My To-DON'T List

I’ll be 40 in 8 days...

And what I hear from so many women, both older + younger,is that they want to feel like they’re living their own lives.And that too often we wake up one day, or look in the mirror, and say:what am I doing?Is THIS what I want? What have I been wasting my time on? I felt that way when I realized I couldn’t trust my marriage and asked for a divorce.I felt that way when my body was breaking down and I knew I needed to eat meat again.And that feeling shows up in daily choices around how I spend my time, how I runmy business, and what I do with the finite energy I’ve got.Our deep fears keep us from sharing our quirks, truths, and following our cravings.Cravings for experiences, creation, well-being, and adventure.Fears of being publicly shamed,Fears of being selfish, being too much, being too loud,just being ourselves.And we give away our precious energy to things + people that don't really matter to us in this short life.

Creating boundaries gives us a framework in which to create our own life.

   "What you say no to is as important as what you say yes to.” Tweet this

What I WON'T do...AKA My To-DON'T List:

eat foods that drain my energy, and put me in a food comaspend more than 30 minutes on social media a daylet my phone distract me from my familyget lost in gossip magazines + reality TV (AKA the “comparison trap”)let fear get in the way of sharing my ideas with the worldwaste energy judging other womenread my book reviews onlineapologize for taking time + resources for my self careapologize for taking up spacespend time on projects that don’t serve me, my readers and listenersget lost in negative mind chatter that my body and life aren’t good enoughrespond to negative online attacks - haters gonna hate, and I don’t need to throw them any more fuelWhat I WILL do…daily yogawrite as if my soul will die if I don’t express itcook + eat foods that boost my energyget 7-9 hours of sleep a nightmeet up with at least 2 friends a weekread a new book for fun every monthget the tattoo I’ve been dreaming of, nowtake a trapeze classroller skating birthday partyfrequently initiate juicy dates with my manread and play daily with my sontake time for myself to read, walk, be in naturetake my bike for a tune up so I can ride the first nice day of springcall my Dad, brother, and Grandma regularlywrite thank you letters to all the people who helped me spread the word about Women, Food, And Desiretake hot baths and read inspiring bookstell everyone I love them any time I feel like itdraw, paint, color, and play my ukulele - and share them all with peoplegive away $100 as a family every month to awesome charities...live as if 40 were my LAST birthday, because really, who knows?I want to hear from you here in the comments below:What will you NOT do anymore?What’s NOT serving you?Make a list.Share it.I'm here to cheer you on and support your biggest vision for your life! xo, Alex