What You Need to Know Right Now About Loving Your Body

She was struggling…

with food,

with nutrition,

with body image issues,

with what steps to take next in her life…

After 7 years as an elementary school teacher, a breakup, and a major move across the country, Lyndsi felt lost.

  She's just getting started...

 A good friend told her about my work, and we had a Skype chat…

“It was really powerful…and I’d never worked with a coach before.”

She hadn’t tried this.

She’s tried almost everything else…

books, retreats, weight watchers, extreme diets, and more.

Then we started meeting on Skype for 4 months…

I coached her through the emotions of worthiness, confidence, confrontation, and career dreams.

WATCH LYNDSI’S STORY UNFOLD HERE:

NOW:

She’s not eating when she’s not hungry anymore.

She’s present, more peaceful in her thoughts, and more confident in her body.

She’s LOVING her body more!

And the super cool, exciting thing?

She’s taking major steps to create the future and career that she has dreamed of.

A center for women to heal their bodies and relationship with food.

Lyndsi is truly being the change she wishes to see in the world.

She’s taking major steps to create the future and career that she has dreamed of.

A center for women to heal their bodies and relationship with food. Lyndsi is truly being the change she wants to see in he world.

“I’ve had wonderful coaching and community to help me take those steps forward.”

For the first time, the vision of her life and career feel possible, exciting, and joyful. Lyndsi found the support, direction, and inspiration she needed to take her next step…

xo,

Alex

P.S. Applications for the Vitality Mentorship, a 4-month group and private coaching program with me, are open: have you looked at the program yet? Have you filled out your application? Why not? I am curious – just email me at alex@alexandrajamieson.com with any questions…or fill out your application here by June 6th so we can see if this is the right next step for you! 

 
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41 Psalm Isadora – Your Sexuality is Your Power

The Cravings Whisperer Podcast with Alexandra Jamieson

How do you figure out what feels good to you?

That’s what National Masturbation Month is all about, and that’s what I’m talking about with Psalm Isadora today. Psalm is a sex and relationship expert as well as a yoga instructor.

Today we’re talking about shaking the shame around our bodies, sexuality and taking the time to explore!

It’s time to go on an adventure with yourself, my clan of the crave bears. Let’s go!

 

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When did you have your first orgasm? And how did you feel about it?”  (Click to share the show)

Show Notes:

  • The importance of breaking down the taboo around sex
  • Where sexual shame comes from
  • Why you should masturbate more
  • Why it’s important to know how your body works
  • Why you should know how to connect with yourself sexually
  • What is a jade egg?
  • How building kegel muscles helps with urinary incontinence
  • The sexual benefits of strong kegels

The shadow around sexuality means we can’t bring light to this subject.”  (Click to share the show)

  • The effects of a healthy sexuality on your health
  • Why a strong vagina is good for your whole self
  • How sexual repression exists all over the world
  • How taking away women’s sexuality takes away their power
  • The power and energy of the womb
  • The importance of knowing how your vagina works
  • How teaching women about sex will lead them to more empowered choices

Masturbation is like sex light: all the pleasure, none of the calories!”  (Click to share the show)

Links Mentioned:

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The womb is like a nuclear power center that powers your whole life.”  (Click to share the show)

 
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9 ways to get out of your comfort food zone

We all have ideas of what we wish to become.

9 ways to

I was with my son, on our way to the park so he could try out his new skateboard. “Are you ready to go down the ramp?” I asked.
Wonder Boy looked up at me and said, “I don’t want to…I’m scared.”

I didn’t miss a beat, looked into his eyes, and replied,
“It’s ok to be scared, but it’s important to try it anyway.”

It’s a powerful message.
“Trying it anyway” is at the heart of a fully lived life.

It’s what I tell my clients when they know they need to ditch sugar and gluten.

It’s what I tell my clients when they need to have a big talk with their partner or boss…
or finally start dating.

It’s what I tell myself before taking on a new big idea for my work.
(podcast? a book about cravings? interviewing experts on masturbation??)

Without anyone else encouraging us to try new things,
we tend to dig ourselves deeper into our comfort zones.

Busy schedules, long-held habits, and old mindsets can lead us to shut off our hearts and minds and just coast on autopilot.

