28 Fifty Shades of Body Shame

The Cravings Whisperer Podcast with Alexandra Jamieson

Are you comfortable with a little kink in your sexual life?

If not, why not?

Our society is thriving with controversy around body image and sexuality. That’s why I decided to call this episode Fifty Shades of Body Shame.

It’s time to stop listening to what society, self proclaimed experts and even to what our families are telling us and it’s time to start listening to our bodies. This is our real path to well being, lasting health and vitality.

I want you to feel lit up from knowing your desires and owning them. They are worthy and you are worthy for everything you crave in life.

This episode is all about discovering what feels good to you.

Also, I’m excited to share with you my sponsor, Perfect Supplements. I use their Cordyceps and Natural Calm Magnesium all the time – and am thrilled to partner with them to bring you the show.

As a special offer to my “clan of the crave bears” and listeners, Perfect Supplements is offering 10% off your order when you use the discount code CRAVE10 at check out! Click here to get your goodies!

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“When we feel sex is dangerous, food becomes our safe sex.” (Click to Tweet)

Show Notes:

  • The difference between shame and guilt
  • My personal journey with public shaming
  • Why millions of women have tied up relationships with food, dieting, sexual shaming & pleasure
  • The power of releasing toxic shame
  • Are you a part of internet bullying or shaming?
  • Why you should explore Inside her Sex
  • Who are Candida Royalle and Lady Cheeky
  • How food and sex are intertwined
  • The connection between blooming hormones and cultural “should-ing”
  • Were you ever taught about masturbation?

“When you repress your sexual desires it gives even more power to them.”  (Click to Tweet)

  • Why we need to have conversations around SEX and our Sexual Desires!
  • The root cause of our diverse association with food, dieting and sex
  • The confusion around being scared and sexy
  • My own personal sexual desires after a sexless marriage
  • Yes. It’s time to shut out the voices and follow your CRAVINGS
  • Why we shouldn’t do this alone… Get a book and/or a book club!
  • How you are worthy of your desires
  • If your body needs healing it is essential to nurture it with certain foods
  • The importance of exploring your sexual desires and life passions
  • How your cravings are your souls to-do list

“Anything that you resist persists… and ends up on your dinner plate.”  (Click to Tweet)

Links Mentioned:

“How to win at dieting and dating is trying everyone and everything.”  (Click to Tweet)

 
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FitBottomedGirls.com named Women, Food, And Desire 1 of 5 books to Love Yourself Healthy – see the full list here:

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Goop.com, otherwise known as Gwenyth Paltrow’s health and lifestyle website, named Women, Food, And Desire their top non-fiction winter read for 2015!

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Healing Rituals: Tea Rituals | How to create healing rituals

I’ve learned that  you can learn to be happier just like you can learn to play ukulele or teach yourself Spanish.

One daily aspect of consciously learning happiness is to create healing + grounding rituals.

Rituals are any symbolic behaviors we perform before, during, and after meaningful event.

And they’re really everywhere in human culture:

 

Healing Rituals - Tea As Ritual

Healing Rituals – Tea As Ritual

  • Rituals are used by athletes, before and during games and contests, and studies show it helps to maintain or increase focus and performance
  • Rituals are used before meaningful events like weddings or ceremonies, and are used to help focus the energy and attention of large groups of people
  • Rituals are used to mark the passing of a loved one with funerals, and help people manage their grief and release the pain of loss

Our personal rituals matter much more than we realize. Recent studies have proved that our actions and thoughts are 40% habit – that means almost ½ of what we do and think is repetitive and happens without us thinking about it.

Sometimes life feels like a runaway train—it can seem like we don’t get to choose what’s going on in our daily lives.

When that happens, we can remind ourselves that we have the power to choose the way we live our lives, and the “personal brand” that we put on things.

I’ve been drinking tea since I was a kid with my mom, but now I set aside a little time and attention to make tea a ritual for rest, remembering good times, introspection, and creation.

One way to do this is through creating rituals in our lives that support and nourish us. Rituals and nurturing routines provide us with structure that grounds us and connects us to others.

They can connect us to the energy of the earth and seasons, our past, family, and community as well as help us to create the kind of environment where we’ll function best.

They also create a sense of predictability that can help us feel safe, and reduce the stress of uncertainty.
Rituals are rhythmic; they put us in sync with nature in a nurturing way.

