of women who are trying to beat ourselves into a happy relationship with our bodies, despite overwhelming evidence that these tactics don’t work.

 

In this study from Purdue, weight loss did not help raise long-term self-esteem, which may point to long-term body image issues for women who defined themselves as overweight.

 

The all-too-common advice to use positive affirmations can backfire for someone already stuck in the low self-esteem zone: this study from the University of Waterloo showed that the common self-esteem tactic actually made some subjects feel worse about themselves because their brains just didn’t believe statements like: “People like me and I’m smart.”  

 

Feeling better about our lives has to start with how we feel about ourselves. And the path to falling in love with ourselves never begins with self-torture.

 

Up until recently, we have believed that self-esteem is the goal and the means to get there – what we want to feel and how we try to go about feeling successful.

 

Self-Esteem: The Cobra Kai way

However, self-esteem, or confidence in one’s own abilities, is the wrong measurement:

 

We have to compare ourselves to others or measure ourselves by how others view us in order to achieve high self esteem. Self-esteem is based on feeling better than others. Measuring yourself by the norm and coming out ahead in the math.

 

Comparison has a dark underbelly: we don’t actually feel better about ourselves when we compare ourselves to others because it inherently separates us from the other person as we judge them. Humans like to feel connected to each other, so separating, even to come out “better” than someone else, feels bad.

 

While we try to see ourselves as better than others, we also tend to turn that lens on ourselves and eviscerate ourselves with self-criticism when we don’t meet our own high standards.

 

As soon as our feelings of superiority slip — as they always do — our self-worthiness takes a nosedive. We swing wildly between high and low self-esteem — an emotional roller coaster ride whose end result is often insecurity, anxiety, and depression.

 

(This is why I prescribe to all of my self-worth seeking clients to stop watching reality TV, the black hole for comparison and judgment, for at least 2 weeks. “Watch a documentary instead and call me in the morning.”)

 

The ways in which we go about achieving self-esteem revolve around comparison, competition, and one-upmanship. (or one-up-woman-ship)

 

The other main problem with self-esteem is that when you need it, you don’t have it. Just when you need to feel better about yourself because things are going badly, self-esteem deserts you because you aren’t successful and you don’t measure up.

 

Then you’re stuck with the reality that you’re below average or not doing as well as others, which is when self-esteem vanishes.

 

Pretty wicked circle, isn’t it?

 

Compassion: The Mr. Miyagi Way to Self-Love

 

“No such thing as bad student, only bad teacher” – Mr. Miyagi

 

The way to feel good about ourselves is actually much more simple, and perhaps not easy:

Self-compassion.

 

Self-compassion is the ultimate, healthy, free way to feel better.

When you love yourself, you just love yourself.

 

When you have self-compassion you treat yourself with the same love and care you would offer to a dear friend.

 

When you help a toddler learn how to walk and s/he inevitably falls down, do you stand over said child and yell, “Dumb baby! You might as well give up! You’re terrible at walking!”

 

Of course not! You would kindly offer soothing words, help them back up, and guide them to try again.

 

We can and must do this for ourselves as we learn the more challenging complexities of negotiating adulthood.

 

In matters of the heart, purpose, and our ever-changing bodies, self-compassion is truly the best way to enjoy a healthy life.

 

We think self-compassion is a weak stance, just like Cobra Kai’s Sensei Kreese told us. If we let up on our bodies, aka “the enemy,” we’ll stop driving for achievement. We’ll get lazy.

 

Nothing could be further from the truth.

New positive psychology science on compassion shows us that self-compassion is like Mr. Miyagi teaching us to “wax on, wax off.” When we practice basic precepts of awareness and compassion, and that self-improvement, like karate “is only for defense,” then we can master our mindset and truly make huge leaps forward.

 

The science of self-compassion

 

Students do better when they are primed to be more self-compassionate:

In one study, college students who performed worse than desired on an exam then performed better on the next test if they were primed to be higher rather than lower in self-compassion. This may show that students low in self-compassion beat themselves, felt more stressed, and remained in a fixed mindset which did not help them improve on the next test.

 

Students with lower levels of self-compassion tend to procrastinate more:

This study found that people prone to procrastination had lower levels of self-compassion and higher levels of stress.

 

Aging adults thrive longer and better with more self-compassion:

This study shows that adults with higher self-compassion scores better handle the challenges of getting older. Self-compassionate people had fewer emotional problems, greater life satisfaction, and felt that they were ageing more successfully.

 

And self-compassion helps people deal with the innate suffering of life, pain, trauma, and loss. Self-compassion is a core ingredient in post-traumatic growth, where people who experience trauma actually thrive and grow. It also allows us to maintain a “growth mindset” which keeps us open to progressing, learning, and asking for help.

 

Self-compassion is a teachable skill and you can begin growing this skill-set right now.

 

3 ways to grow self-compassion, the REAL self-esteem

 

  1. Permission to be Human: Notice when you are not being nice to yourself. When you find yourself beating yourself up, remember that you’re human and all humans make mistakes and fail. The trick is to keep going and love yourself through the failure.
  2. Bring self-kindness to your thoughts as if you were talking to your very best friend. How would you talk to her in the same situation? Imagine you’re talking to her, rather than yourself. Many of us are more likely to feel authentic compassion for a loved one.
  3. Yet: This little 3-letter word is the most useful way to reframe your thoughts in a moment. When you hear your thoughts making negative declarations, just add YET to the end of the sentence, like a positive psychology fortune cookie. This kind of thinking puts you into growth mindset right away…try it!

 

“I haven’t lost the weight…YET.”

“I don’t know how to cook kale…YET.”

“I don’t have the partner of my dreams…YET.”

 

Remember: Mr. Miyagi’s great line: “First must stand. Then learn fly. Nature’s rule, Daniel-san. Not mine.”

 

It’s important to know that self-compassion is not just some mantra-quoting positive thinking trip. Self-compassion is a reality check: get real with yourself about the situation and your responsibility for your mindset. If you truly desire to create lasting change in your life, body, and health, a compassionate, growth mindset is truly important.

 

And in the end, the self-worth you develop as a result of self-compassion is more authentic and long-lasting than the fleeting, judgmental variety we touch with self-esteem.

 

Don’t forget: seemingly tiny, ill-prepared Daniel Larusso won in the end. He had a Mr. Miyagi at his side, whispering compassionate lessons along the way. Now you can, too.

 

Join my 8-week Cravings Cleanse + Mindset Makeover to get these positive psychology tools to work for you and your body goals:

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