We keep using the same old comfort foods to help us handle stress, which keeps the extra weight on, and keeps our energy depressed.

A part of us knows that those old comfort foods will keep us in the stuck spot where we are, so that we won’t have to step into that uncertain next step.

We let the fear keep us from moving forward and just let life take us where it wants.

Our comfort food zone, hiding in the foods that exhaust us and make us feel heavy, keeps us from even trying to make the changes we dream about: dating, asking for the raise, changing careers, and more. Much more.

Is it too late to change?
That’s the great news; It’s never, ever too late to “try it anyway.”

But we get stuck in “fixed mindset.”

Positive Psychology shows us that we can have choose one of two mindsets: Fixed or Growth.

“Fixed” mindset is when you think you can’t change, you can’t learn anything new, you avoid challenges, when you see other people succeed it brings up jealousy, and you want to be told you’re smart.

I believe you can develop a growth mindset, and all it takes is knowing there is a new way to think, and to start watching your thoughts more closely!

Growth mindset says you can learn new things and change:

Growth mindset is open to asking for help, says “I don’t know how to do this…YET,” believes that you can learn something new, enjoys watching other people succeed, and wants to be acknowledged for working hard.

I try to show my kid when I’m trying something new, share any doubts, and share when I don’t reach the goal. I show him the process of what it means to try.
The wins and the losses.

Our culture is too danged focused on WINNING – that being 100% perfect, #1, and the BEST, is the only acceptable option.

B.S!

Moving out of your comfort zone requires us to break free from the past and old ways of perfection thinking, and push ourselves to do something we wouldn’t normally try.

But here’s the secret magic lurking just behind the fear:
often, the simple act of just trying something new can help you move out of your comfort zone.

Here are 9 simple ways to move out of your comfort zone:

9 ways
• take a cooking class
• take an art class
• volunteer for a local organization for 1 day
• take a new route to work
• say ‘Hi’ to someone new in your neighborhood or at work
• plan a trip to a new part of your city, or a place where people speak a difference language
• visit a new place of worship
• take a hike to a new park
• take the first step towards making one of your dreams a reality

Does it still feel too overwhelming? Here are some additional pointers:
• do some research on the first 2 steps needed to make one new thing happen – then act
• ask someone who has done the new thing you’re interested in about why they like it
• take a friend with you when you try a new activity or go some place new
• stop thinking of yourself as “fragile” – you are beautiful, but not a delicate flower
• call to mind a time when you did something new that was fun
• depend on yourself for your happiness, instead of others

And even if your attempt doesn’t work out the way you thought it might, it can still lead to growth and positive results. The most successful people on earth went through major failures before they became successful.

The more new things you try, the more you step out of your comfort zone, the less you’ll need  food to make you happy. The less depressed you’ll feel. The more energy you’ll have.
The more LIFE you’ll have!

What I am asking you to do is simple: do just one thing differently this week.

Your life is waiting for you, just outside your comfort food zone.

Ready to work with an experienced coach to help you

get out of your comfort zone and utterly transform your body + life?

CLICK HERE TO APPLY by June 6th for the Vitality Mentorship with Alex: 

 
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3 Confidence Boosters That Will Make You Blush

I still feel like that 12-year old girl in the back brace.

3 confidence boosters

Diagnosed with pretty major scoliosis, a curved spine,
I was given a hard plastic brace that added 1-inch to my girth, and
went around my body from below my hips up to my armpits.

For 23 hours a day, for 2 years, I wore the uncomfortable,
sweaty, bulky brace. It bit into my ribs, and rubbed red marks
into my hips.

Worse than the physical pain, I couldn’t wear any form-fitting clothes,
and had to wear bulky t-shirts and pants with elastic waist bands that
would fit over the brace.

That brace helped straighten my spine, but it made me extremely self-conscious
and chipped away at my self-confidence between the ages of 12 and 14.

It has taken years to recognize the impact of those years on my confidence,
and years of inner work to heal my relationship with my body.

From deformity to healed, from wrong and embarrassing to lovable.

Confidence. No matter what your story, we women have an especially shaky relationship with it,
and that has a huge impact on our lives and health…

our ability to ask for what we need…
our ability to speak our minds…
our power to change as we grow…
our mastery of life and skills…
our ability to reclaim our bodies as perfect, strong, and worthy of love.