They help us cope with the shifts and transitions we face daily, weekly, seasonally, and throughout our lives.

By creating structure in the form of a daily or weekly ritual, our minds can relax, and this frees up a lot of energy so that we can create the life we desire.

And they work.

Rituals help us manifest what we truly crave in life, by placing our energy where we want it most. CLICK TO TWEET + SHARE THIS!

Here’s what scientists are finding about our use of ritual:
performing rituals with the intention of producing a specific result appears to be enough for that result to come true.

  • One of my intentions was to bring more awareness to our family meals even at the end of hectic days. We set the table with cloth napkins and light a candle with every meal we eat at home. I’m teaching my 8-year old son how to light a candle, and how to set the table, so we has a ritual with calm, loving eating as well.
  • Another intention was to feel in control of my finances, so my partner and I created monthly “money dates.” You could call them cash rituals.
  • I also wanted to wake up my body after a long, cold winter, and created a morning yoga ritual – every morning, for 10 minutes, I stretch and then make my tea.
  • Music is a big deal in my family of musicians, and I want to pass that love of music to my son. Now when I give him a bath, I bring in my ukulele and we sing together as I learn a new song. (AND we put our instruments up on the wall in the living room, so we see them and take them down more frequently – a great way to trigger yourself into doing your rituals!
Ritualize your creativity by putting your art in full view.

Ritualize your creativity by putting your art in full view.

If you’re here you’re interested in healing and growing. That’s what my “clan of the crave bears” is all about. Healing the body, healing relationships, and growing a crave-worthy life.

So this week, focus on creating a ritual to heal an area of your life, or intentionally place your positive energy in a direction or on a project you want to create:

HOW TO CREATE RITUALS FOR A CRAVE-WORTHY LIFE:

Get specific about your intention + the actions the ritual will embody:

  • Why – you intention for the ritual (loving – no voodoo, framed in the positive)
  • When – at what time are you going to do the activity? Morning? After dinner? Spring or Winter? Sundays?
  • Where – is it portable or does it depend on a place?

Examples of Healing Rituals

  • Walking Ritual: at your favorite time of day, dawn, dusk, or after lunch – not for “exercise” but for feeling your body in nature
  • Learning Ritual: memorize a poem, playing a song, or some other new skill once a week or every evening
  • Friend Ritual: thursday night dinner with a friend, Sunday tea with a friend at a bookstore cafe
  • Gratitude Writing Ritual: For 1 week, write down 3 things that you’re grateful for at the end of dinner.

One of my Facebook friends created an “I Hate Mondays” playlist of uplifting songs and motivating music to help perk her up when she was having Monday Blues -

IDEAS FOR NEW FOOD RITUALS:

  • setting the table with napkins, forks, lit candles, flowers
  • Simply lighting a candle before you eat anything, and sitting down to acknowledge your desire to digest and enjoy
  • 5 deep breaths before you begin eating
  • 8-12 ounces warm lemon water upon waking to wake up your liver and hydrate your brain
  • saying a gratitude out loud at the end of the meal: that was delicious! I feel perfectly full and satisfied!

As you build rituals into your life, you build a lifestyle that supports your healthiest self.

I want to hear your favorite rituals!

In the comments below, share your favorite ritual, or tell us what you’re going to try first!

xo,

Alex

 

 
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27 Carin Rockind – Uncovering your Passions & Strengths To Discover Your Life Purpose

The Cravings Whisperer Podcast with Alexandra Jamieson

When is it right to openly talk about sex and aging?

As you probably already know, these are two of my favorite discussion points.

My guest today is Carin Rockind. She is a positive psychology expert, motivational speaker and coach. Also known as The Purpose Girl, she has inspired thousands to transform their lives. On today’s episode we explore her simple, yet powerful philosophy. We delve into the juicy details on how she uses this philosophy to help people identify their unique purpose.

Also, I’m so excited to share with you my sponsor, Perfect Supplements. I use their Cordyceps and Natural Calm Magnesium all the time – and am thrilled to partner with them to bring you the show.

As a special offer to my “clan of the crave bears” and listeners, Perfect Supplements is offering 10% off your order when you use the discount code CRAVE10 at check out! Click here to get your goodies!