How can we grow our confidence in ways that are truly empowering?
How can we have fun with something that feels so serious?

Why do I care about women’s confidence?

I started to read the applications for my Vitality Mentorship program,
and almost every woman wrote about her painful relationship with her body, food, and confidence.

And I saw that it effects everything we do, everything about our lives, what we are willing to sacrifice for…

…how we take care of ourselves,
…how we show up and share our gifts with the world,
…how long we are willing to put up with people and circumstances
that hurt us or keep us returning to comfort foods to try to manage the stress.

Confidence is like a secret nutrient of our well-being.

I’ve been consciously healing my own confidence since my early 20’s,
when I began to sense the impact of that back brace on my ability to reclaim my body as my own.

In my own way, I’ve discovered 3 easy, fun ways to begin to grow my own confidence, and I want to share them with you.

And they might make you blush!

Because in order to boost our confidence from within, have to admit our greatness, be willing to try and fail in full view of others, and claim our right to pleasure and fun!

These 3 methods have helped me see my impact on the world,
my ability to feel good no matter what weight or state my body is in,
and to have fun in my body again, which is my foundation of emotional confidence:

3 Confidence

1. PLAY:

Hula hoop, roller skates, kite flying, biking, anything that involves moving my body
in a non-competitive, skillful way, brings me confidence.

When you playfully move in your body, your state changes, your hormones reach a peak of metabolic perfection, and the benefits of moving with joy bring your body into alignment so that you can drop weight (and inflammation) with less effort…

and begin to love moving in your body more.

From dancing along with Beyonce’s backup dancers in a concert video (badly) to
strapping on my hot pink roller skates and trying to finally learn how to turn right, over and over again…
when you play to learn some new physical skill, you build a new pathway of communication and love
with your body.

This weekend I finally figured out how to roller skate and turn right – and it was glorious!

Now, it took 3 or 4 trips to the local basketball courts, countless stumbles, and hearing my
own kid giggle when I flailed wildly while trying to learn…

But finally learning something new in my body, mastering a new physical skill, reminded
me of all the things that I’ve already learned in this life.

My invitation to you:

Pick your play! What sounds fun to you?
Finally learning to throw a frisbee with bullseye accuracy?
Hula hooping in your back yard?
Trying that new dance move you saw on YouTube?
1 minute a day to practice handstands against a wall? Summer salts?

Get out and play and have fun in your body – and dance like nobody’s watching.

2. PLEASURE TIME:

If you’ve been listening to my Crave Cast podcast this month, you’ve heard my interviews
with the groundbreaking sexual health experts to bring attention to the healing powers
of “self-pleasure” or masturbation.

“Solo play,” another name for masturbation, is a highly effective way for women to balance our hormones,
release pent up stress, increase fertility, and as important…
a way for us to find out how much good we are capable of.

Sex is a part of life, but for many of us, it’s an emotional, tense, uncomfortable part of life.
I believe as we get in touch with our body’s ability to feel pleasure through solo-play, we:

– are more confident in asking for what we want, in the bedroom and out in the world
– feel more capable of getting back into the dating scene or reconnecting with our partner
– draw better boundaries for our bodies and our energy

My invitation to you:

Schedule space in your life for solo play at least once a week.
Choose a new toy or simply use your hand and some organic coconut oil.
Light a candle, take a bath, and enjoy your own playground, your body.

If you’re looking for expert advice on how to embark on a solo play ritual, check out the last four episodes of my Crave Cast:

3. THE  NEW GRATITUDE RITUAL:

Gratitude journals are nothing new – you’ve probably written down 3 things you’re grateful for
and felt pretty good about it.

But new science from the world of Positive Psychology shows us that there is a more powerful,
more beneficial way to honor what you’re grateful for.

In fact, this new way is much more empowering, and will build your confidence in short order:

My invitation to you:

Today, as a new, more powerful ritual, write down 5 things in your life that you’re grateful for –
and the role you had in making those things happen.

It’s not just about receiving good things, and having a positive periscope on the world…
…it’s about taking ownership of your impact on the world.

You need to remind yourself that you HAVE taken action that yielded positive results – and when you do it again, again and again, you will naturally grow your confidence.

Now I want to hear from you in the comments below –

How does your confidence effect your body and health?

Which of these 3 ideas will you play with this week?

Sometimes we need to borrow confidence. Getting into a community of curious change-seekers, who can offer you support in those moments when your own confidence is low, is the best way I know how to make lasting improvements to your body and life.

Applications are now available for my 4-month Vitality Mentorship program:
go here to apply by June 6th!

xo,
Alex

 
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How to finally get the motivation you want – for real

“I wish I wanted to go to the gym every day.”
“I WANT to want to have sex with my husband more.”

I’ve heard these two secret wishes a lot from my friends and clients lately.

We all have dreams, goals, desires, and life cravings.
93% of people, polled by the American Psychological Association, have some aspect of their behavior that they want to change.

And most of our goals involve improving our health, body, confidence, sleep, relationships, finances…

If so many of us want to change, in such basic, important ways, why do less than half of us maintain the changes we attempt?

Why is change so hard?

 

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Most of us blame lack of willpower when we fall short of our goals.
Many of us blame a lack of time, or not enough money when we don’t go for it.

I believe it really comes down to the clarity of your wants, the strength of your desire, the reasons for your craving.

AKA: Motivation.

There are two kinds of motivation, and one is more powerful than the other.

External motivation is when we try something to earn a reward or avoid a punishment: dropping a size so we can fit into the skinny jeans, getting a raise so you can buy the new car, going to the gym every day so we don’t get heart disease…some day.

External motivation might be enough to get you started, but it’s not enough to keep you going.

Internal motivation is the secret sauce.

Internal motivation is when you fall in love with an activity because it is rewarding to your body, life, and soul. It lights you up and makes you come alive:

It’s when you go to yoga every week because it makes you glow and feel alive.
It’s when you play a game because it really excites you.
It’s when you love your work so much you would do it for free.
It’s when you put down your phone before dinner and don’t use it all night so you can be with your honey, which brings you the intimacy and juicy fun you crave.

Here’s an exercise you can use right now to get motivated from within, and have real, lasting change:

It’s called WANTING WHAT YOU WANT TO WANT (AKA: WWYWTW).

Getting specific about your desires, setting clear goals, stating your intentions –
these are all important strategies to follow. You need a map to know where you’re going, right?

But defining a goal or desire is really clarifying “what you want.”

What do you want to be MORE motivated to do?
Or: what do you want to want?

It might sound like this: (a few examples from my own and my clients lives)

I want to want to exercise so much that it’s naturally a part of every day.
I want to want to eat green vegetables!
I want to want to go to sleep at 10 every night so I’m well rested.

This can extend to dating, relating, career, and more:

I want to want to share my paintings online…

I want to want to date so that I get out there and finally meet some cool people…

I want to want to have sex with my partner more so that we feel more connected…

I want to want to start my own coaching practice so strongly that I finally sign up for that program that would really get me started…

Right now, pick one thing you WANT to want more.

Once you’ve got one good thing that you WANT to WANT, do this:
come up with a few things that would make you want that more.

If you want to want to go to yoga twice a week, you might say:

…if I went with a friend and we had a tea date after.
…if I knew the teacher was great and played good music.
…if I had a new yoga outfit that made me feel comfortable and cute.

If you want to want to have more juicy, sexy time with your partner, you might think:

if we both put our phones and gadgets away before dinner and keep them off…
if we sat together and shared our fantasies in a safe, loving way with no agenda…
if we spent an hour apart, focusing on our own self-pleasure first, to get ready…
if I got my favorite erotica book, and he watched something that turns him on first…

That would put you into the zone of actually wanting.
Your intrinsic motivation will blossom.
You will come act, make headway, and come alive.

This positive psychology technique can help you identify strategies that boost your intrinsic, personal, soul-driven motivation.

Once you have really good reasons for WHY you want to want a new activity, food, or habit, you’ll follow through for yourself.

Confidence blooms, action is sustained, mountains move.

So now I want to hear from you:

In the comments below, share the thing you want to want.

Get clear about your desires and life cravings and WHY you might want to want them as a lovely way to grow you motivation.

I’d love to read your thoughts and desires!

xo,
Alex

P.S. I’m now accepting applications for the Vitality Mentorship program. This 4-month experience combines private sessions with me and weekly support and coaching with a group of 20 women.
 
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