You can Subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, SoundCloud, Stitcher or TuneIn

“Resiliency is bouncing back from trauma and the ability to persevere.”  (Click to Tweet)

Show Notes:

  • Carin’s personal story and how she found purpose and happiness
  • How trauma shapes purpose
  • Why Carin developed shingles in her early 30′s
  • Books young girls shouldn’t be reading
  • Exploring shame around love, abuse and bi-sexuality
  • Mutual wishes for a safe, shame-free environment for children
  • How schools set us up to be in a war with ourselves
  • Resiliency and post traumatic growth
  • Carin’s belief in SISU (FYI: it’s from Finland)
  • How we can all learn resiliency and PTG
  • How intestinal fortitude and your gut work together
  • Carin Rockind’s “Aha!” moment happening right on this VERY EPISODE!
  • Resiliency skills and why we need them
  • The importance of getting in touch with YOUR little girl

“If you sweep something under the rug eventually the shit is going to start stinking.” (Click to Tweet)

  • How a inner healing became a resiliency skill
  • We learn a great exercise to get over trials and traumas
  • The power of PTG
  • Exploring your heroine/hero story
  • The beauty of being 40… (yup, I get to join next month!)
  • The special gift my mom taught me about aging
  • Why we should celebrate aging
  • The negative images that lead us to ‘the midlife crisis’
  • The difference between men and women turning 40
  • Why women ask themselves, “have I mattered enough”
  • Shocking stats on women in their 40′s & 50′s suffering from depression and suicide
  • Join Carin’s program #ThisIs40
  • It’s time to say this is not my mothers 40, this is not the over the hill 40
  • Sending love to Meryl Streep and Diane Keaton
  • The question we need to ask to find our purpose
  • Neutrality, plastic surgery and self love
  • How our feelings about ourselves create healthy positive aging
  • The benefits of being raw and authentic
  • The importance of building a supportive community

“Being able to find your core wisdom in every trauma & trial is the truth of your purpose.” (Click to Tweet)

Links Mentioned:

 Facebook | Twitter | Pinterest | YouTube | PurposeGirl

“Were each here to shine our light on others, so that others shine.” (Click to Tweet)

 
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How to cut root vegetables without cutting off a finger. Roasted Root Vegetable Recipe!

How to cut up and cook turnips + how to cut up and cook root vegetables

How to cut up and cook turnips + how to cut up and cook root vegetables

How to cut up and cook turnips + how to cut up and cook root vegetables

How to cut up and cook turnips + how to cut up and cook root vegetables. Having fun with root vegetables! Kids enjoy playing with food – so do I!

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How to cut up and cook turnips + how to cut up and cook root vegetables. How to cut a parsnip. Cut into even sized chunks for even baking.

How to cut up and cook turnips + how to cut up and cook root vegetables

How to cut up and cook turnips + how to cut up and cook root vegetables. Cut up a turnip without cutting off a finger. Cut off the top and root end for two flat ends, then cut in half.

How to cut up and cook turnips + how to cut up and cook root vegetables without losing a finger. Always cut a flat edge so the round vegetables have a flat side to rest on so they don’t wobble around.

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How to cut up and cook turnips + how to cut up and cook root vegetables without losing a finger. Always cut a flat edge so the round vegetables have a flat side to rest on so they don’t wobble around.

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How to cut up and cook turnips + how to cut up and cook root vegetables without losing a finger. Always cut a flat edge so the round vegetables have a flat side to rest on so they don’t wobble around.

 

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How to cut up and cook turnips + how to cut up and cook root vegetables without losing a finger. Always cut a flat edge so the round vegetables have a flat side to rest on so they don’t wobble around.

How to cut up and cook turnips + how to cut up and cook root vegetables without losing a finger. Always cut a flat edge so the round vegetables have a flat side to rest on so they don't wobble around. Toss with 1-2 Tablespoons olive oil or bacon drippings, and a pinch of salt. Bake at 350 for 35-45 minutes.

How to cut up and cook turnips + how to cut up and cook root vegetables without losing a finger. Always cut a flat edge so the round vegetables have a flat side to rest on so they don’t wobble around. Toss with 1-2 Tablespoons olive oil or bacon drippings, and a pinch of salt. Bake at 350 for 35-45 minutes.

 
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